Almost ready to give up :(

I've made several threads here, and I'm afraid I'm getting saddened by my cat. I know the circumstances because he isn't neutered, (patiently waiting for march 1st) but I feel like I'm not doing a good job of being an owner I'm very overwhelmed.
I have taken all of your advice but what I do doesn't seem to be working. I don't like for him to bite me at all and he keeps doing it and playing very aggressively. He chases me everywhere when he's over stimulated from playing and bite me I guess when he wants to play, which doesn't hurt when he does it to my leg but it does when he does it to my hand. He keeps hunting my feet as well every time I go up the stairs.
I guess Maybe I don't have enough toys to entertain him with, but th biting makes me very uncomfortable because I never know when it will happen. Plus when I look at him certain ways or at times, he will stare me down start to chase me or bite and play with me uninvited. he never attacks me if he chases but I still don't like it.

Redirecting, hissing and a stern no just doesn't seem to phase him, he doesn't stop.

On top of that I feel very bad that I cannot sleep with him in the room we keep him in at night, every time we lock him in for bed he meows very loudly and keeps the house up. I feel like it's rather impossible because he keeps me up and dosent let me sleep. I work overnight and when I come home I'm extremely tired. When I have off days I'm also extremely tired. I try to play with him as long as I can and when I get too tired I go to my room to try and sleep and he comes and howls and howls and howls when I won't let him in which keeps me up. He howls when I close the bathroom door to shower on top of howling all day calling out for a female

Plus my parents are becoming extremely frustrated because he keeps urinating everywhere :/ It's beginning to be very stressful. He can't come into our rooms anymore because of this.
I know you all say that once he gets neutered this behavior will cease, but what if some of what he does continues? I just need more advice and encouragement right now. I didn't know it would be this hard to train and keep good care of a cat

Neutering really will will greatly reduce the spraying/urination and aggression levels, and the sooner you do it, the more effective it will be. if it is a money issue, most places have low cost spay and neuter clinics available (mine had a drive where they did them for $15, for example.)

Sargon said:

Neutering really will will greatly reduce the spraying/urination and aggression levels, and the sooner you do it, the more effective it will be. if it is a money issue, most places have low cost spay and neuter clinics available (mine had a drive where they did them for $15, for example.)

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Should I keep looking and cancel the march 1st

Don't cancel unless you get a new appointment to replace it first, but sure, no harm in seeing if you can find a better price (or earlier appointment). Neutering is generally not difficult surgery to perform, so any reputable vet should be fine ( and ones who are involved in low cost spay/neuter programs generally are good sorts who care about animals.)

Until then? Enzymatic cleaner may help with the cat urine and family issues...

I don't know what you have tried but maybe this will help with your sleep. Give him right before you sleep meat (around 15-20gr not seasoned). Cats don't chew they need to rest to digest it, so at least that would give you some hours of peace. You could even try to left another portion somewhere else for the rest of the night, ideally, your cat would quiet his frustration with food.

Get him a felt toy of his size and color, preferably one that vibrates not the ones that emit sounds. In the absence of one he may think it is an adversary or a mate.

As a naive new cat owner I also played with my hands at first and so he learned to attack them. Instead, use balls (nothing too solid or too big that could scare him, nor too small he can swallow it), wand toys or dragging toys. The focus should be the toys, not your hands. Play with him at least one hour a day, distributed in shorter periods.

Get ahead of your cat, take out of his reach or cover with plastic anything he may spray on. Off course you can't cover your whole house but at least protect the items that are a big deal for you and your family.

Explain to your family in a serene tone that you understand their disconform, that  you're trying to do everything you can to protect them as well as the cat but that you will need their help for the last weeks. If they have endured till now, they can do it for some more days.

Please don't give up.

Thank you for your responses.

Definitely look for a sooner neuter date. Also call that vet and say you could take a cancellation.

I'd take him tomorrow, or as soon as humanly possible.  Chin up, we're all wishing you well with this 

I have a cat that misbehaved like you are describing with the attacking and the meowing. Although he didn't pee (I got him fixed). I did not raise the kitty, he was a teenage cat living out of the garbage when he showed up at my doorstep with a prolapsed colon. Here is the lesson I learned. You have to give them more love when they misbehave. They sense your negative feelings and that make's them act out more. Just like kids who behave badly for attention. I started showering him with affection instead of being irritated with him and his behavior improved. When he misbehaved like biting, I put a towel over his head to get him a way and then left him alone, not reinforcing the negative behavior. My cat is still not a perfect angel, but he never attacks and bites me anymore. So there is hope.

Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but if the neutering doesn't work, ahve you tried a water spray gun?  I have used it when my cats were getting into something I don't want them into.  

Judi Golden said:

Maybe I'll get flamed for this, but if the neutering doesn't work, ahve you tried a water spray gun?  I have used it when my cats were getting into something I don't want them into.  

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Not a good idea for a cat in general, but especially not one who is hormonal and aggressive.

@Judi Golden   I've had to resort to water squirting before, only with one cat though and only with one particular problem.  It didn't cure it but it sure did help.  And he was grateful for the discipline, as cats really do like to know where they stand and where the boundaries are etc.  I'm extremely lenient and my cats live as flatmates rather than pets, but even a flatmate would get squirted if he continuously bit my ankles 

My kitten has been a nightmare with biting ! She gets spayed on 18th feb so hope she chills out a bit ! I play with get with string toys but she still goes for my hands and bites then ! I'm full of bites on my hands ! I bought some fiiberfill and stuffed a glove with it ! She loves it as she can roll around with a 'hand' and jumps and rolls around with it ! I've been throwing it towards her when she gets aggressive and so far it's working !

My kitty seems to be getting worse and worse, he is now yowling CONSTANTLY, and the howls are violent And its almost as if he's screaming, and it appears to be for no reason at all because he has food and water. I'm very concerned and I'm just not sure if it's because he's not neutered anymore. :/

He could be in increasing pain and nothing to do with hormones or behaviour.  Phone a vet today to talk over his symptoms and make an appointment to go in today or tomorrow.  

Your cat needs help. Don't wait.

My kitten still a pain so underrated ! She has calmed down a little however whilst I was watching tv last night she went for my hand ! I give her tons of attention too and she has toys ! She is getting spayed in Saturday so hope she chills our a bit as she can be so loving sometimes ! I'm trying not to give up on her! App they calm down after 1 years

@spookysmom234  did you phone/go to the vet?  If so, what did they say?  His constant cries are really worrying me and I urge you to seek qualified veterinary help.

@daisyD  I know some elderly cats who still behave like kittens.  Yes, kittens do calm down after age 1 year or so, and spaying/neutering helps enormously, but cats are playful creatures by nature, so she'll always be up for investigating wiggling, wormlike fingers, or tempting toes, poking out of bedsheets.  Was your hand moving about a lot, or was it still?  It might be that you have to keep your hands under cushions or hide them in some other way, whilst you're watching tv, until she learns (or simply forgets) that they're out of bounds.  

No, but I was playing with her then stopped! When she wants attention she will do it ! She attacked my partner once when he was asleep on the sofa ! He woke up to her hugging (shaking back legs as they do when catch something ) and biting ! We've stuffed a big glove with fibre fill and She plays with that ! I'm full of scratches as she climbs up on our shoulders too - although this week she has started jumping long distance and can jump from back of the sofa straight onto my shoulder when I'm in the kitchen washing up ! I hope she does calm down but she is our baby now and we are all she knows ! We had her when she was so tiny (circa 6 - 7 weeks ) and she has always been amazing with her litter ! We used to watch a tiny ball of fur jump into a litter tray and she used to squeak when ahe went ! I'd rather have a kitten who is a bit fiesty than one who is chilled but goes to toilet outside box etc ! Now and again I think I can't cope and my partner says she has to go if won't calm down ! However when she greets us at the door every evening on her back ready for tummy tickle and is being sweet it's worth it ! This site is great as it lets me let off steam and seek advice when I need to !

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@spookysmom234
 did you phone/go to the vet?  If so, what did they say?  His constant cries are really worrying me and I urge you to seek qualified veterinary help.


@daisyD
 I know some elderly cats who still behave like kittens.  Yes, kittens do calm down after age 1 year or so, and spaying/neutering helps enormously, but cats are playful creatures by nature, so she'll always be up for investigating wiggling, wormlike fingers, or tempting toes, poking out of bedsheets.  Was your hand moving about a lot, or was it still?  It might be that you have to keep your hands under cushions or hide them in some other way, whilst you're watching tv, until she learns (or simply forgets) that they're out of bounds.  

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I did. They said since he isn't lethargic and he's eating and drinking and being interactive, he is most likely crying out for another cat or extremely lonely. I'm looking into getting him a boy sibling to keep him company. But I'm still gonna take him in to be seen to definitely rule out any health issues.

He did ok yesterday, he didn't howl as much, he slept a lot but was interactive with us. Praying for the best