Giving up my kitten for adoption... Am I making the right choice..?

alybo5

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Hi guys, 

I adopted an adorable little kitten 3 weeks ago. She had a broken leg. So I called up the local vet and started taking care of her. She's sooo playful and naughty and I genuinely love her so much that I want the best for her. Problem is, I already have another cat and my sister keeps on pushing me on giving the kitty for adoption because A: She doesn't like cats and it took her a lot of time to get warmed up to the idea of a cat living in her house, she can't stand two. B: Since her and I live alone and are always working we can't give her a lot of attention that she deserves. And C: She says we can't financially afford two cats. So the same vet says that he wants to adopt the kitten. I am very happy about that because he can take better care of her but I am still not sure about giving her up... :( Since he is a vet it would be disrespectful of me to ask him to send me her pictures at least once a month to ensure she is alive and well... I feel a lot of guilt thinking she'll miss me for as long as she'll be remembering me.. And of course, I am not sure how ill cope being without her since her playfulness took all of my worries away. Please advice.
 

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It's quite clear that keeping the kitten is untenable at the moment. Volunteer at a local shelter until the time comes when you are in a situation to give a cat a secure home. This is from someone who waited three decades to own a cat because until recently I lived in rental accommodation. 
 
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Care kills the cat (the original of "curiosity kills the cat").

In my view you overprotect the cat by caring to much about her mental status once you brake up, care which goes against her interest in this case.  Would it be better for the cat to leave in a house where the owners argue and fight because of her?

The vet wants the cat. If a vet wants a certain animal, that animal will be very special for the vet. He/she choses it from thousand of clients. Must be a special love, don't you think?  

The cat playfulness will fade over the years.

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Think like your girlfriend (=cat) choses your rival (=the vet) :-))).
 

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Yes, you are doing the right thing by letting her be adopted by your vet. You are never wrong when you put your animals best interest and welfare before your own.
 

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a responsible person is coming forward asking for your kitten, I would let her go. If you gave her away to some stranger, you would always be wondering, at least you know where she is with the vet. There's nothing wrong with asking him/her to see her after she gets settled in.

Like moorspede suggested, go to a local shelter & spend time there, that will help you & help them at the same time! I used to do that before I got my own place & it helped because I wanted a cat so bad. I got to pet all the kitties & brush them & play with them.
 

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the vet will know how to care for the kitten, and he must think she's really special.

btw, you could ask for pics every so often.  our neighbor gave away a cat, and asks about once a month, not to see if the guy is taking good care of mr. c (he is), but just to see how mr c is doing.
 

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the vet will know how to care for the kitten, and he must think she's really special.

btw, you could ask for pics every so often.  our neighbor gave away a cat, and asks about once a month, not to see if the guy is taking good care of mr. c (he is), but just to see how mr c is doing.
I've mixed feelings about asking for follow up pictures and notes when an animal has been given away. As a former foster Mom, under these circumstances it is usually best to make a clean break. You know your animal is in a safe place, let the new folks be it's family without you in the shadows. Even those dogs I adopted out that I'd fostered, I gave the new owners the choice to stay in touch. Definitely call me if there were problems but I didn't need to be a part of their life or check up on them or dog.  Of course, there are exceptions to everything.....
 

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I've mixed feelings about asking for follow up pictures and notes when an animal has been given away. As a former foster Mom, under these circumstances it is usually best to make a clean break. You know your animal is in a safe place, let the new folks be it's family without you in the shadows. Even those dogs I adopted out that I'd fostered, I gave the new owners the choice to stay in touch. Definitely call me if there were problems but I didn't need to be a part of their life or check up on them or dog.  Of course, there are exceptions to everything.....
the OP wasn't planning to foster, so there may be a difference.  a bunch of us neighbors helped with mr c, and so we're always happy to see pics of him. 
 

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the OP wasn't planning to foster, so there may be a difference.  a bunch of us neighbors helped with mr c, and so we're always happy to see pics of him. 
I think you may have misunderstood me. Yes I understand the OP is considering relinquishing the cat to her vet. My comment was a former foster Mom, when a pet is returned or given to someone else, it is usually in everyone's best interest for the original owner to back away and let the new folks be the new family. I personally would not force the issue for the new owner to give me continued updates. If the new owner offers, that is different.  As I said, there are exceptions to everything, your situation apparently is one of them :) 

ETA: I was drawing on my experience as both a foster dog Mom and Mom to our personal dogs. The OP deeply cares about the kitty and has had enough time to love it. It is always hard to let go when one is in this situation, I was trying to make things easier her for and whomever ends up being the new family. 
 
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