Help! I think I need a cat-psychologist!

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I support a charity and have fostered ferals, strays and abandoned kittens gaining their trust simply by providing warmth, food and shelter. I have had cats frightened of shoes, boots, brooms doors but, I am at a loss with my latest protégé. She is a calico, 2 to 3 years old, who has been misused as a kitten-producing machine. She has always been fed, kept warm but must have been so badly treated that she just shuts her eyes and trembles when approached.I'll called Lucinda for now.

She was the last cat to be rescued from a multi-cat household. The rescuer had recognised the dreadful conditions the cats were living in from photos placed on the Internet in order to sell the kittens. The couple concerned wanted to move home, and by promising not to involve the authorities, the rescuer managed to remove and, with our help, rehome 14 cats! The last cat to be handed over was Lucinda. I was consulted at that time because it was thought that Lucinda was expecting more kittens and my last brood of kittens were approaching the 12 week deadline, when they could start new lives in new homes.

When we arrived, Lucinda had hidden on the top of a high cupboard. We had to get a ladder to get her down. She didn’t protest just trembled violently from head to tail. We took her into the smallest room in the house – the bathroom - where we found that she was probably not pregnant but that she was still lactating. Her kittens had no doubt already been sold. So her rescuer kept her and over the next 6 weeks we paid to have her dewormed and spayed. I was told she “got on well” with the schoolboy in the family and was sleeping on his bed, but since she was terrified of the other cats in the household she was handed over to me to foster as soon as the last of my kittens had left.

Lucinda has been with me for 5 days. I was told to expect problems with litter boxes. I had 2 – with 2 different types of cat litter, but she chose to ignore them and use the cat baskets which I have since removed. I then brought out my oversized litter box filled it with a bio-litter plus a litter-box with hood, but she still preferred the floor. I then gave her a fifth box with only a scattering of cat litter. These 5 boxes more or less covered the area she’d been using as her toilet-area. She is now using one of the 2 original boxes! I think that this problem at least has been solved.

Feeding was a problem – she seemed to be starving so I gave her too much. It was no doubt nervousness. She had tummy pains so we are now on smaller portions 4 times a day!

She is being kept in solitary confinement as she wasn’t happy with other cats. My partner sits with her for a few hours every afternoon and I sit with her in the evening, till the early hours. If we are lucky she will come out from behind the dog crate and sit and look at us, or crouch down keeping her eyes closed “I won’t do anything to you, so please leave me alone”. She will sometimes come out and sit on the window sill. I know that when we are not in the room she sits on the couch or on the cat tree. We hear her jump down and hide before we enter the room and we can feel the warmth from her body on the places where she feels comfy. On one occasion she sat on the cat tree and rubbed her head against it – I managed to stroke her gently but, the next time I tried, she ran back into hiding.

The animal charity put a picture of her on the website. I had taken the photo while she was in the arms of my colleague – when we were examining her in case she was pregnant. She has her eyes closed. We immediately had phone calls asking for appointments to see this charming cat. The photo can’t show how she was shaking with fear! The first visitors came yesterday. Fortunately, they were a lovely couple and horrified at Lucinda’s story. When they tried to approach Lucinda she fled into another corner of the room, shaking. When they left she vomited in her hideout. They do not want to take responsibility for Lucinda in her present condition but they will keep in touch.

So, I have insisted – no more visitors. Her photo will be removed from the website until I give the go-ahead, which won’t be until I’ve gained the confidence of this poor abused cat. I don’t really think solitary confinement is the right answer. She doesn’t play with the toys and ignores us when we try to entice her out to play with her. I have asked the charity to consider giving us the next suitable stray cat who turns up so that she’s got some company. My other cats unfortunately caught the calici virus from a foster, so I can’t allow them to mix. She’s got enough problems to deal with, without getting sick.

My Feliway dispenser has been refilled. I may try Bachblüten therapy but I’m not optimistic about these methods for such a disturbed cat.  

Any success stories out there?
 

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She is young enough to change, but in a situation like hers it will take a long time and dedication to not let her continue her isolation and extreme fear. There are many cats like her,  I've had two from the same litter in which one was sociable and the other wanted nothing to do with humans or other cats at all. She has a fearful and timid personality and that will not change. She needs consistency in her life, there has been way too many changes and it terrifies her almost to the point of paralysis. I've encountered cats that take MONTHS to come out from hiding and to gain trust that they will be not harmed. But it CAN happen, they may not be head butters or wrap themselves around your legs, but they can be friendly and the love they display is even more satisfying because it is so hard to earn. She needs an adult family with no other pets and no children. She needs someone who can spend the time it will take to socialize her. Just sitting in a room with her for a few minutes several times a day, reading out loud to her and offering treats would do miracles. The couple that would not take her in her 'present situation' do not appear to be dedicated enough to spend the time and have the capability for the patience and determination needed to succeed in her case.You need someone more insistent and determined to give her a stable life.  There is someone out there, especially when they learn her story and have the empathy and patience needed to draw her out. This won't happen though until she can get into a forever home and have the stability needed and a unchangeable, steady routine. The ideal would be to have someone come to the foster home and first get to know her through repeated, frequent visits. Just sitting in the same room and talking. Maybe leaving used clothing for her to get used to, learning her routine and what she prefers in food and treats. She will be a hard little girl to place, but she is so extremely lucky to have you in her life and you will be blessed for your efforts and your concerns for her welfare. I'll pray for you both, PLEASE keep us posted on how she is doing!
 

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My heart breaks - I've never heard of a cat so traumatised they close their eyes - that seems to go against their primordial instinct to keep an eye on potential threats. The fact that she's that terrified D:
 
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The couple that would not take her in her 'present situation' do not appear to be dedicated enough to spend the time and have the capability for the patience and determination needed to succeed in her case.You need someone more insistent and determined to give her a stable life.  There is someone out there, especially when they learn her story and have the empathy and patience needed to draw her out. This won't happen though until she can get into a forever home and have the stability needed and a unchangeable, steady routine. The ideal would be to have someone come to the foster home and first get to know her through repeated, frequent visits.
I was not going to let this couple - or anyone else, for that matter - adopt her at the present time. She has been separated from her babies, how many times? - and had been with me exactly 5 days - she was in fact just starting to settle down to my routine. I promised to contact the couple next weekend. They want to visit when I feel it`s the right time. They seem genuine but I'm not going to let Lucinda go till I'm sure it will be the best move for her - even when there are pregnant strays and pregnant ferals waiting for a suitable foster home.

There are some very good people out there willing to take on such a responsibility. I am hoping that someone will contact us and say something like "Hi, remember me. i took one of your cats 5 years ago when the owner had to go into a home. Minnie was 18 years old, had kidney problems and wasn't expected to live long. She had to be euthanised only last year, we were devastated but now, we are willing to start again. Have you any cat, young or old, who needs special care?" It's happened before so I'm willing to wait and see.

Meanwhile, I'll keep you informed though I'm not expecting much progress in the next few days or even weeks. Added to which, it is difficult finding a free moment to get on the Internet as connections are very poor in the room where I spend all my free time - i.e. with Lucinda.

I've had 26 foster cats and kittens last year and read so many books that I'm quite tired of reading. At least with Lucinda I'll be able to do some knitting or sewing.


Thanks again for your support.
 
 
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My heart breaks - I've never heard of a cat so traumatised they close their eyes - that seems to go against their primordial instinct to keep an eye on potential threats. The fact that she's that terrified D:
It's very strange. Ferals and frightened cats keep their eyes wide open ready to flee but she closes her eyes tight and trembles, waiting for the worst to happen. Goodness alone knows, what she's been through.
 

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It's very strange. Ferals and frightened cats keep their eyes wide open ready to flee but she closes her eyes tight and trembles, waiting for the worst to happen. Goodness alone knows, what she's been through.
I dread to think
 

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Would it be insensitive of me to ask if we may see a photo of the poor baby? Obviously if she has come out or something, don't wanna spook her more by sticking a lens into her hiding place. 
 
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