Feeling so sad

naomi79 · Jan 30, 2017

Hi I am new to this site and i am going through a very difficult time. My poor baby Poppy is 16 years old and i took her to the vets on Tuesday she hasn't been very well for a while now. She has kidney disease and a thyroid problem and is going blind she also has a large mass in her stomach and the vet has said it is most likely a tumor or tumor's on her kidneys or liver. I can't afford any more treatment and Poppy will not take any medication. I don't work and money is very tight. Poppy is constantly drinking and looks for food doesn't eat much she uses the litter tray but has missed it a couple of times i have to change her litter tray nearly every day because it is so wet. My heart is breaking because i can't do any more for her she weighs only 2.2 kg and her fur is badly matted.

My heart is breaking because i am supposed to take her to be euthanized tomorrow i really don't know how i am going to go through with it as she is my baby and i feel like i am betraying her. I have never had to do this before and i feel sick. Please is there any one that tell me what to do or someone who has been through this with there beloved cat?

madzoya · Jan 30, 2017

Hi Naomi,

I went through it last summer. My Zoya was 15 and stopped eating. We did what we could, the vet tried everything, and even so, she would eat one day, stop the other. I too had to make the decision of stopping her suffering.

Sending her to the rainbow bridge was one of the hardest things I had to do. But as she fell asleep in my arms I knew I did the right thing, I knew she was not suffering anymore.

I don't see it as betraying our beloved pet, but as a final act of love.

Yes, it will be hard. My heart still breaks just to think of it. But I don't regret doing it. It was the best for her.

Hugs,

Mad

naomi79 · Jan 30, 2017

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me Madzoya. I am just feeling so ill thinking about tomorrow. Poppy has been with us for so long and it is the worst decision i have ever had to make in my life.

I don't want to go through with it and wish she could stay with us a for a little while longer but i just can't afford any more treatment or medication I am a single mother and have no job. I know the best thing for Poppy would be to let her go its just going to be so hard my eyes are filling up with tears writing this.

I wish i could do more and keep her longer but it will probably get worse and i don't want to see her suffering. It is so hard to tell if she pain she sleeps a lot and her little head is hanging down

God i'm going to miss her so much

xx

stephenq · Jan 30, 2017

Naomi79 said:
Hi I am new to this site and i am going through a very difficult time. My poor baby Poppy is 16 years old and i took her to the vets on Tuesday she hasn't been very well for a while now. She has kidney disease and a thyroid problem and is going blind she also has a large mass in her stomach and the vet has said it is most likely a tumor or tumor's on her kidneys or liver. I can't afford any more treatment and Poppy will not take any medication. I don't work and money is very tight. Poppy is constantly drinking and looks for food doesn't eat much she uses the litter tray but has missed it a couple of times i have to change her litter tray nearly every day because it is so wet. My heart is breaking because i can't do any more for her she weighs only 2.2 kg and her fur is badly matted.

My heart is breaking because i am supposed to take her to be euthanized tomorrow i really don't know how i am going to go through with it as she is my baby and i feel like i am betraying her. I have never had to do this before and i feel sick. Please is there any one that tell me what to do or someone who has been through this with there beloved cat?

I'm so sorry and i want to help you re-think this. The only possible betrayal is prolonging her suffering or discomfort. She knows nothing of the future, and only understands today and if today and all her days will be in discomfort (and she is in discomfort) then she has no happy time left, and the final gift you can give her is the only gift left to give. Don't live your life knowing you waiting too long, you will never forgive yourself. Do her the final act of kindness and do it knowing you are doing right by her at this time. This is not about you, its about her. There are no treatment options left, she is depending on you. If you need to talk to someone the link below to the ASPCA grief hotline works internationally and the counselor Stephanie is very kind and good about helping people make this decision.

tiptopper · Jan 30, 2017

Hi Naomi79,

So very sorry you are going through this with Poppy. My heart breaks for you and what you are going through. It is difficult to make this decision when we love our cat so much. If Poppy is in pain it is time to let her go so she no longer suffers. This is so hard to accept but is a sign of your love for her. So sad.

naomi79 · Jan 30, 2017

Thank you so mush StephenQ. I have made the decision and i know it is the best thing i can do for Poppy.

I am going to stay with her till the end and hold her in my arms, i can't leave her to die alone and never wanted to have to do this but i know I can't prolong her suffering anymore.

greypaws · Jan 30, 2017

Doing the right thing for our beloved animals is usually the hardest on the humans. Letting her go to her eternal sleep in your arms is your final gift of love and most definitely the right thing to do. May time be gentle and replace your heartache with sweet memories of the years you've shared.

solomonar · Jan 30, 2017

Tears here.

This is not the worst decision, but the only one you can make. There is no other decision possible.

That is the biological end of cats and your Poppy reached 16. That is a very long life!

You did a good care to Poppy and that counts.

hellomisskitty · Jan 30, 2017

naomi79 I'm so sorry to hear of the difficult crossroads you are at with your Poppy. I'm so glad you found us and reached out. This post written by one of our members is one of the most beautiful I've ever read and I hope it brings you some comfort as you face this:

http://www.thecatsite.com/t/237066/when-the-moment-comes

I'm sending both you and Poppy so much love [emoji]10084[/emoji]️

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