Hi there everyone my name's Al and about a month ago I "adopted" a 4+/- year old female cat. This is by no means my first cat I've been around/had a relationship with, but it is the first one that is really all mine. I live alone in a relatively small two bedroom apartment in Oakland. It's not a living situation where I can let her out. I don't have a patio or balcony and it's really not safe to leave after dark. Anyway, this cat, her name is "Tammy" was given to me by a dear friend. The cat had been in a sad living situation; she was safe and fed but was living with an elderly lady who was extremely sick (under hospice care) and from what I was told Tammy was really unhappy, The first night here she cried all night and it was miserable. I guess aside from introducing myself and my cat, I wanted to share briefly what's happening. She is by nature skittish. The other cats I have been with were somewhat skittish but not to this degree, After a few days with me she started to warm up to me and actually began sleeping in the bed with me and kneading me. She gets nothing but the most attentive treatment and I am a neat freak so she lives in a very clean environment. She is well fed and looks great (I will try to post some pictures soon). When I leave in the morning and return in the afternoon she never tries to "escape" and occasionally plays with toys. But over the past month she seems to have grown distant and I don't know what I am doing wrong. I knew there would be an adjustment period but it seemed like that went fast and now what I thought would be occurring in the adjustment period seems to be going on now. She seldom sleeps in the bed, preferring to sleep on the couch in the living room or under the bed. When I am home all weekend she will sometimes spend the whole day under the bed. I don't know if she has decided she hates me, if she is lonely, or just what. When she does come up on the bed or next to me on the couch she is sometimes affectionate, but then leaves after twenty minutes max. I suppose I am looking for ways others have used to bond with their cats or techniques they have used to strengthen their relationship. Would it help if I adopted a kitten, that way she would have feline company. Since I do a lot of my work from home, she is actually not alone all that much. But now, I'm in the kitchen typing, and she's under the bed when I would much rather have her in her little cat bed I purchased for precisely this reason, but she has yet to even go near it. Thanks in advance for any advice/suggestions and I'm looking forward to learning a lot from all the various forums.