help my kitten hurts me

Chewee is around 5 months and im at the end of my fuse. I have tried everything to get him to stop biting and kicking at me. He knocks things of shelves constantly and he only does this at night. He is perfectly healthy but walks around meowing all the time. When i go to bed he usually lays on my bed, but recently he has been running around and if i try to kinda hold him to calm him down he will kick and bite me really hard. Ive tried tapping him on the nose, telling him no, not paying attention to him, and even got a plug in with calming stuff in it. He has plenty of toys and gets plenty of attention. He has recently just gotten me to the point of getting rid of him. He isnt neutered only because my local vet wont do it until hes 6 months or over.
Somebody help.. is this behavior normal.. what else can i do i cannot take it anymore and i dont want to have to get rid of him...

Kittens as kids have hard fases. You're frustrated and tired. Breathe and try to calm yourself a bit.

Kittens are balls of energy.  And they are nocturnal creatures. Ence the crazy activity at night. 

Do you have a tree he can climb? Cats like to look at things from above. If the only space he has are your shelves, he will used them and accidentaly through stuff down.

Vocalization is a matter of luck. Some cats are very vocal, some are not. Bruce only stops meowing when he's a sleep or eating. In the beggining it was strange, but we got used to it. He has diferent 'voices' for different things. Now I now when he's calling me or just meowing because he's having fun with a toy. And he meows at night to (I fear my neighbours will kill me soon).

For the bitting, you can find plenty of answers here, explaining techniques to help your kitty learn no to hurt you. It can be done.

But I won't kid you, sometimes they put us through hell. My 8 months old does not let us sleep past 5am. We're handling it. Trying new techniques everyday so he gets used to our routine. He will grow out of it, and if not, we'll adapt to waking up at 5.  

And it's just one more month till is neutered. He will calm down considerably after that.

Best of luck, and keep us informed!

That's a hard spot to be in. In Phoenix different clinics would have different rules for their sterilizations and it was either the 2lb/2mo rule or 3lb/3mo. Options were a dedicated spay neuter chain that does basically just the service and vaccines. The humane society was also around to help. I've never taken my pet to a full service veterinary office to get fixed. I gave mom $100 when she got her new dog to go get his neuter. 
It's just one more month, but if you wanted to check out this resource, they may have another option for you. http://spaywv.org/clinic-find

Chewee is around 5 months and im at the end of my fuse. I have tried everything to get him to stop biting and kicking at me. 

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I don't understand how he kicks you. Perhaps you could get a stuffed toy, my kittens loved kickaroos and those kong toys with the 'tentacles', they are wonderful to bite into and cats love to bunny kick them. Keep it around and grab it to distract him when he's biting or kicking. 

He knocks things of shelves constantly and he only does this at night. 

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Kittens are literally baby cats, the same rules that apply to toddlers applies to them. Place your valuables out of his reach and take things that he can reach from the shelves.

Jackson Galaxy has a great vid on youtube called "train your cat to let you sleep". It's about putting your cat onto the same circadian rhythm as you have so that he sleeps at night. I've done it and it worked for me after only four days or so. Some cats may need more time.  

When i go to bed he usually lays on my bed, but recently he has been running around and if i try to kinda hold him to calm him down he will kick and bite me really hard. 

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Some cats don't like to be held, mine don't. 

If you feel the need to get rid of him, give him or sell him to someone who you are confident can look after him properly, or do your research and place him in a no kill shelter while he's still a kitten. Once he's a cat he'll have much less chance of being adopted. 

Also when you get him neutered, it takes 6-8 weeks for the hormones to subside a bit. Can you close the bedroom door at night? I have to put Lewis out of the bedroom at 5am (he is 5 1/2 months old) as he starts the am crazys. Lewis likes to play bite and kick with his back legs. They outgrow it but it may take a year or so.

chewee2016
The hormones will take 3-4 weeks to clear his system after neutering, not 6-8 weeks

foxden said:

@chewee2016
The hormones will take 3-4 weeks to clear his system after neutering, not 6-8 weeks

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"Six to eight weeks," is generally accepted:

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1CatOverTheLine said:

"Six to eight weeks," is generally accepted:

https://www.google.com/search?q=hor...t+6+to+8+weeks+for+the+hormones+to+subside"&*

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thanks for correcting that

Kittens, especially if Chewee is a Ragdoll or Himalayan, crave interaction and attention. I know you say he has a lot of toys but do you actually have a dedicated play time? Many of the pointed cats are extremely interactive and need established times that they have play time with a human (or another cat) on a daily basis. When my Link, a siamese mix, was a kitten I would come home from work and spend at least an hour (sometines two) sitting on the floor and playing with him. I was his jungle gym and buddy. I might put on a movie that I watched during that time or some music but most of the time my focus was on him. My goal was tire him out and he often fell asleep on me. I'd eat dinner while he slept and we would have a shorter play time before I went to sleep for the night. It is not enough for most pointed cats to have petting or sitting on a lap (passive attention) they absolutely need interactive play on a regular schedule or they lash out.

Which brings me to another piece of advice. A schedule. A schedule is a vital tool to you sleeping and your cats good behavior. The key though is it must be a schedule you maintain regardless of the day of the week. I frequently get up at 5am on weekends to say good morning and do our short morning routine. I often fall back asleep after breakfast though. In the evenings I get into bed around the same time every day of the week. If I don't want to sleep quiet yet I read a book or watch something but I am quietly in bed. My cats are older and play with each other but when it was just Link we had play time every morning and evening. My evenings have the same routine of slowly turning off lights, brushing teethn and going to bed. Consistency tells the cats what is expected of them. Mine know that at a certain point they won't get a response out of me and have adjusted to my schedule.

The kicking and biting you are seeing is likely play agression of him trying to get you to play. Which means up your interactive play (use toys not hands) and that should stop. Do a strict schedule during the day of all your activities and interactions with him. Figure out something to signal bed time to him. Feeding dinner, you brushing teeth, him getting brushed, something that signals sleep and do it every single night at the same time. Once you are in bed you stop moving and don't respond to him. Ever. Not even to say no or anything. He bites in bed, you cover and don't move (moving shows he gets a reaction and makes it a game).

It will be hard but once both of you are on the same page it will pay off.

@chewee2016   I agree with @Kieka  that cats crave routine.  They like to know where the boundaries lay.  They are so much happier knowing what is expected of them and when it's teatime, playtime, lounging about time, bedtime, etc.  Breakfast time is usually at their insistence at the crack of dawn, however.  But this can be swerved by the use of a battery automatic feeder set to just before the time he usually wakes you, he'll soon cotton on to waiting for the feeder to ping open and not bother with you.  Either that, or you simply get used to getting up at 5am, zombielike, feeding, then going straight back to bed in a haze, without uttering a word.

However, to retrain him out of his nighttime naughtiness requires you to completely ignore him for as long as it takes.  This is incredibly difficult to do but it is the only way.  He's got into the habit of attention seeking by booting things off shelves and generally getting up to mischief.  And you then give him the attention he's looking for, be that positively by talking and petting, or negatively by shouting and bopping him on the nose.  Attention is attention, it doesn't matter in what form he gains it.  Persist in your ignoring him, it will take time and a great deal of patience.  Keep a water squirter handy by your bed for the occasional squirt out of the blue when he's caught in the middle of the act.  Then go straight back to ignoring him.  I just squirted my cat, Dudley, one time only as he was starting to scratch at the frays on the edge of the carpet in order to get my attention.  The second time, I merely lifted the squirter and he ran away in horror.  I haven't had to even lift it since, and this was a couple of months ago.  I've twice shut him out of my room and put my headphones on for ten minutes or so.  I could hear him ratting at the door but I ignored him.  When I opened the door I continued to ignore him, so he curled up on my bed and went happily to sleep.  We haven't had any more problems, apart from him chewing through all my charger cables, and the odd swift scratch, which I respond to with a disapproving look, or reach in the direction the squirter was located, and he gives up.  This is because I stepped in right at the beginning as soon as the first whiff of a behavioural issue started.  Because you've let this go on for a while, it will take a while to reverse.  

Deep breaths and good luck. 

I've been putting a lot of work into Dudley since this first instance of a hint of behavioural problems.  Playing with some new toys, valerian-ing, brushing, I got him a treat toy thingamabob, and really "listening" to his needs.  It's really paying off and he's shaping himself to me and my routine, and is super well-behaved.  But as I said, I've managed to nip it in the bud.  Touch wood.