My wife and I have a cat (5 years) who has grown up to be a great (but antisocial) cat. Very quiet, clean, and she occasionally likes to snuggle or sleep with us.
Recently we adopted a new kitten. For a while we kept him in a separate bathroom to introduce them slowly. But even when we went through the usual steps (moving food bowls, scent swapping, scene swapping, toy distraction, food reinforcement, treat reinforcement, etc), it didn't really matter: The old cat would always hiss and growl and occasionally lunge at the new kitten behind the door / gate / etc.
Things eventually got a little better, but this was like 1.5 months later. We eventually introduced them to the same space, and for the most part things are okay. But there are also several problems:
1. The new kitten (who is now probably halfway there to being a cat?) is a whirlwind. He's constantly getting into stuff, constantly knocking stuff over, always hyper, always hungry, and super noisy. If you leave him alone or put him in the bathroom, he just howls and howls and howls. He stops eventually but then if you make a noise, he starts up again.
2. The cats won't really leave each other alone. When the new cat gets near the older cat, the older cat starts growling and occasionally hissing. From time to time the new cat will butt-wiggle and lunge at her (playfully), but then that leads to a super noisy cat-fight (100% of the noise coming from the old cat, who is shrieking and meowing, MEOOOW##(*($*#$*(#@$). She doesn't realize he's just trying to play with her, but she hates it. When he attacks her, he's trying to play. When she attacks him, it's because she feels threatened and wants him to go away.
3. Whenever he attacks her like this I immediately go try to intercept him to put him back in the bathroom for a timeout. He usually knows when I stand up and come for him after he does this, what I'm about to do, so he tries to run and hide under the couch so I can't catch him.
4. I don't understand why he doesn't just *stop attacking her* if he knows I'm going to put him in the bathroom for a while.
All in all, a little frustrated. I don't know how to get the new cat to jut *calm down* and stop trying to be such an antagonist all the time. I worry they just don't like each other, period, and will never get along.
It would be nice if I could at least get them to stop lunging at each other, at the very least!
Recently we adopted a new kitten. For a while we kept him in a separate bathroom to introduce them slowly. But even when we went through the usual steps (moving food bowls, scent swapping, scene swapping, toy distraction, food reinforcement, treat reinforcement, etc), it didn't really matter: The old cat would always hiss and growl and occasionally lunge at the new kitten behind the door / gate / etc.
Things eventually got a little better, but this was like 1.5 months later. We eventually introduced them to the same space, and for the most part things are okay. But there are also several problems:
1. The new kitten (who is now probably halfway there to being a cat?) is a whirlwind. He's constantly getting into stuff, constantly knocking stuff over, always hyper, always hungry, and super noisy. If you leave him alone or put him in the bathroom, he just howls and howls and howls. He stops eventually but then if you make a noise, he starts up again.
2. The cats won't really leave each other alone. When the new cat gets near the older cat, the older cat starts growling and occasionally hissing. From time to time the new cat will butt-wiggle and lunge at her (playfully), but then that leads to a super noisy cat-fight (100% of the noise coming from the old cat, who is shrieking and meowing, MEOOOW##(*($*#$*(#@$). She doesn't realize he's just trying to play with her, but she hates it. When he attacks her, he's trying to play. When she attacks him, it's because she feels threatened and wants him to go away.
3. Whenever he attacks her like this I immediately go try to intercept him to put him back in the bathroom for a timeout. He usually knows when I stand up and come for him after he does this, what I'm about to do, so he tries to run and hide under the couch so I can't catch him.
4. I don't understand why he doesn't just *stop attacking her* if he knows I'm going to put him in the bathroom for a while.
All in all, a little frustrated. I don't know how to get the new cat to jut *calm down* and stop trying to be such an antagonist all the time. I worry they just don't like each other, period, and will never get along.
It would be nice if I could at least get them to stop lunging at each other, at the very least!