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My best fur-friend of almost 17 years passed away a few months ago. My apartment has been lonely ever since. I would look online at the humane society often and this past weekend, decided I needed to go in and see how I felt about some of the cats. I met one and instantly loved her. She's beautiful, sweet, and loving 4 yr old cat. She gave me kisses right away. I took her home the next day. I tend to get anxious about big decisions, but was excited and proud of myself for taking a step forward.
Two days later, I am considering taking her back. I have been sick to my stomach and constantly worrying that I made the wrong the decision, that I really am not ready and won't be able to bond with her the way she is bonding with me. She seems to already be comfortable and making herself at home. I absolutely hate that I have these feelings and I don't want to put her through anymore stress, but I feel if I don't come down from this stress soon - I am going to have to return her.
When I think about keeping her, I feel very overwhelmed. When I think about returning her so that another family can give her all the love she deserves, I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
Is this my love for my old furbaby that is causing me this disconnect or is this a common grief issue that can be gotten through? I was really thinking I was ready to welcome a new friend into my home to bring a little love and cuddliness. She really, so far, is exactly what I would imagine my next companion to be. But there is this gut feeling that it's just not the time.
I feel ridiculous and embarrassed that I feel this way and that I might have made such an irresponsible decision.
Two days later, I am considering taking her back. I have been sick to my stomach and constantly worrying that I made the wrong the decision, that I really am not ready and won't be able to bond with her the way she is bonding with me. She seems to already be comfortable and making herself at home. I absolutely hate that I have these feelings and I don't want to put her through anymore stress, but I feel if I don't come down from this stress soon - I am going to have to return her.
When I think about keeping her, I feel very overwhelmed. When I think about returning her so that another family can give her all the love she deserves, I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
Is this my love for my old furbaby that is causing me this disconnect or is this a common grief issue that can be gotten through? I was really thinking I was ready to welcome a new friend into my home to bring a little love and cuddliness. She really, so far, is exactly what I would imagine my next companion to be. But there is this gut feeling that it's just not the time.
I feel ridiculous and embarrassed that I feel this way and that I might have made such an irresponsible decision.