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This is inspired!  I'm sure everyone who has ever worked with the general public can appreciate this on a deep level.  I especially like the people who want refunds on non-winning lottery tickets. 
It's all fun to other people. 

 
@Tallyollyopia- sometimes just getting it out of your system helps. I used to write nasty letters to whoever had pissed me off including my boss and then burnt them. It was cathartic. That is probably why I could stay on the job long enough to retire.
Sometimes it's just all you can do.
 
Oh, Lordy, does this ever bring back memories. I wrote a letter ranting about my boss once and he found it before I could destroy it. 
    He was vitally important to my career and I was about to break down and cry from my humiliation and fear at messing all of my plans up to such a degree.  To my astonishment, he sat down with me and calmly discussed all of my complaints. He even allowed me to make some changes.  Long story short - it's been years and neither one of us work there any longer but we somehow have managed a lasting friendship.  
Hey, at least you got a friend out of it! Maybe it was just a communication issue?
 
What were you cooking? A young emu? 
 
Well, in our family we have a tradition that the Thanksgiving turkey feeds us until Christmas, so we get the biggest birds (at the cheapest per pound price) that we can find.
This is my rant for the day.

As some of you may know, I recently got engaged. Those of you familiar with facebook probably know how you can update your relationship status. So when I got engaged I set mine to say I was engaged. Many people liked and commented wishing us well. All of my family on my mom's side (at least the ones who use Facebook) did.

As far as my dad's side of the family goes, I think they couldn't care less about my immediate family. We are sort of the "black sheep" to them. They are extremely religious (hateful bigot level religious). My grandfather (my dad's father) was a pastor.

Anyway, they kinda shun us because my immediate family doesn't go to church. And we generally disagree on a lit of political and social issues. They think that my mother was the reason that we don't go to church, when in reality, my father is a full blown Atheist (which we could never tell them because they would probably literally never speak to us again). Anyway, they invite us to family events and things like that (pretty much just to be polite) and then pertty much act like my sister and I aren't even there. They might ask us how college is going or make some other small talk just to be polite but then literally ignore us for the rest of the time. I can't talk to them because none of them actually listen to what I say.

So anyway, back to the engagement thing. I know this is petty but NOT ONE PERSON from my dad's side of the family even liked the post or said congratulations or anything like that. I know they saw it because all of them are on Facebook ALL THE TIME. And I know if one of my cousins were to get engaged they would all go nuts and like and comment and congratulate them!

I am so fed up with their pettiness that I am seriously debating not even inviting them to the wedding. I don't know if I would be able to take all their negativity on my wedding day.

But then again, my dad's parents are my only living grandparents and I'd feel bad if I didn't invite them. Ugh. I don't know what to do. [emoji]128547[/emoji]

Being that I am an Atheist as well (of my own decision, my family made it very clear to me when I was a child that I could believe what I chose to believe and they would not judge me for it), I also don't want to have a "Christian" wedding. I want our wedding to be about my fiancé and I, not about god or being "joined together before god in holy matrimony".

So I don't know about inviting my dad's family, as I am sure they will just go home and whisper about us behind our backs [emoji]128530[/emoji]
Question: would you feel bad about not inviting your dad's parents because you like them and enjoy their company, or would you feel bad because it's socially appropriate? If you like them, take them aside and explain that you understand most of your father's family doesn't understand you very well, and that's why you're inviting them  without inviting the rest of the crew. If it's just because it's socially appropriate--throw social preconceptions aside. It's your  day, and you should focus on what will make you  happy. (Or, at least, that's how I  feel about it.)
 
Extra stuffing?  I fail to see the problem.  That just means more leftovers, right?  Just put the extra in a casserole dish to cook!  By the way, in my opinion, Thanksgiving leftovers are the greatest thing since WAY before sliced bread.

As for your wedding, don't invite them.  I got married once.  My mother in law was not invited.  In fact, we showed her picture to my best friend's brother and uncle (VERY large men) with strict orders to toss her headfirst in a snowdrift if she had the gall to show her face.  She's a horrible, nasty person and it was MY day.  Why worry about offending people who don't like you anyway?  Save yourself some stress and just decide that they'll never like or accept you so you don't give a fig.  If you really want them to be involved, have a second reception (so you can fully enjoy the first one) and invite them to that.  If they confront you about it, just tell them they didn't seem happy about the news so you didn't want to put them in the awkward position of having to decline the invitation.
The problem was keeping the stuffing moist as it cooked. But we managed--and you know, we've had extra stuffing ever since. (The stuff from the bird does taste the best though.)
 
Well, FaceBook hadn't been invented yet when we got married (not that I would have been on it if it had), but we solved the problem by holding our wedding out of doors in the mountains, at dawn.  Then we invited everyone, including the people we didn't want.  They had a good excuse to stay away, and the people we really wanted came and thought it was a lovely wedding (although my grandmother did comment afterwards "It was a nice wedding after all!"
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@Tallyollyopia, I really don't have anything I want dyed purple, though it's a fine idea.  I have some things I want to tie dye, but that's not exactly the same thing.

I love your notice; too bad you can't post it.  However, even if you did post it it would do no good.  The kind of people it's aimed at are the kind of people who don't give a rat's ass anyway.  (And Jasmine's ears prick up.  "What?  You have a rat's ass and didn't tell me?!)

@Mamanyt1953, well, what can I say?  There, that's what I can say.  I've told you before, and I'm sure I'll tell you again, more than once.  I don't care if you're Einstein, occasionally you add two plus two and get five.

  As for the SNURK emoji, try this:


Margret
Poor Jasmine! Too bad you can't share it! 
 (And the dye thing was only a suggestion. Sorry it won't work for you.)
I know the facebook thing is kinda petty. But I'm more upset because of the way my sister and I are treated compared to my cousins. It really is as if we don't exist.

But I really want to have my wedding outdoors. I was thinking my parents' backyard (they have a 2 acre backyard) because it is big enough for lots of chairs and we could possibly even have the reception there as well (depending on costs for catering and renting the tables of course). I have already asked my parents and they are on board with that. We even have neighbors who have a huge parking lot on their property (the previous owners were farmers & auto mechanics who ran their business out of their own home so they had lots of parking for their customers). They have let us use that lot for events and parties in the past so I'm sure they'd let us use it again for the wedding.
Question: what does having an outdoor wedding have to do with your dad's side of the family? Or am I misunderstanding something?
 

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Well, FaceBook hadn't been invented yet when we got married (not that I would have been on it if it had), but we solved the problem by holding our wedding out of doors in the mountains, at dawn.  Then we invited everyone, including the people we didn't want.  They had a good excuse to stay away, and the people we really wanted came and thought it was a lovely wedding (although my grandmother did comment afterwards "It was a nice wedding after all!"
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I know the facebook thing is kinda petty. But I'm more upset because of the way my sister and I are treated compared to my cousins. It really is as if we don't exist.

But I really want to have my wedding outdoors. I was thinking my parents' backyard (they have a 2 acre backyard) because it is big enough for lots of chairs and we could possibly even have the reception there as well (depending on costs for catering and renting the tables of course). I have already asked my parents and they are on board with that. We even have neighbors who have a huge parking lot on their property (the previous owners were farmers & auto mechanics who ran their business out of their own home so they had lots of parking for their customers). They have let us use that lot for events and parties in the past so I'm sure they'd let us use it again for the wedding.
I never said it was petty; I don't think it's petty at all.  I think you're getting their message loud and clear.  The question is how you handle it.

If you want to try and keep quiet about how they treat you, in order to make it easier for them to come around at some time in the future, then you do something like we did -- invite them to the wedding, while making sure that they have an excuse to stay away.  If you want to cut all ties, then you cut all ties.  It's entirely up to you what you do; no one here will criticize your decision.  You have every right to take offense and cut them off completely, but do so only if that's what you really want to do.

For what it's worth, I thought for a long time that my mother-in-law didn't like having me visit, because she always served food that was so highly spiced that I couldn't eat it, while carefully catering to Roger's food needs and preferences.  When I actually brought this up with her, however, I found out that she hadn't realized that the reason I wasn't eating was that the food was inedible; she thought I just didn't have much appetite, and once she knew she changed how she cooked when I was visiting.  I am not suggesting that that's what is happening with your father's family, I'm merely saying that sometimes it's worthwhile to come right out and say what it is that bothers you.  If nothing else, it can force people to actually confront their own prejudices.

Margret
 

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Question: would you feel bad about not inviting your dad's parents because you like them and enjoy their company, or would you feel bad because it's socially appropriate? If you like them, take them aside and explain that you understand most of your father's family doesn't understand you very well, and that's why you're inviting them without inviting the rest of the crew. If it's just because it's socially appropriate--throw social preconceptions aside. It's your day, and you should focus on what will make you happy. (Or, at least, that's how I feel about it.)
I guess I'd feel bad because I'd feel obligated. I don't really like them. Especailly not my grandpa. He's probably the most judgmental person I know. My grandma tries but she doesn't understand me either. She had the gall to tell my father that the reason she doesn't have a good relationship with my sister and I was because we don't try to talk to her. When she never showed an ounce of interest in getting to know us when we were kids.

My dad went off on her because it isn't our job to want to get to know her. It was her job to get to know her own grandchildren. She had plenty of opportunities to do so when we were kids.

My sister and I always felt left out because we'd see all the things that they'd do without us on facebook. They once took a "family vacation" to freaking Disney World (all of my aunts and cousins and my grandparents were there), but we were never invited. And as a child (I was 13, my sister was 11) that really did hurt my feelings. The reasoning they gave when my family confronted them about it was that the didn't think that my sister and I would want to go. They didn't even ask us! Clearly they didn't want us there.


Question: what does having an outdoor wedding have to do with your dad's side of the family? Or am I misunderstanding something?
I was commenting on Margrets reply where she talked about having her wedding outdoors in the mountains at dawn.
 

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I wouldn't do anything because of "obligation."  I've had people who were supposed to be family cause the worst thing ever.  I still haven't gotten over the repercussions of what they did and I probably never will.  If I'd gotten my way and had them removed from our lives when they first started making trouble, those horrible things would never have happened.
 

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~ Sad ... but family relations are often the most difficult. I agree with Alicia88. Best to just be polite as possible but never feel obligated to be with people you don't get along with - family or not .
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Here comes some unsolicited advice, but I say, don't invite them. A wedding is an extremely stressful event anyway and you do not need this kind of sanctimonious unpleasantness adding to your stress level. What does your fiance say?  It's his wedding, too.  How does he feel about having his bride upset because her cousins are making snide remarks at her?  Isn't that going to have an impact on him, as well?

It would be one thing if you could just shrug them off as "that side of the family."   Then, I'd say invite them. But you can't.  They've subjected you to a lifetime of insults and putdowns and their behavior understandably affects you. Their presence will have a negative impact on your happiness.  On your wedding day!

Is there any chance of just inviting your grandparents and leaving the others out?  If something is said about it, tell them exactly why they are not invited.  You can be polite about it but straightforward.  This is the time to start a new life.  Why not make it even more of one and rid yourself of this unpleasant obligation?   Leave room open for reconciliation but on equal terms.  No more of you being treated like you're inferior.

An alternative is to just tell them you had a small ceremony for immediate family only.  While you are planning your wedding, you might want to adjust the privacy controls on your FB page.  

It's very easy for me to say this but I really do hate to see people pass themselves off as Christian who then behave anything but Christ-like.  And you deserve your wedding day to be the day of your dreams, not your nightmares!
margd margd

My Fiancé said not to invite them too. He said he doesn't want them to bring me down on our wedding day. I just don't know if that's the right move. I've been shrugging them off for my entire life. So on one hand, I could probably put up with them, but on the other I don't want to have to put up with them. But I also don't want to create a bunch of drama by not inviting them. [emoji]128547[/emoji]

My grandparents and I don't really have a relationship. I don't like them really. But they are my only grandparents and some part of me still loves them even though they never made any attempt to even really know me.

One of my cousins in particular is very mean and judgmental. She and her father have repetedly made rude remarks about my weight (and my mom's weight) in front of me, as if I wasn't even there. For instance, a few years ago, we were meeting at Pokagon State Park hotel/lodge for our family christmas and we had gotten there a few hours after everyone else (our drive was much longer) so when we got there everyone was eating lunch at the hotel restaurant. Well we went and sat down at the table and my mom said "Sorry we were late. Traffic was horrible and we stopped at Waffle House for breakfast." And my Uncle literally looked at my cousin and said "No wonder why they're all so fat". out loud as if we weren't even there. And my cousin just laughed. I just got up and went to the hotel room.

My mother and I both have thyroid problems. I have severe hypothyroidism (due to hashimoto's thyroiditis) which has not responded to medication or synthetic thyroid hormone. So I gain weight very easily. So yes, I am "plus sized" but I'm not sedentary and I try to eat healthy.

And I totally agree. There are way too many bigots in this world that pass themselves off as christain. I know these people are not really Christian. If they were, they would not be so hateful toward people who are different from themselves.
 

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They're predicting a major storm later this week.  A friend of mine posted this as her Facebook status:

Weather looks like it could be pretty shitty this weekend... My house is all gas.... If anyone is without heat or any way to fix food if the power goes out you are welcome here as long as you can make it here safely..... This is open to ANYONE AND EVERYONE!

I have great friends.  Of course, I probably won't be able to take her up on her offer.  She lives in Lancaster, which is about 30 miles away from me and I don't think I would be comfortable risking the trip.  But it's still very sweet of her.
 

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Here comes some unsolicited advice, but I say, don't invite them. A wedding is an extremely stressful event anyway and you do not need this kind of sanctimonious unpleasantness adding to your stress level. What does your fiance say?  It's his wedding, too.  How does he feel about having his bride upset because her cousins are making snide remarks at her?  Isn't that going to have an impact on him, as well?

It would be one thing if you could just shrug them off as "that side of the family."   Then, I'd say invite them. But you can't.  They've subjected you to a lifetime of insults and putdowns and their behavior understandably affects you. Their presence will have a negative impact on your happiness.  On your wedding day!

Is there any chance of just inviting your grandparents and leaving the others out?  If something is said about it, tell them exactly why they are not invited.  You can be polite about it but straightforward.  This is the time to start a new life.  Why not make it even more of one and rid yourself of this unpleasant obligation?   Leave room open for reconciliation but on equal terms.  No more of you being treated like you're inferior.

An alternative is to just tell them you had a small ceremony for immediate family only.  While you are planning your wedding, you might want to adjust the privacy controls on your FB page.  

It's very easy for me to say this but I really do hate to see people pass themselves off as Christian who then behave anything but Christ-like.  And you deserve your wedding day to be the day of your dreams, not your nightmares!
@Margd

My Fiancé said not to invite them too. He said he doesn't want them to bring me down on our wedding day. I just don't know if that's the right move. I've been shrugging them off for my entire life. So on one hand, I could probably put up with them, but on the other I don't want to have to put up with them. But I also don't want to create a bunch of drama by not inviting them. [emoji]128547[/emoji]

My grandparents and I don't really have a relationship. I don't like them really. But they are my only grandparents and some part of me still loves them even though they never made any attempt to even really know me.

One of my cousins in particular is very mean and judgmental. She and her father have repetedly made rude remarks about my weight (and my mom's weight) in front of me, as if I wasn't even there. For instance, a few years ago, we were meeting at Pokagon State Park hotel/lodge for our family christmas and we had gotten there a few hours after everyone else (our drive was much longer) so when we got there everyone was eating lunch at the hotel restaurant. Well we went and sat down at the table and my mom said "Sorry we were late. Traffic was horrible and we stopped at Waffle House for breakfast." And my Uncle literally looked at my cousin and said "No wonder why they're all so fat". out loud as if we weren't even there. And my cousin just laughed. I just got up and went to the hotel room.

My mother and I both have thyroid problems. I have severe hypothyroidism (due to hashimoto's thyroiditis) which has not responded to medication or synthetic thyroid hormone. So I gain weight very easily. So yes, I am "plus sized" but I'm not sedentary and I try to eat healthy.

And I totally agree. There are way too many bigots in this world that pass themselves off as christain. I know these people are not really Christian. If they were, they would not be so hateful toward people who are different from themselves.
You know what, at this point I think I agree wholeheartedly with the folks who say don't invite them.  Especially since that's what your fiancé says -- after all, it's his wedding too.  He has a right to exclude people who have mistreated the woman he's marrying.

Margret
 

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@Margd

My Fiancé said not to invite them too. He said he doesn't want them to bring me down on our wedding day. I just don't know if that's the right move. I've been shrugging them off for my entire life. So on one hand, I could probably put up with them, but on the other I don't want to have to put up with them. But I also don't want to create a bunch of drama by not inviting them. [emoji]128547[/emoji]

My grandparents and I don't really have a relationship. I don't like them really. But they are my only grandparents and some part of me still loves them even though they never made any attempt to even really know me.

One of my cousins in particular is very mean and judgmental. She and her father have repetedly made rude remarks about my weight (and my mom's weight) in front of me, as if I wasn't even there. For instance, a few years ago, we were meeting at Pokagon State Park hotel/lodge for our family christmas and we had gotten there a few hours after everyone else (our drive was much longer) so when we got there everyone was eating lunch at the hotel restaurant. Well we went and sat down at the table and my mom said "Sorry we were late. Traffic was horrible and we stopped at Waffle House for breakfast." And my Uncle literally looked at my cousin and said "No wonder why they're all so fat". out loud as if we weren't even there. And my cousin just laughed. I just got up and went to the hotel room.

My mother and I both have thyroid problems. I have severe hypothyroidism (due to hashimoto's thyroiditis) which has not responded to medication or synthetic thyroid hormone. So I gain weight very easily. So yes, I am "plus sized" but I'm not sedentary and I try to eat healthy.

And I totally agree. There are way too many bigots in this world that pass themselves off as christain. I know these people are not really Christian. If they were, they would not be so hateful toward people who are different from themselves.
When I was planning my wedding, we had similar problems with my fiances family. We didn't invite the people we didn't want to invite. Its your wedding so only invite the people that you really want to. 
 

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I guess I'd feel bad because I'd feel obligated. I don't really like them. Especailly not my grandpa. He's probably the most judgmental person I know. My grandma tries but she doesn't understand me either. She had the gall to tell my father that the reason she doesn't have a good relationship with my sister and I was because we don't try to talk to her. When she never showed an ounce of interest in getting to know us when we were kids.

My dad went off on her because it isn't our job to want to get to know her. It was her job to get to know her own grandchildren. She had plenty of opportunities to do so when we were kids.

My sister and I always felt left out because we'd see all the things that they'd do without us on facebook. They once took a "family vacation" to freaking Disney World (all of my aunts and cousins and my grandparents were there), but we were never invited. And as a child (I was 13, my sister was 11) that really did hurt my feelings. The reasoning they gave when my family confronted them about it was that the didn't think that my sister and I would want to go. They didn't even ask us! Clearly they didn't want us there.
I was commenting on Margrets reply where she talked about having her wedding outdoors in the mountains at dawn.
I was talking to RB, and he had a brilliant  idea. (Then again, it's one in the morning, so it might not be as good as I think it is.) He suggested that, instead of actually inviting your grandparents to the wedding, you could set up a Skype or similar thing so that they can watch it in their own home if they want. If they don't, fine and dandy--they won't be there plague you with nasty comments. If they do--this shows you're willing to reach out. You could even tell them that you understand it's hard for them to travel, so you want them to be able to enjoy the wedding in the comfort of their own home. (Like I said, it's kind of late here and I just took some cold medicine, so it might not be as great of an idea as I think, but I thought I'd put it out there.)
@Margd

My Fiancé said not to invite them too. He said he doesn't want them to bring me down on our wedding day. I just don't know if that's the right move. I've been shrugging them off for my entire life. So on one hand, I could probably put up with them, but on the other I don't want to have to put up with them. But I also don't want to create a bunch of drama by not inviting them. [emoji]128547[/emoji]

My grandparents and I don't really have a relationship. I don't like them really. But they are my only grandparents and some part of me still loves them even though they never made any attempt to even really know me.

One of my cousins in particular is very mean and judgmental. She and her father have repetedly made rude remarks about my weight (and my mom's weight) in front of me, as if I wasn't even there. For instance, a few years ago, we were meeting at Pokagon State Park hotel/lodge for our family christmas and we had gotten there a few hours after everyone else (our drive was much longer) so when we got there everyone was eating lunch at the hotel restaurant. Well we went and sat down at the table and my mom said "Sorry we were late. Traffic was horrible and we stopped at Waffle House for breakfast." And my Uncle literally looked at my cousin and said "No wonder why they're all so fat". out loud as if we weren't even there. And my cousin just laughed. I just got up and went to the hotel room.

My mother and I both have thyroid problems. I have severe hypothyroidism (due to hashimoto's thyroiditis) which has not responded to medication or synthetic thyroid hormone. So I gain weight very easily. So yes, I am "plus sized" but I'm not sedentary and I try to eat healthy.

And I totally agree. There are way too many bigots in this world that pass themselves off as christain. I know these people are not really Christian. If they were, they would not be so hateful toward people who are different from themselves.
When I first started middle school, my gym teacher was a man with thyroid disorder. He was built like Santa Claus and could run every last one of us to the ground and still  have enough energy leftover to do a victory dance. (My classmates were insulted that the "fat man" could outperform them in baseball, soccer, floor hockey, basketball, and sports I'm pretty sure my teacher invented for the fun of it. He was a great teacher.) 

I agree--totally not Christian values. (And as a Christian myself, I'm offended and ashamed of their behavior. Really, they should  know better.)
 
You know what, at this point I think I agree wholeheartedly with the folks who say don't invite them.  Especially since that's what your fiancé says -- after all, it's his wedding too.  He has a right to exclude people who have mistreated the woman he's marrying.

Margret


Okay, a couple of updates on SD's surgery--it's not what SD said it was. The doctors are not removing  vertebra, they're removing bone spurs that are pressing into the spinal cord. (Apparently the problem is with the way the vertebra are shaped--and I really don't understand that (cold medicine is killing my brain--but also sinus pressure, so plus.) AWM pulled up a page describing the procedure, the therapy needed (and he will  be getting physical therapy) and the success rate--ninety percent. 
 On the downside, there is still over a year of recovering, but there's less chance of his cord being accidentally severed. 
 And I'm not going to the fun thing in Savannah, because SD's surgery got moved up and RB, who was going to go with me, wants to stay and visit with him in the hospital. 
 I, of course, will be working. 
 On the bright side, the books I ordered came in, so while I'm off I'm trying to nip this cold in the bud I'm building a literary fort to protect me from the real world. Hopefully when I emerge later I'll be a lot more centered and less mentally fragile. 


On another note; I need both a cat and a people expert. Asia has decided, for some reason, that when it's too cold outside to do her business she will claw out an old grocery bag (we keep the plastic bags in the pantry for cleaning litter boxes) and go on that. 
 Sometimes she'll use a water flat--but only if it's empty and about to be thrown out. I don't understand it--but she's going on things that are easy to clean. Is this something we need address?

For the people expert--how do I explain to my DD that thirty-eight and a half hour weeks at a job where I don't get a break  are exhausting? He keeps getting upset because I'm not doing  more, but I'm exhausted. I know I need to find another, less physically demanding (and hopefully better paying) job, but it's hard to get the energy up. (At least I'm calling  regularly, even if I spend the time speaking to his voicemail because I work nights.) Sorry. It's just another frustration piled onto the January 2017 stuff--and probably the cold. Being ill is draining and the job isn't helping.
 

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On another note; I need both a cat and a people expert. Asia has decided, for some reason, that when it's too cold outside to do her business she will claw out an old grocery bag (we keep the plastic bags in the pantry for cleaning litter boxes) and go on that. 
 Sometimes she'll use a water flat--but only if it's empty and about to be thrown out. I don't understand it--but she's going on things that are easy to clean. Is this something we need address?

For the people expert--how do I explain to my DD that thirty-eight and a half hour weeks at a job where I don't get a break  are exhausting? He keeps getting upset because I'm not doing  more, but I'm exhausted. I know I need to find another, less physically demanding (and hopefully better paying) job, but it's hard to get the energy up. (At least I'm calling  regularly, even if I spend the time speaking to his voicemail because I work nights.) Sorry. It's just another frustration piled onto the January 2017 stuff--and probably the cold. Being ill is draining and the job isn't helping.
Asia's behavior reminds me of my rainbow cat Lucy.   If her box wasn't clean enough, she would seek out plastic bags to pee on.  She wouldn't poop in the litter box at all, but only on the smooth bathroom floor.  I thought it might have something to do with texture.  She also liked to sleep on plastic bags and would often choose a bag over a cozy bed.  I suppose if Asia's only doing this on the rare occasion it's too cold to go outside, you could always keep a supply of plastic bags (handles cut off)  near the litter box.    Does she not use her box at all?

Who is DD?  Is that Dear Dad?  Your work sounds absolutely exhausting to me, the kind of exhaustion that strikes body and mind and wrings you out like an old rag.  Maybe DD needs to spend an hour or two on a busy night watching you work.  It's astonishing to me that you manage to work at this job and still turn out so much high-quality writing.  Also, it's very easy to say "find a better job" but job hunting is work and when you're already worn to a frazzle, the energy may just not be there.  I hope you do find a better job, soon, however.   You have so much to offer and this job is not making use of your gifts.  It's good for the novelist in you for awhile but at some point, you have enough crazy people stories! 

Feel better soon!

[emoji]128716[/emoji] <----------   You in bed getting better.  
 
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I must, absolutely MUST. go do my filing.  I have a stack of papers waiting that has now reached almost 4 inches.  I keep putting it off, because I have to sit on the floor to file, and getting back up is always iffy.. sooner or later I won't be able to at all!  Wish me luck!
 

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Good luck Mamany! I hate filing paper too. I still do paper bills because I never check emails and would loose them.

I have been waiting to hear news about some financial stuff at work..they got caught cooking the books 2 years ago-not my company but those that own our company..then last month there was a drop in stock price due to devaluation of the company=you know when they sold the company they would claim x amount of money on the books of x amount of jobs but there were not that many jobs that actually signed on. then they said something about some contract with a customer that if they don't get that contract signed by June then half of the shop will be laid off and on top of it the union contract is renegotiated May 1. I still don't know if they are going to eliminate my particular job-the big wig in the corner office did make a comment about indirect labor type jobs getting absorbed into other departments=and when we asked about this we got nothing for answers. So for now we are just waiting for someone to decide what will happen..in the meantime I have been looking around to see what's available and talking to my contacts. I can join an apprenticeship for Electrical Union or find another manufacturing/welding job. Or branch out into something animal related...so kind of nerve wracking along with nothing going on in the home front.

Reading some books. Too cold to go outside. was -5 this morning. So we shall see.
 

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I must, absolutely MUST. go do my filing.  I have a stack of papers waiting that has now reached almost 4 inches.  I keep putting it off, because I have to sit on the floor to file, and getting back up is always iffy.. sooner or later I won't be able to at all!  Wish me luck!
Paperwork.  Bah.  Phooey.  Mine is finally up to date but for years I just had a big box full of dumped papers and unopened envelopes.  Would it help if you sorted them sitting on your bed?  I'm sure Hekitty would assist you.  

 
Good luck Mamany! I hate filing paper too. I still do paper bills because I never check emails and would loose them.

I have been waiting to hear news about some financial stuff at work..they got caught cooking the books 2 years ago-not my company but those that own our company..then last month there was a drop in stock price due to devaluation of the company=you know when they sold the company they would claim x amount of money on the books of x amount of jobs but there were not that many jobs that actually signed on. then they said something about some contract with a customer that if they don't get that contract signed by June then half of the shop will be laid off and on top of it the union contract is renegotiated May 1. I still don't know if they are going to eliminate my particular job-the big wig in the corner office did make a comment about indirect labor type jobs getting absorbed into other departments=and when we asked about this we got nothing for answers. So for now we are just waiting for someone to decide what will happen..in the meantime I have been looking around to see what's available and talking to my contacts. I can join an apprenticeship for Electrical Union or find another manufacturing/welding job. Or branch out into something animal related...so kind of nerve wracking along with nothing going on in the home front.

Reading some books. Too cold to go outside. was -5 this morning. So we shall see.
It sounds like reading is a good way to spend the day. Cuddle up with some warm felines and lose yourself for a few hours.  
 

It's good to hear that you do have some options if the worst should happen with your job.  Fingers crossed it all works out.
 
 

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Since you mentioned paperwork, you reminded me that I need to dig through all my drawers until I find my rent receipts from Aug - Dec.  Then I have to figure out the most efficient way to get copies of my electric and phone/internet bills (I get those online) so I can be ready to have someone do my taxes when I get my W2's.  I normally do my own taxes, but with working from home I get to write off a lot of stuff and that's beyond my ability.
 

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So, I don't get the be a bridesmaid in my "twin's" wedding, after all.  We're not blood related, but we look a lot alike and are so similar, it's scary.  Anyway, because of the whole "one thing after another" thing I've been dealing with, I haven't been able to get the dress.  I'll have money the first week of February but I called and they said even if I order it today, it won't get there in time.  They have a dress in my size in Florida and in Austin, TX.  My friend lives in Amarillo, but Texas is HUGE and it's a 10 hour drive.  And they said it would take too long to ship it.  Lamos.  How hard is it to ship a dress?  They'd make it happen if I was rich.  *pouts*
 

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Our cats have never really worn tags as they have collars that are embroidered with our home number and their names. Since we're moving, and won't have the home number anymore, I made them tags to go on the collars while I order them some new ones. Carrot doesn't care about his tag, but Angua and Ruby are going crazy about them. Angua has always tried to eat tags. Ruby is trying to hide from hers.
 

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Well, I just got fired.

I wasn't even yawning tonight but they said I was.  I was sneezing.  I hit mute as soon as it started and apologized.  Apparently that sounded like yawning.  Why am I so upset?  I'm crying.  I hated the job.  I've never gotten fired from anything before!!!
 
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