Introducing Male Stray to life inside/resident cats

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About a week ago our two cats were acting funny by our front door. My girlfriend called to me and said the cats our being strange so I told her to open the door and I bet there's a cat outside. Sure enough there he was. We had been feeding him for about a week when we decided to adopt him.

About two days ago we took him to a local shelter and had him neutered, rabies vaccine, FIV vaccine, distemper, and flea treatment. We currently have him set up in a spare bedroom with all the essentials: food, water,litter box, scratch post, window to look outside and there is also a feliway diffuser plugged in his room. When he is in his "saferoom" he is so well behaved and uses the litter box without problem. We started putting our other two cats in their room and allowing our new cat, Dexter, to get familiar with the house. The only problem is he walks around the house and pees in boxes and on rugs. I'm guessing to mark his territory, or perhaps from stress. The shelter estimated his age at around two years old which I know is not ideal for a cat to be neutered after he has reached maturity because spraying and urine marking maybe ingrained in his behavior by now.

I expected there to be some adjustment period for everyone involved but I'm not sure how to get him used to the house and our other two cats without him peeing on everything he comes across. He also licks his testicles (What's left of them) a good amount of the time. Could he have a UTI? I'm not exactly how to proceed from here. He seems content hanging in his room and is happy there. I was thinking about possibly moving the feliway diffuser to the parts of the house he has peed and perhaps adding a few more. I just feel bad keeping him confined to one room all day. We both stop in and sit with him and pet him when we can and he really enjoys it. Any advice on how to proceed would be appreciated.
 

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About a week ago our two cats were acting funny by our front door. My girlfriend called to me and said the cats our being strange so I told her to open the door and I bet there's a cat outside. Sure enough there he was. We had been feeding him for about a week when we decided to adopt him.

About two days ago we took him to a local shelter and had him neutered, rabies vaccine, FIV vaccine, distemper, and flea treatment. We currently have him set up in a spare bedroom with all the essentials: food, water,litter box, scratch post, window to look outside and there is also a feliway diffuser plugged in his room. When he is in his "saferoom" he is so well behaved and uses the litter box without problem. We started putting our other two cats in their room and allowing our new cat, Dexter, to get familiar with the house. The only problem is he walks around the house and pees in boxes and on rugs. I'm guessing to mark his territory, or perhaps from stress. The shelter estimated his age at around two years old which I know is not ideal for a cat to be neutered after he has reached maturity because spraying and urine marking maybe ingrained in his behavior by now.

I expected there to be some adjustment period for everyone involved but I'm not sure how to get him used to the house and our other two cats without him peeing on everything he comes across. He also licks his testicles (What's left of them) a good amount of the time. Could he have a UTI? I'm not exactly how to proceed from here. He seems content hanging in his room and is happy there. I was thinking about possibly moving the feliway diffuser to the parts of the house he has peed and perhaps adding a few more. I just feel bad keeping him confined to one room all day. We both stop in and sit with him and pet him when we can and he really enjoys it. Any advice on how to proceed would be appreciated.
He is very fresh after his spaying.  So all the old instincts, and almost all his hormones, are still it.   This is of course a big part of the spraying.  It should get better with time.   Although, as you say, he is neutered late, so some rest of the sprying behavior may be left.

By the same reason - neutered just a couple of Days,  dont let him meet your residents for at least two weeks more.   And do closely supervise! The risk is big he will beat them up.

Shy and timid toms dont do that.  they are submissive to the residents, and is anxious to be friends with them.

But territtorial, dominat toms often may.   Observe, such a tom is often friendly to humans, even submissive.

So be careful, and take the meeting procedure slowly and safe.

What bothers me, your residents now got their own territory in- peed by a fertile tom whom they dont know.  Or rather, even worse,  whom is just behind one door away...

Wash out the peed places, use also such a modern enzyme based pee cleaner.

Be very mammy to them. and perhaps have Feliway for THEM  -

Remember - in conflict situations you must support them.  He is a newbe, he understands he is an underdog here.  He will be happy for almost anything.   but they will be seriously hurt in their feelings, if you support the newcomer actively against them...

What bothers m
 
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StefanZ StefanZ I appreciate the post. Our new Tom, Dexter, definitely falls into the category of timid. He has shown zero signs of aggression to myself or the resident cats. Like you said he is anxious to be friends. We put face to face visits on hold for a while and we were only letting Dexter roam the house when the other two were confined. Luckily everywhere he peed was on things that can be removed. Our residents cats love boxes, as do most cats, but he peed in a few boxes and on a welcome mat all of which we just threw away so we were fortunate in that aspect. I've been thinking about trying to feed them on either side of the door so they will associate each other's smells with a pleasant activity. I know this will take sometime for everyone involved. I am an anxious person so I'm ready for us to be one big happy family but I know it takes time. I just really hope the peeing subsides and remains in the litter box only.
 
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