|Originally posted by 9Katz1Poodle
Jillian, can I ask you a ?? since you are catholic. My SIL is engaged to a cath. guy and she is jewish. She is convinced she will get married in the cath. church ! I don't think it's allowed ! CAn you settle this argument once and for all ?
She wants to bring a rabbi, chuppah, etc. !
Years ago, I attended a wedding between a Catholic girl and a Jewish fellow. I cannot physically recall what type of facility they were being married in, but they did have a chuppah set up. They were supposed to be married by a rabbi & a priest. The rabbi first called and said that he was running late, then called again and said he wouldn't get there on time. So, the priest winged it, with a little help from the boy's grandfather, who got up and said a prayer in Hebrew. The priest used the word 'God' rather than anything else. It turned out to be a very nice ceremony, since the grandfather was far more touching than an out of town rabbi would have been. The groom's mother was very angry however with the rabbi, and started watching wedding annoncements in the paper and found a few more interfaith services where he was listed as an officient. She found out that he had backed out at the last minute in the other cases as well, so she assumed he was doing this on purpose.
I assume that if they have a reformed rabbi and a priest willing to do the marriage it won't be a problem. Priests can marry whomever they want to up to a certain latitude (such as 2 divorced people.)They one thing that they should verify is where the wedding can be held. Technically, Catholics are supposed to get married in church, I think. They might need a dispensation to be married someplace else, like a hotel.
I have friends who told their Parish priest that they weren't planning to have kids and he refused to marry them. Another priest in the Parish wasn't concerned about it and did marry them. They eventually did have 2 kids lol.