When can i respectfully try again with a new Kitty

Anyone that has seen my posts knows that i got a kitten JAxx and after three months with me he had to go to heaven, My heart is broken.. I hadnt had a cat for over 20 years ... prior to Jaxx i had Biffe.. who lived a long life his passing was hard.. i had him 20 years.. but understood.. 

My question .. What is a respectful time frame to try again? I know he was a helper kitty, when i met JAxx at the adoption center.. he was laying on a sick little runt.. washing him and keeping him warm,., that made me love him.. he is my forever baby kitty.. That being said.. I am still crying.. daily.. i have so much love to give. I know he would want me to help the Kitties.. How long do u think till i can try again? Never replace.. just .. Try.. 

Many of us have had to face this decision. We cannot bear to think about our loss, but the house seems empty without a cat in it. and our heart even emptier. There is no one answer - everyone is different. I think the solution is the say 'the time is right when I meet the right cat'. How you do that is up to you - you can be pro-active, go to shelters, ask around, or you can sit and wait for a cat to find you. In my life I have never had to wait long before a cat turned up needing my help, and I rarely really had to make a decision. But if you decide to go to a shelter, do not be surprised of a pair of eyes meet yours across the room and something just clicks. It can happen at any time. And one of the best ways to get over grief is with a cat who needs you cuddling on your lap. I am so sorry you have had to go through this time, and I hope that soon you are not alone any more.

I would just say that every cat is different, and I do think the worst mistake anyone can make is to go for a new companion on the grounds that he/she looks like the one you have lost. It is an easy mistake to make in the aftermath of loss. Almost certainly you will start to resent the newcomer for not being the same as the previous cat, whereas if you have a cat who is completely different in looks then it is easier to accept the difference in personality, and to love the new one for itself.

I'm so sorry that you feel so sad. I lost my 15 year old last year and waited 2 months. Then 6 months later I lost my 17 year old. I got another kitten within days because it felt right. There is no timescale, it just has to be right for you. Visit a shelter and let a cat/kitten choose you. You will know if it is the right time and cat. Good luck

When we lost our girl, Mattie, last June, we had decided we were not going to have another cat. That lasted six months. Before the end of December we had another cat. You will know when the time is right. Respect doesn't really figure into the picture here. There is no required time to wait. It is only necessary to wait until you feel ready to have another fur baby.

A year ago today, I adopted our girl Pea-Pea. Two weeks and five days before that, I had lost my feline soul-mate, Lucky. I felt I needed to do something special to honor him, and nothing I did seemed like enough. Giving another life a home is the most honorable thing one can do for a lost pet. It will never be a replacement - there just is no such thing - but it was the least I could do.

That's my take on it :nod: Everyone has their own timelines though, there is no right or wrong answer.

I waited nearly a year after my cat passed away before even starting to think about another cat. I had gerbils at the time so I wasn't completely pet-less. I moved to a new place and it just felt empty without a cat. I started looking around that summer at shelters and Petfinder. Long story short, exactly one year to the hour after my cat had gone to the Bridge I brought home an Aby kitten. I really waned a rescue cat but somehow the Aby felt just right. I just knew that my cat had a part in sending the kitten my way. I did later adopt a rescue cat.

When you feel ready, you'll know. It may be tomorrow or it may be several years from now. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about, espcailly people who don't understand pets and see them as disposable things

When can you get another baby? When you're ready. And it's different for everybody. If you feel that you're ready to have another kitty in your life, then it's time. Otherwise, let it go for a while. Only you can make that choice. You don't have to have a kitty in your life right now, if you're not ready. 

When Banshee died, my life stopped. I was a mess and it was so hard to pretend that everything was OK. Because it wasn't. We still had five other cats, but that hole was so big. Rick didn't want another cat and I got it. I did. But boy. I looked on Petfinder and other sites. I even checked out kittens at a shelter. But nothing was right. And then, down at our vet, I met Mollipop when she was a wee five-week old baby girl. It was probably about six months after the Queen B had passed away. As soon as I held that girl in my arms and she looked up at me, even our vet knew Molli had found her mama. Banshee has been gone six years now; I think of my Queen B every day....I don't think one day has passed that I haven't looked at her picture on my desk at work. And I don't know who needed whom, whether I needed Mollipop or she needed me, probably she would have found a home anyway. But I needed that girl and she is my life. 

So, if you're ready to love another kitty, go for it. There are babies out there who need you desperately. And if you're ready, so are they!   I wish you well.