Tuly is a feral that was friendly. I brought her in about 2 months ago because she was being chased by a new male. She was in my bedroom for a month mostly hiding. She finally started coming up on the bed with me. About a month ago I brought her out to the "front" of the condo with the other 6 cats. She had already met them - playing "paws" under the door, and they had come into the room from time to time. She has mostly been hiding.
She has started getting up on the mantle which is next to a window. But in the morning when I come out, she would run and hide.
This morning I came out and she stayed out. I usually have coffee and cereal while watching the news in the morning. I usually have coffee in one hand and the laser or Da Bird in the other. This morning Tuly came over and played with Da Bird! One of the other cats, Deja, kept jumping in but Tuly did not run - she just stayed and watched. And when I brought out the laser, she jumped on it! She and Deja were both chasing it.
She stayed out while I was going in and out of the room. I am counting that as progress. I was getting discouraged because she seemed so scared and was hiding. I know it can take months to socialize a feral, but sometimes I just feel so sorry for her being so scared. But this morning I am hopeful that she has taken a big step forward. Also, my husband said that in the evening after I had gone to bed, she came up to him on the couch and let him pet her a couple times. So I guess we are making progress, it is just slow.
I just try to remember an old post that I saw that said " We are not going anywhere, and the cat is not going anywhere, so it does not matter how long it takes".