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A bit of background, I live with my parents. They are retired and gone for a month at a time several times a year so it is easier and makes more sense to live with them. I take care of things while they are gone, we get along and I am not paying rent somewhere else just to have to come back when they are gone. My brother and his wife rent their granny house to run a home business out of (LuLaRoe) and are over frequently too.
Obviously, we have three cats. My brother and his wife have a cat and two pitbulls. When one of the dogs was a puppy it was allowed over but it ended up causing havoc for our cats and my SIL didn't clean up after it so no more dogs. Add on that my Mom is very particular about her yard and was featured in a local gardening magazine so she doesn't want a dog messing things up. My parents have told them multiple times that the dogs are not allowed at our house.
A few days before Christmas my Aunts husband died. She came down for Christmas and brought her dog so she wouldn't be alone. That day the dog was allowed in the house in a crate and the backyard and the cats were locked in the master bedroom to prevent any incidents. I guess that my SIL decided that meant she could bring dogs over.
So my parents are off on a trip and they came to the house with one of their dogs Saturday. To say I was upset when I looked in the backyard and saw a pitbull running around would be an understatement. I said "why is your dog running loose in the yard?" and my brother claimed her leash wasn't properly attached so she got loose. I didn't go out myself to grab the dog (her name is really hard to spell so just saying the dog for simplicity) because I knew all the cats were sleeping inside at the time so no immediate problem. He went back there and put the dog in the granny house with my SIL.
The dog ended up staying in the granny house for the rest of the day with my SIL while my brother took my niece to a birthday party. I couldn't reach my parents to find out if they okayed the dog so I didn't say anything else.
Later in the day I was sitting on the porch reading when my brother brought the dog out to pee. It was on leash and I told him Link was behind him by the orange tree. My brother yelled at me that I was overreacting and he had the leash so there was no harm.
Link is a protective 13 pound leggy cat (he doesn't fit under chairs without ducking and can stand on his hind legs and reach countertops). If Rocket had been outside I would have been worried because Link is protective of her. As it was I was just letting my brother know with the idea that if the dog lunged at Link my brother would know to hold the leash tight in that direction. That dog is fairly good with their cat but has chased their cat before and has problems with random cats when taken for walks.
Plus Link is still recovering from his broken leg and multiple surgeries so I am worried about stress on him; he is doing pretty good but stills has a limp. I watched until the dog was back in the granny house to just see how Link reacted and make sure everything was okay. The whole time my brother was giving me a hard time that I didn't trust him, his dog wouldn't do anything and he had the leash. It's not that I don't trust my brother but his idea of fine and mine tend to differ. I didn't respond to him because he was in one of those not listening to me anyways moods. Link snuck closer to the dog and ran off poofed up when the dog turned towards him. Link came to me next and glared at the dog until it was back in the granny house.
After they left the other two cats came out of the house and smelled everything but everything was back to normal Sunday. So no lasting effect. My parents were beyond upset about the whole thing when they got ahold of me later. To the degree that they are considering evicting the business from the granny house. They feel it is disrespectful of my brother and SIL to bring over the dog when they have always been told no before and feel they were purposefully disobeying their wishes just because they were out of town.
My question is, did I overreact in telling my brother where Link was when he came out? Was it wrong to watch what happened while the dog was out?
A bit of background, I live with my parents. They are retired and gone for a month at a time several times a year so it is easier and makes more sense to live with them. I take care of things while they are gone, we get along and I am not paying rent somewhere else just to have to come back when they are gone. My brother and his wife rent their granny house to run a home business out of (LuLaRoe) and are over frequently too.
Obviously, we have three cats. My brother and his wife have a cat and two pitbulls. When one of the dogs was a puppy it was allowed over but it ended up causing havoc for our cats and my SIL didn't clean up after it so no more dogs. Add on that my Mom is very particular about her yard and was featured in a local gardening magazine so she doesn't want a dog messing things up. My parents have told them multiple times that the dogs are not allowed at our house.
A few days before Christmas my Aunts husband died. She came down for Christmas and brought her dog so she wouldn't be alone. That day the dog was allowed in the house in a crate and the backyard and the cats were locked in the master bedroom to prevent any incidents. I guess that my SIL decided that meant she could bring dogs over.
So my parents are off on a trip and they came to the house with one of their dogs Saturday. To say I was upset when I looked in the backyard and saw a pitbull running around would be an understatement. I said "why is your dog running loose in the yard?" and my brother claimed her leash wasn't properly attached so she got loose. I didn't go out myself to grab the dog (her name is really hard to spell so just saying the dog for simplicity) because I knew all the cats were sleeping inside at the time so no immediate problem. He went back there and put the dog in the granny house with my SIL.
The dog ended up staying in the granny house for the rest of the day with my SIL while my brother took my niece to a birthday party. I couldn't reach my parents to find out if they okayed the dog so I didn't say anything else.
Later in the day I was sitting on the porch reading when my brother brought the dog out to pee. It was on leash and I told him Link was behind him by the orange tree. My brother yelled at me that I was overreacting and he had the leash so there was no harm.
Link is a protective 13 pound leggy cat (he doesn't fit under chairs without ducking and can stand on his hind legs and reach countertops). If Rocket had been outside I would have been worried because Link is protective of her. As it was I was just letting my brother know with the idea that if the dog lunged at Link my brother would know to hold the leash tight in that direction. That dog is fairly good with their cat but has chased their cat before and has problems with random cats when taken for walks.
Plus Link is still recovering from his broken leg and multiple surgeries so I am worried about stress on him; he is doing pretty good but stills has a limp. I watched until the dog was back in the granny house to just see how Link reacted and make sure everything was okay. The whole time my brother was giving me a hard time that I didn't trust him, his dog wouldn't do anything and he had the leash. It's not that I don't trust my brother but his idea of fine and mine tend to differ. I didn't respond to him because he was in one of those not listening to me anyways moods. Link snuck closer to the dog and ran off poofed up when the dog turned towards him. Link came to me next and glared at the dog until it was back in the granny house.
After they left the other two cats came out of the house and smelled everything but everything was back to normal Sunday. So no lasting effect. My parents were beyond upset about the whole thing when they got ahold of me later. To the degree that they are considering evicting the business from the granny house. They feel it is disrespectful of my brother and SIL to bring over the dog when they have always been told no before and feel they were purposefully disobeying their wishes just because they were out of town.
My question is, did I overreact in telling my brother where Link was when he came out? Was it wrong to watch what happened while the dog was out?
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