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david tarsey

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Hi all. Only just joined and have a question to ask. Saturday we lost Sake one of our 9 month old male chocolate point Siamese to a car hit. We are devastated and to top this we have his half sister who is looking everywhere for him meowing, it is heart wrenching. We looked on sites for advise on how to make things easier for her. Like another siamese, but it stated that was not a good way around things as it might cause problems. This morning i wondered if by finding a siamese male kitten and with her being so loving she may be maternal toward it and things would be easier for her. Any advise would be so helpful. Thank you.
 

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Deciding what to do in these situations is a very much personal decision. I am so sorry for your loss. 

In your situation, I would not be getting another kitten until you had finished mourning the one who passed. That includes letting the female finish mourning the loss of her brother. She doesn't have the benefit of knowing what happened so give her time and lots of loving to help her through it. When some time had passed and everyone in the family (including the female) were ready then I would start looking for a new kitten.

Your female is young enough that you should be able to introduce a new kitten (or adult) into the family fairly smoothly even if it isn't for a few months. I would stick to a male though to prevent female-female dominance issues that can occur. As a Siamese, it is better to get another cat or kitten when ready because they don't like to be alone and are more social than some other cat breeds.
 

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I lost one of my cats last year and the other continuously called and looked for her friend. They had been together nearly 15 years. I know what you are going through and it is really hard for you are grieving and so is your cat. I was advised to distract my cat when she started calling by either playing with her or giving a treat but not to start something that I was not prepared to continue doing.

Some cats get over it quickly whilst it can take others months. It took mine 2 months to settle and only then did I get a kitten. It took about a month for her to accept the new kitten but they then got on well and became friends.

Be patient and spend time with the kitten you have.
 
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