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This is inspired! I'm sure everyone who has ever worked with the general public can appreciate this on a deep level. I especially like the people who want refunds on non-winning lottery tickets.
Sometimes it's just all you can do.
@Tallyollyopia- sometimes just getting it out of your system helps. I used to write nasty letters to whoever had pissed me off including my boss and then burnt them. It was cathartic. That is probably why I could stay on the job long enough to retire.
Hey, at least you got a friend out of it! Maybe it was just a communication issue?
Oh, Lordy, does this ever bring back memories. I wrote a letter ranting about my boss once and he found it before I could destroy it.He was vitally important to my career and I was about to break down and cry from my humiliation and fear at messing all of my plans up to such a degree. To my astonishment, he sat down with me and calmly discussed all of my complaints. He even allowed me to make some changes. Long story short - it's been years and neither one of us work there any longer but we somehow have managed a lasting friendship.
Well, in our family we have a tradition that the Thanksgiving turkey feeds us until Christmas, so we get the biggest birds (at the cheapest per pound price) that we can find.
What were you cooking? A young emu?
Question: would you feel bad about not inviting your dad's parents because you like them and enjoy their company, or would you feel bad because it's socially appropriate? If you like them, take them aside and explain that you understand most of your father's family doesn't understand you very well, and that's why you're inviting them without inviting the rest of the crew. If it's just because it's socially appropriate--throw social preconceptions aside. It's your day, and you should focus on what will make you happy. (Or, at least, that's how I feel about it.)This is my rant for the day.
As some of you may know, I recently got engaged. Those of you familiar with facebook probably know how you can update your relationship status. So when I got engaged I set mine to say I was engaged. Many people liked and commented wishing us well. All of my family on my mom's side (at least the ones who use Facebook) did.
As far as my dad's side of the family goes, I think they couldn't care less about my immediate family. We are sort of the "black sheep" to them. They are extremely religious (hateful bigot level religious). My grandfather (my dad's father) was a pastor.
Anyway, they kinda shun us because my immediate family doesn't go to church. And we generally disagree on a lit of political and social issues. They think that my mother was the reason that we don't go to church, when in reality, my father is a full blown Atheist (which we could never tell them because they would probably literally never speak to us again). Anyway, they invite us to family events and things like that (pretty much just to be polite) and then pertty much act like my sister and I aren't even there. They might ask us how college is going or make some other small talk just to be polite but then literally ignore us for the rest of the time. I can't talk to them because none of them actually listen to what I say.
So anyway, back to the engagement thing. I know this is petty but NOT ONE PERSON from my dad's side of the family even liked the post or said congratulations or anything like that. I know they saw it because all of them are on Facebook ALL THE TIME. And I know if one of my cousins were to get engaged they would all go nuts and like and comment and congratulate them!
I am so fed up with their pettiness that I am seriously debating not even inviting them to the wedding. I don't know if I would be able to take all their negativity on my wedding day.
But then again, my dad's parents are my only living grandparents and I'd feel bad if I didn't invite them. Ugh. I don't know what to do. [emoji]128547[/emoji]
Being that I am an Atheist as well (of my own decision, my family made it very clear to me when I was a child that I could believe what I chose to believe and they would not judge me for it), I also don't want to have a "Christian" wedding. I want our wedding to be about my fiancé and I, not about god or being "joined together before god in holy matrimony".
So I don't know about inviting my dad's family, as I am sure they will just go home and whisper about us behind our backs [emoji]128530[/emoji]
The problem was keeping the stuffing moist as it cooked. But we managed--and you know, we've had extra stuffing ever since. (The stuff from the bird does taste the best though.)
Extra stuffing? I fail to see the problem. That just means more leftovers, right? Just put the extra in a casserole dish to cook! By the way, in my opinion, Thanksgiving leftovers are the greatest thing since WAY before sliced bread.
As for your wedding, don't invite them. I got married once. My mother in law was not invited. In fact, we showed her picture to my best friend's brother and uncle (VERY large men) with strict orders to toss her headfirst in a snowdrift if she had the gall to show her face. She's a horrible, nasty person and it was MY day. Why worry about offending people who don't like you anyway? Save yourself some stress and just decide that they'll never like or accept you so you don't give a fig. If you really want them to be involved, have a second reception (so you can fully enjoy the first one) and invite them to that. If they confront you about it, just tell them they didn't seem happy about the news so you didn't want to put them in the awkward position of having to decline the invitation.
Poor Jasmine! Too bad you can't share it!
Well, FaceBook hadn't been invented yet when we got married (not that I would have been on it if it had), but we solved the problem by holding our wedding out of doors in the mountains, at dawn. Then we invited everyone, including the people we didn't want. They had a good excuse to stay away, and the people we really wanted came and thought it was a lovely wedding (although my grandmother did comment afterwards "It was a nice wedding after all!").
@Tallyollyopia, I really don't have anything I want dyed purple, though it's a fine idea. I have some things I want to tie dye, but that's not exactly the same thing.
I love your notice; too bad you can't post it. However, even if you did post it it would do no good. The kind of people it's aimed at are the kind of people who don't give a rat's ass anyway. (And Jasmine's ears prick up. "What? You have a rat's ass and didn't tell me?!)
@Mamanyt1953, well, what can I say? There, that's what I can say. I've told you before, and I'm sure I'll tell you again, more than once. I don't care if you're Einstein, occasionally you add two plus two and get five.
As for the SNURK emoji, try this:
Margret
Question: what does having an outdoor wedding have to do with your dad's side of the family? Or am I misunderstanding something?I know the facebook thing is kinda petty. But I'm more upset because of the way my sister and I are treated compared to my cousins. It really is as if we don't exist.
But I really want to have my wedding outdoors. I was thinking my parents' backyard (they have a 2 acre backyard) because it is big enough for lots of chairs and we could possibly even have the reception there as well (depending on costs for catering and renting the tables of course). I have already asked my parents and they are on board with that. We even have neighbors who have a huge parking lot on their property (the previous owners were farmers & auto mechanics who ran their business out of their own home so they had lots of parking for their customers). They have let us use that lot for events and parties in the past so I'm sure they'd let us use it again for the wedding.