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Hi everyone! I haven't been on much for a week but I need to share what happened with my cat this past weekend before going on to discuss my topics of traveling and clapping. This was so upsetting to me.
This post might be a bit length so my apologies in advance but I do appreciate everyone's support and feedback
This weekend Kaleb and I weren't home but with my fiance in his apartment and I wasn't really watching Kaleb. I was busy online checking emails the previous night and also had to do some shopping the next afternoon and wound up being longer than expected. Before I went shopping that day as I was just leaving my fiance called me back from the door and pointed out that Kaleb had messed on the carpet and was wiping his butt along the carpet. At first I thought he was just stressed because of traveling to my fiance's (it will be at least a year before we move into a bigger place together and I'd still like all three of us to be together) . I've been sensitive to Kaleb's behavior making note of if any changes occur in case he doesn't like being in a new environment on regular occasions. But I always check his poop to keep check to make sure that he's processing his food well and that his digestive system is ok and when I did I found a pretty sizable piece of plastic with a sharp end on it. I mean, it was a hunk! I was immediately relieved that it passed through but SO upset and feeling SO guilty for not having swept the floors as soon as I got in. If I lived there the floors would have more attention but my fiance works and is older than me and usually tired. He also lives with his nephew which is why I wont move in. So with two men who love to cook and who both work the place isn't spic and span. The first weekend I had Kaleb there I did a thorough dusting of the place because I know cats tend to have allergies and sensitive respiratory systems (as do both Christopher and I) and the dust was an inch thick. It looks much better and is safer for him but I just couldn't believe my eyes when I saw this white pointy chunk in my baby's poo. All day, night, and into the next day I was super edgy and worried something else might pass.
The plastic was on the kitchen floor along with the floor being dirty and I found old food. It's really not my responsibility in the first place to make their apartment livable but now I consider that it is because both my kitten and ME are staying there once a week. If it weren't for Kaleb I'd leave it up to them.
Oh yes, and I added pumpkin to his next meal to make sure he hadn't eaten anything else he shouldn't have. The pumpkin really gave him a nicely formed poop and I will be giving it to him more often.
I noticed his belly rumbles a lot so he could have more bouts of gas than most cats or maybe even upset tummy. I've also decided to lengthen the period of time that he eats a particular flavor of food. I think that may have been the cause of the rumbles.
On to Part Two !!!
My fiance Christopher brought it to my attention SEVERAL times the past week that I really should be setting reasonable boundaries so that Kaleb knows what he should and should not do. I guess I've been too lenient and have been giving Kaleb too much allowance on tables, sniffing things, etc. I'm probably too timid and afraid he's more sensitive than he really is and telling him "no" would be a good idea when he's up on shelves or tables he shouldn't be or on/in places where there's always stuff that needs to be set down. I kinda thought that he is going to do it anyway when I'm not home and that there is no real way to prevent that from happening because , well .. cats will be cats.
But NOW I realize that behaviors should be noticed and even if he's wandering aimlessly looking for things to get into a gentle way of telling him no wouldn't be a bad idea. Other than that I have to watch for candles and drinks when he's poking around. Over the first night I was at my fiance's with him he was super curious and climbing on the tables and Chris noticed the little one getting into my drink. When "NO!" didn't work (and my fiance was frustrated at this point so his no wasn't quite so gentle) he clapped and Kaleb went flying off the table into the other room. I didn't like that it startled him and maybe I'm just super sensitive to how he might feel when he's reprimanded but to me at the time I thought my fiance's clapping was a little harsh. Although I made the mistake once of scruffing Kaleb, I immediately felt like I betrayed him and his trust and decided to never do that again. I hadn't thought out precisely how I was going to handle situations like walking on keyboards and I've read that scruffing is okay but its not. Maybe I was just used to doing it because I had ferrets at one time. But I am not one who believes in reinforcing negative behavior by doing something that would disrupt the bonding patterns between you and your cat or cause any changes in the cat's generally happy personality. This is what I fear when Christopher says clapping is the only way and that he absolutely just MUST have boundaries and know and learn that there are some things he just can not do. I did rethink it and pretty much feel that clapping would be safe, and surely better than scruffing but I wanted to get everyone's expert opinions and to also ask how do you all feel about traveling one day a week and to ask if that's something you also do.
Any behavior reinforcement, or milder punishment forms as suggestions are also welcomed and appreciated.
::WHEW!::: this post happens to be longer than I thought it would be!
Again I'm sorry and hope to hear your responses.....
Have a nice week and enjoy your furbabies !!!!
This post might be a bit length so my apologies in advance but I do appreciate everyone's support and feedback
This weekend Kaleb and I weren't home but with my fiance in his apartment and I wasn't really watching Kaleb. I was busy online checking emails the previous night and also had to do some shopping the next afternoon and wound up being longer than expected. Before I went shopping that day as I was just leaving my fiance called me back from the door and pointed out that Kaleb had messed on the carpet and was wiping his butt along the carpet. At first I thought he was just stressed because of traveling to my fiance's (it will be at least a year before we move into a bigger place together and I'd still like all three of us to be together) . I've been sensitive to Kaleb's behavior making note of if any changes occur in case he doesn't like being in a new environment on regular occasions. But I always check his poop to keep check to make sure that he's processing his food well and that his digestive system is ok and when I did I found a pretty sizable piece of plastic with a sharp end on it. I mean, it was a hunk! I was immediately relieved that it passed through but SO upset and feeling SO guilty for not having swept the floors as soon as I got in. If I lived there the floors would have more attention but my fiance works and is older than me and usually tired. He also lives with his nephew which is why I wont move in. So with two men who love to cook and who both work the place isn't spic and span. The first weekend I had Kaleb there I did a thorough dusting of the place because I know cats tend to have allergies and sensitive respiratory systems (as do both Christopher and I) and the dust was an inch thick. It looks much better and is safer for him but I just couldn't believe my eyes when I saw this white pointy chunk in my baby's poo. All day, night, and into the next day I was super edgy and worried something else might pass.
The plastic was on the kitchen floor along with the floor being dirty and I found old food. It's really not my responsibility in the first place to make their apartment livable but now I consider that it is because both my kitten and ME are staying there once a week. If it weren't for Kaleb I'd leave it up to them.
Oh yes, and I added pumpkin to his next meal to make sure he hadn't eaten anything else he shouldn't have. The pumpkin really gave him a nicely formed poop and I will be giving it to him more often.
I noticed his belly rumbles a lot so he could have more bouts of gas than most cats or maybe even upset tummy. I've also decided to lengthen the period of time that he eats a particular flavor of food. I think that may have been the cause of the rumbles.
On to Part Two !!!
My fiance Christopher brought it to my attention SEVERAL times the past week that I really should be setting reasonable boundaries so that Kaleb knows what he should and should not do. I guess I've been too lenient and have been giving Kaleb too much allowance on tables, sniffing things, etc. I'm probably too timid and afraid he's more sensitive than he really is and telling him "no" would be a good idea when he's up on shelves or tables he shouldn't be or on/in places where there's always stuff that needs to be set down. I kinda thought that he is going to do it anyway when I'm not home and that there is no real way to prevent that from happening because , well .. cats will be cats.
But NOW I realize that behaviors should be noticed and even if he's wandering aimlessly looking for things to get into a gentle way of telling him no wouldn't be a bad idea. Other than that I have to watch for candles and drinks when he's poking around. Over the first night I was at my fiance's with him he was super curious and climbing on the tables and Chris noticed the little one getting into my drink. When "NO!" didn't work (and my fiance was frustrated at this point so his no wasn't quite so gentle) he clapped and Kaleb went flying off the table into the other room. I didn't like that it startled him and maybe I'm just super sensitive to how he might feel when he's reprimanded but to me at the time I thought my fiance's clapping was a little harsh. Although I made the mistake once of scruffing Kaleb, I immediately felt like I betrayed him and his trust and decided to never do that again. I hadn't thought out precisely how I was going to handle situations like walking on keyboards and I've read that scruffing is okay but its not. Maybe I was just used to doing it because I had ferrets at one time. But I am not one who believes in reinforcing negative behavior by doing something that would disrupt the bonding patterns between you and your cat or cause any changes in the cat's generally happy personality. This is what I fear when Christopher says clapping is the only way and that he absolutely just MUST have boundaries and know and learn that there are some things he just can not do. I did rethink it and pretty much feel that clapping would be safe, and surely better than scruffing but I wanted to get everyone's expert opinions and to also ask how do you all feel about traveling one day a week and to ask if that's something you also do.
Any behavior reinforcement, or milder punishment forms as suggestions are also welcomed and appreciated.
::WHEW!::: this post happens to be longer than I thought it would be!
Have a nice week and enjoy your furbabies !!!!