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No, that's more likely with hypoglycemia.  Before I found out I was sensitive to milk, but after I'd been diagnosed with diabetes, I was having trouble adjusting to the metformin.  One of the reasons they prescribe metformin is that it's supposed to be impossible for it cause hypoglycemia, so they can just tell patients to take a certain dose at a certain time every day with food, and then not to worry.  In reality, between 1% and 5% of healthy volunteers in a double blind study reported hypoglycemia as a side effect.  I fall into the 1 - 5% category.  I was also having a lot of trouble with nausea on metformin, until my body adjusted to it.  So one morning I woke up with severe nausea and rushed to the kitchen for some milk to calm the nausea.  It helped, but then I began to feel guilty, because milk has enough lactose (a sugar) that it always raised my blood glucose level.  I immediately took my blood sugar, and it was 20!  So, in the first place, extreme hunger does nauseate me, so that could be the reason metformin caused nausea, in the second place, I'm lucky I wasn't in insulin shock at that level, and in the third place I'm incredibly proud of the fact that I was actually able to control the trembling enough to take my blood sugar when it was that low.

Diabetes has a nasty learning curve.

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I know. One of my uncles is what's known as a "brittle diabetic" (still not entirely sure what that means), but one summer, during a reunion, he got to feeling exceptionally sick. Here's how everyone figured out that he was going hypoglycemic--I (and I was about eight at the time) saw him curled up in a chair and--before anyone could stop me--gave him a piece of candy. (Because, to an eight year-old, candy fixes everything.) Five minutes later he was fine. I've kept candy in my purse ever since.
A brittle diabetic is a type 1 diabetic (insulin dependent) who can do everything exactly right -- take his blood sugar, inject exactly the right amount of insulin given his current blood sugar and what he plans to eat, eat what he had planned -- and then, occasionally, for no obvious reason and therefore not at predictable times, his pancreas will suddenly start working and produce its own insulin.  At this point he has too much insulin and goes into hypoglycemia.  Depending on the amount of excess insulin in his bloodstream it can be instantly fatal.  If he's driving when it happens it can be fatal for someone else.  It's called insulin shock, and you're the only other person I know (except Roger) who has actually witnessed it.

When I was first married Roger's best friend was a man named Joe Henry (he used both his first and middle names, apparently because it's customary in New Orleans, where he came from).  He lived just down the street from us and was an extremely good friend to us, and he was a brittle diabetic.  He was also a shade tree mechanic who kept our vehicles working when we couldn't afford to take them in to the shop.  One day he'd been working on our van and I was with him on a test drive.  We had pulled over for some reason (thank goodness) when he suddenly began talking strangely.  Every sentence made perfect sense, in and of itself, but not one of them followed logically from the previous sentence.  I asked him to wait for me and went to the closest pay phone (yes, that long ago) and called Roger, because he'd known Joe Henry longer than I had.  When I described the symptoms to Roger he immediately identified it as insulin shock (he'd seen it in Joe Henry as well) and told me to get some sugar into him.  There was a little fast food place (not even a drive through) across the street, with a line of people that extended out the front door, because it was lunch time.  I crossed the street and barged to the front of the line, explaining that it was an emergency.  I said that I had a friend in insulin shock and I needed a soft drink with lots of sugar and no ice, as quickly as possible, and tried to hand the clerk more than enough money to pay for it.  He refused to take my money, gave me a coke with no ice, and I got it back to Joe Henry as quickly as possible and told him to drink it.  He obeyed, and as soon as he began making sense again I told him what had happened and went back to the fast food place to announce that all was well (tumultuous applause) and try again to pay.  They turned my money down, again!  


Joe Henry eventually died of a heart attack, as most brittle diabetics do if they live long enough.  That kind of huge blood sugar swing is extremely hard on the heart.  I wish we'd had the money to give him a proper New Orleans jazz funeral.
 
Has he ever actually talked to a physical therapist?  The good ones are also good listeners.  They believe the patient when he says it hurts.  That doesn't mean they don't push him to do a little bit more, but that's the way any kind of exercise works.

It sounds to me as if he's decided that he'd rather be paralyzed than actually try to help himself, I'm sorry to say.  I hope I'm wrong.

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I'm afraid that may be the case. I've been trying to subtly suggest he should at least consult  a physical therapist, but subtlety isn't my strong suit. 
I wonder whether it's time to forget subtlety and ask him outright?  Sometimes that's the only way to get subconscious decisions out into the open where it's possible to actually look at them logically.  You know him and I don't; it's a judgement call and you're the only one who can make it.

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A brittle diabetic is a type 1 diabetic (insulin dependent) who can do everything exactly right -- take his blood sugar, inject exactly the right amount of insulin given his current blood sugar and what he plans to eat, eat what he had planned -- and then, occasionally, for no obvious reason and therefore not at predictable times, his pancreas will suddenly start working and produce its own insulin.  At this point he has too much insulin and goes into hypoglycemia.  Depending on the amount of excess insulin in his bloodstream it can be instantly fatal.  If he's driving when it happens it can be fatal for someone else.  It's called insulin shock, and you're the only other person I know (except Roger) who has actually witnessed it.

When I was first married Roger's best friend was a man named Joe Henry (he used both his first and middle names, apparently because it's customary in New Orleans, where he came from).  He lived just down the street from us and was an extremely good friend to us, and he was a brittle diabetic.  He was also a shade tree mechanic who kept our vehicles working when we couldn't afford to take them in to the shop.  One day he'd been working on our van and I was with him on a test drive.  We had pulled over for some reason (thank goodness) when he suddenly began talking strangely.  Every sentence made perfect sense, in and of itself, but not one of them followed logically from the previous sentence.  I asked him to wait for me and went to the closest pay phone (yes, that long ago) and called Roger, because he'd known Joe Henry longer than I had.  When I described the symptoms to Roger he immediately identified it as insulin shock (he'd seen it in Joe Henry as well) and told me to get some sugar into him.  There was a little fast food place (not even a drive through) across the street, with a line of people that extended out the front door, because it was lunch time.  I crossed the street and barged to the front of the line, explaining that it was an emergency.  I said that I had a friend in insulin shock and I needed a soft drink with lots of sugar and no ice, as quickly as possible, and tried to hand the clerk more than enough money to pay for it.  He refused to take my money, gave me a coke with no ice, and I got it back to Joe Henry as quickly as possible and told him to drink it.  He obeyed, and as soon as he began making sense again I told him what had happened and went back to the fast food place to announce that all was well (tumultuous applause) and try again to pay.  They turned my money down, again!  


Joe Henry eventually died of a heart attack, as most brittle diabetics do if they live long enough.  That kind of huge blood sugar swing is extremely hard on the heart.  I wish we'd had the money to give him a proper New Orleans jazz funeral.

I wonder whether it's time to forget subtlety and ask him outright?  Sometimes that's the only way to get subconscious decisions out into the open where it's possible to actually look at them logically.  You know him and I don't; it's a judgement call and you're the only one who can make it.

Margret
Poor Joe Henry! It does sound like my uncle though. I guess it's a good thing he was at a reunion with an eight year-old who thought candy solved everything (I did grow out of it). And kudos to the fast food people! I'd do the same darn thing if someone in my store was going into insulin shock!

I started by asking outright about the physical therapist, and he got moody and defensive, which is why I switched to a subtle approach. (Or as subtle as I can be--like I said, it's not my strong suit.) I'm hoping  that the information that he needs  to talk to and listen  to a physical therapist gets in there before the surgery.
 
How many different stories are you working on?
This is difficult to explain, so please bear with me. My head is full of story ideas, all the time, and the only way to shut them up so I can sleep is to write as much of at least three at a time down as possible. (If I can manage to actually finish  a story, it's quiet in my head for almost two weeks.) Like I mentioned earlier, if I go for too long without writing, I get physically ill. So--somewhere between three or ten, depending. At this moment  I'm working on four; Magic School and EggSeven Wonders, Dancers, and Wizard Wars.
 

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@segelkatt  , please let me know if you want to see anything in any of the others I'm working on. Or anyone else, who's interested. I'll be frank; at the moment I don't intend on posting more in Seven Wonders, but I'll be happy to if people want to read more of it.
 

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I was just thinking about my childhood with gymnastics. and decided to look up a youtube video on uneven bars exercises and wow there's some talented kids out there! came across this video


and the thing I found interesting was the exercises they have the kids do-I was watching all the kids and wow I don't think I could do half of the stuff they do. Talk about a hard workout! What happened to us?!  These kids didn't even break a sweat! I used to do gymnastics so many years ago and for some reason I got out of it-oh it's because we didn't have money. Back then it was $50 a week and that was in the mid 80s. Back then that was a ton of money. Can't imagine how much it is now. I won gymnast of the year because I trained for 30 days straight to do a split. I can only do it on my left leg out but 30 days later I did it. I wasn't good with back flips-full on fear of back breaking but I could do most of the other stuff. They used those foam wheels to help me learn back walkovers and I just couldn't bend my back enough to do it. I could make a bridge barely but to actually do back flips and tucks I just couldn't do it.  I was just noticing how it seems like only yesterday I left High school to go into the adult world.

I find it interesting that some people have an attitude about PT. I think exercise and movement is essential for our bodies-we are designed to be in motion.

Margaret I am glad you were able to help your friend and you too Tally. How scary.

I remember in one grade we had a teacher who was diabetic and she was slurring her speech and acting weird-someone - wasn't me- ran and got someone and they gave her orange juice- I was too shy and scared of my shadow back then and of course I didn't know that was why she was acting weird-I think I may have been reading a book inside my textbook and didn't notice at first what was going on. That was me-always in the back of the class working on something else more fun than whatever they were droning on about.

Alicia-I am glad your mom came over to help you. That's a great mom right there. I hope you guys can get a new job and figure it out and so glad you have help!
 

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Thanks.  My mom and I don't always get along - at times, we've gotten downright hostile - but we still love each other.  And 99% of our not getting along stems from the thing she calls a man she's had around since I was a small child, but I'm not going to get into that.  Just suffice to say that no 8 year old should see her mother picked up by the thrown and thrown through a door.
 

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That's for sure. Sometimes our mothers found it harder to break out of bad relationships than we did. My mom was the same-stayed with my dad when he was down right cruel to her. I never understood why she stayed but I do now that I am older-money is a big part of the picture-my mother never could get it in her head that she could make her own way in the world. She didn't want to be alone and never thought she could find someone better...funny how us girls always seem that we will never find someone again after leaving a relationship-not sure where we learn this but I found our moms generation they have a real hard time starting over. It's just the way they were raised-they were brought up to accept the way things were and to just shush. Our generation was raised to break out of the box and try new things...
 

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My mom is the one who makes the money.  She's a nurse - LPN.  She's always supported herself and us - and him.  He's nothing but an abusive methhead who steals from her.  I don't know that he's done an honest day's work in his life.  And she still won't get rid of him.  I refuse to have anything to do with him.  I think she's finally figured that out.  If I'm supposed to meet her somewhere and he's there, I just walk out.  If she even mentions him, I leave.  If it's over the phone, I hang up on her.  She needs to get rid of him.  He used to abuse me and I know he's abusing my sister and there's nothing I can do about it.  I've turned him in repeatedly; no one will do anything about it.
 

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On another note, I think I have to admit that Connor's name doesn't quite fit him.  From now on, he will be know his His Royal Majesty, Prince Connor.
 

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I am sorry your mom doesn't see the reality. Hugs to you. It's so hard to leave. Not sure why she feels tethered to him. It's sad to see someone take another person down and everyone on the outside looking in sees the issues but we ourselves can be blind to it. I remember you talking about this. Hopefully your mom gets the message soon. If she works then there's no reason why she can't kick him to the curb.

OK you can skip this-rant warning.

I have already decided I am done with men. Once this relationship dissolves then I will be a spinster and live ALONE, I just don't play well with others. It would have to take a very special man to change my mind again. With our current issues regarding money not seeing eye to eye I am sure by summer I will be a single woman again. On one hand I am sad to see it end but on the other I just won't compromise myself in the name of another person. I have things I feel deeply about and the other side thinks that I will be persuaded to "go along" just because. One of the issues is living area. I won't move in with a man unless we are married. Period. I worked too hard for too long for my small dinky place to be displaced by someone else's family members if something was to happen. I know it seems like a waste having 2 houses but I just don't feel right living in a home that belongs to someone else. Their name on all the bills and the house just rubs me the wrong way. It's something that needs to be discussed but whenever I bring it up all I get is silence or asked what does they want to do about it? like tv bill= (warning = im ranting)

I told him that the bill is going to $xx in May and I don't know what to do,. so they said shut it off..i got mad. and I said well why don't we split it? and they said why is that what you want me to do?! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. So I am fuming because I like to watch tv too sometimes you know but bills are getting bigger and bigger and well when someone lives in a home with someone and doesn't contribute to money=-honestly it TICKSS  me oOFFF! so I brought up the fact that it costs $xxxx a month to live here with all the bills- mortgage utilities tax insurance etc etc. I asked for help. and they said what do you want me to pay? I should have said half of everything like most people do. But I just named a lower figure. then they said what about the fuel to heat it and grocery money I already give you? I said you were already paying for this so I figured you would continue to pay for it since you insist on blasting the heat on 70 which I HATE. So now I know I may have shot off my foot but seriously I never understood why this person didn't offer to pay half on things.. and I said $xxx a week for food is not enough. I can't afford soap and paper products. So he has been buying those things as I tell him casually hey we need x or y.

 and meat is EXPENSIVE.  I have been giving him the receipt for the food to prove it. this week alone we spent $170 and it's because I bought meats and some prepared foods to keep him tied over until I can cook later this week. ($170 was 3 trips in 8 days) I  don't buy a ton of big name stuff but I do buy produce. Half the cost is fresh produce or meats and the rest is my lunch meals and nuts.

so I left a list of bills and amounts monthly on the desk where he sits at my computer and he never said anything until 5 days later. I am perturbed still. I mean I want companionship like the next person but if said person has money coming in from various things and it's not like they didn't save money or are poor then I don't think I am wrong to ask for help. Seriously I try my best to be frugal but I am noticing that even working all the hours I do, the gym hours, the running around to cook food-I feel like I am getting the short end of the stick.

what do you guys think? I should have worded it differently or maybe just shut my mouth.

the agreement years ago was I was going to buy this trailer until he builds his house then maybe move in with him..that was 10 years ago. Now it's been 2 years they have been retired and they sold their other property last feb. so almost a year they have been staying with me and I don't understand why I am having a hard time bringing up money. sigh.

So now I know he is full of crap and I told him last month I know you will never build that house. but I didn't bring up money. Then for Christmas he kept asking me what I wanted=I was going to say I want help with bills but I just gave him a list of things we need- windshield wipers, meds for pumpkin face, feliway and socks. So at least they won't be frivolous things-they are things I will need. He did get all those things-installed the wipers for me-one was stuck and the pin wouldn't release (passenger side) maybe I just need to man up and stop being so afraid to talk about hard subjects.

I keep asking him if he is sad or depressed because he won't leave the house-only watches tv all day or texts his brothers or sons. I am glad he communicates with people but I can't get him to join me at the gym. I am at my wits end with this relationship. I feel like I am boxed up and abandoned and I HATE that feeling. I hate when people say oh yeah I do this or that then find out they are full of ..... I want to do things but he doesn't want to do it. I knew this wasn't going to work out. there are too many years between us and we have not much in common other than we both are frugal and distrustful of government lol. oh and cats. He loves my cats and is the best cat daddy. I almost feel like crying because I know Pumps would miss him if he was to go...so maybe I can just keep up a happy face and stuff these emotions cause nothing good is coming.
 

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I think you have every reason to be upset.  Money is a hard subject, but sometimes you've gotta stand up and get mad.

I'm done with men if John and I don't work out.  I thought about becoming lesbian, but I'm not attracted to women and I've heard that's a requirement.  So then I decided to be a nun.  I'm not Catholic, but I can create an order of Baptist nuns.  Right?  I'm still in the idea phase.
 

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Oh @foxxycat  , what a complicated mess!   As someone who took way too long to leave a marriage that wasn't working, I can really sympathize with what you're going through.  All the second guessing of yourself is so stressful and painful.   Just looking at this from the outside, I'd say to kick the bum out.  Yes, he likes cats but that doesn't make up for the fact that he's basically free-loading.  Unless he is paying half of the expenses or making up for it by other contributions to the household, there is no other way to put it.  The fact that you left him an itemized list of the monthly expenses and he said nothing about it for days, raises a huge red flag to me.   He was avoiding the subject because he didn't feel comfortable addressing it.  He wouldn't feel so uncomfortable if he actually had a legitimate argument.

I don't think you should keep your feelings under wraps for Pumpkin.  You may very well explode if his behavior sends you to the breaking point.    That happened to me and it was very fortunate that I retained enough sense to leave before someone was hurt.   You mention that you both believe in being frugal - well, he's taking it too far because he's making you pay for more than your share.  That's not being frugal.  That's more like theft.  It sounds to me like he's gaslighting you a bit as well, by trying to convince you that he really is doing his share.  You've got the figures, you know he isn't.  
 

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that's the thing=he never dealt with a mortgage or all the other bs of bills-granted he had bills at his prior home but it was pennies compared to what I pay. I knew this wasn't going to workout.

yesterday morning I left out various food items he could make if he got hungry- tuna can ontop of bread- lunchmeat in front of his juice container in the fridge and eggs on top shelf. I asked him if he knows how to cook French toast? I said it would be wonderful if he could start helping out around the house.

I came home yesterday and he went to cumberlands and bought 2 boxes of icecream drum sticks...what's that tell you?!!!
 (because I saw him eating icecream when I came into the house) I asked what that was-he says grapes..to be funny.

at work trying to get my work done and their darn network is down. I need to order supplies and do some training that they require us to do but I can't do it.
 
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I'm not one to talk because I've never been in a romantic relationship. . .but communicate! I absolutely hate it when people expect me to read their minds or guess at what they're trying to say. Just say it for pete's sake. There's no point getting angry at someone whan you haven't actually told them what you want from them.

I thought about becoming lesbian, but I'm not attracted to women and I've heard that's a requirement.
LOL, that nearly made me snort water up my nose!

No reason to join/start a convent or pretend to be lesbian. Just be single. It's great! :D
 
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@foxxycat  It tells me that he's in it for himself.   He might be depressed as you suggested in your earlier post but unless he wants help, he's not going to get it.  Have you considered some kind of couples therapy?

I'm retired and I can tell you that if I lived with someone who worked the long hours that you do, I would be making meals and doing household chores just to give the working person a break.   It wouldn't matter to me if it was fair or whatever.  There is nothing wrong with being considerate and kind.   
I'm not one to talk because I've never been in a romantic relationship. . .but communicate! I absolutely hate it when people expect me to read their minds or guess at what they're trying to say. Just say it for pete's sake. There's no point getting angry at someone whan you haven't actually told them what you want from them.
LOL, that nearly made me snort water up my nose!

No reason to join/start a convent or pretend to be lesbian. Just be single. It's great!
Agree with being single. I wouldn't have it any other way at this point.  
 

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He won't go to therapy. I know I have things that I do that ticks him off but see that's where I am stuck-why should I change myself to keep him? If I turn into this "perfect" woman he still won't be happy. The latest is the snipping about my body. That has been the last straw,. I looked at him and said I would never dream of being rude to him. He didn't say anything after that. I told him that was hurtful and I would always support him in health and sickness...so now I know it's one sided. If I am not perfect maybe he will figure it out and finally say I have had enough.

I understand I should speak up but I SHOULDNT HAVE TO! He knows it costs money to run a house. He should offer to cover the expenses. He doesn't care that I work long hours. And when I go to the store for clothes he says don't you already have enough? I said I can't fit into what I have and of course I get the well if you stopped eating junk you would be able to. Hence he eats more junk than I ever could. Honestly I am just slowly steaming. I don't even want to work it out. I am at the point where resentment has boiled up for MONTHS.. I tried to do things for him or get him things at the store or just be kind and I don't get much in return. I shouldn't have to tell him what I want. He should be able to do it on his own.

When a man doesn't buy flowers or some nice little thing just because=you know it's over. I never was for cards or dodads but heck bringing me home something small just to say hey I thought about you. I don't care about money but sometimes I would like to have him do something for me. He says he does the snow removal and I should be fine with that...lol.

I have to look up the gaslighting. I remember someone else talking about that here on another thread. Honestly I wasn't the one who asked him out-he kept saying it was going to be fine-but I know there are things I did that started the divide and nothing I can do now to fix it. One thing is when someone has kids with another woman I don't really want to get involved with his relationship with them-he gets upset because I won't go with him to see them=he only goes 2 times a year=I said I don't want to intrude on his time with his kids=they don't need their dad's girlfriend getting in the way of his relationship=at least to me it makes sense-I do ask him to call his kids more than 2 times a year and go see them. I just really don't feel comfortable with them. They are great kids and I just don't feel like it will work out..I don't know..just my anxiety goes sky high. They don't do anything to make me uncomfortable=it's all me.

The age difference bothers me. I knew it would be an issue. Back when we both worked together it wasn't as big of an issue but as I was able to find things I wanted to do he didn't want to go with me so I slowly felt like I was stuffed in a box and only played with on their terms. I have said  this and he says no that's not true. He says you are the one who pushes people away. So yes I know what I did wrong. Either way at least I finally brought it up after simmering for so long.

looking back I never offered to help pay bills in the prior relationships but they always made more money than me-but now the shoe is on the other foot and maybe I grew up a bit and of course the cost of living is getting ridiculous for all.  It will work itself out eventually. Some day.
 

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Gaslighting is. . .well, it's named after a technique in an old book, of trying to convince someone they're going crazy, by lowering the gas lights in the room, when they say "oh, is it dim in here?" The other person says "no, it's fine, are you feeling OK?" And other ways of making them feel crazy. Basically, it's when someone tells you that you're the problem, insists that whatever they're doing is fine, you're the one who has a problem. The usual stuff that abusive people do, even when they aren't being overtly abusive. It can really mess with your head.

My mom often says "I shouldn't have to tell him!". OK, maybe that's true, what do I know, but she's lived with him for 40 years and knows very well that if you don't tell him to do something, he won't do it. That's just how he is. If she can't live with it, leave. Don't just whine about it.

Personally, I don't feel comfortable guessing at what other people want. I always guess wrong. If they think that means I don't care about them, that stinks, but I there's nothing I can do about it. So if someone doesn't tell me what they want me to do, I don't. Must be genetic, from my dad :tongue2:. Probably best I continue to stay out of romantic relationships, I guess.
 

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I'm sitting at the window (don't have to work today) watching the farm cats. Most of them moved back to the neighbor's place after I got them fixed (fortunately the neighbors are amenable and had the others fixed), only 1 really lives here now. He's a Siamese-look boy, I call him Possum. One of his brothers comes back now and then, I saw him earlier today, he's named Four-socks. I just saw Possum go into the barn, now I can see another cat sitting in the long grass, but all I can make out is a patch of white. Four-socks has some white on his chest (and socks!) but this looks like more white than what he has. So now I'm worried that another cat has moved in. . .argh! Hopefully it's just Four-socks and he has more white than I remember.


Haha, now Possum is sitting in the sun patch in front of the barn, licking his belly, in full view of the dog yard (the dogs are fenced). So the dogs are going crazy barking at him. I think he enjoys teasing them :tongue2:.
 
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What will Hekitty think? 
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Hekitty will think pretty much what she has always thought...that I'm crazy as an outhouse mouse, and that it's just as well she is here to look after me.
 
OMG, Pretzel sounds like quite a character!!!

Well, my mom just randomly stopped by.  She brought me a big thing of cat litter, 3 lbs of hamburger, pork chops, chicken nuggets,fish fillets, a huge bag of potatoes, a gallon of milk, and several cans of vegetables.  And after she left, I stuck my hand in my sweater pocket and found a $20 bill.  Called her and she says she knows nothing about it; I must have put it in there myself and forgotten about it.  Uh-huh.  Sure I did.  Except, you know, I never have cash because I use my card for everything.  So then she said maybe it was from a long time ago and I'd washed it with my sweater.  Yep.  Cuz money comes out of the washer all crisp and new.  My mother is a terrible liar.

So, thanks to my mom, we're not gonna starve.  :)
My mom used to do things like that as well...although she would have handed me the twenty...and reminded me of it several times.  Your mom's way is better!
 
I know. One of my uncles is what's known as a "brittle diabetic" (still not entirely sure what that means), but one summer, during a reunion, he got to feeling exceptionally sick. Here's how everyone figured out that he was going hypoglycemic--I (and I was about eight at the time) saw him curled up in a chair and--before anyone could stop me--gave him a piece of candy. (Because, to an eight year-old, candy fixes everything.) Five minutes later he was fine. I've kept candy in my purse ever since.

I'm afraid that may be the case. I've been trying to subtly suggest he should at least consult  a physical therapist, but subtlety isn't my strong suit. 
A brittle diabetic is one who's blood sugar can fluctuate wildly regardless of diet.  It is, obviously, the most dangerous form of diabetes because there is really no way to regulate it.

I'm watchig this storm right now.  We may not get the snow, but get winter mix instead.  RATS!  I WANT FLUFFY WHITE!
 

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@foxxycat  It tells me that he's in it for himself.   He might be depressed as you suggested in your earlier post but unless he wants help, he's not going to get it.  Have you considered some kind of couples therapy?

I'm retired and I can tell you that if I lived with someone who worked the long hours that you do, I would be making meals and doing household chores just to give the working person a break.   It wouldn't matter to me if it was fair or whatever.  There is nothing wrong with being considerate and kind.   

Agree with being single. I wouldn't have it any other way at this point.  
Yeah, but just being single isn't as funny.

John got laid off so now he's doing pretty much all of the housework.  Just not the cooking.  His idea of cooking is opening a box and putting the contents in the oven.  Anything that requires skill falls to me.  LOL
 
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