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My cats are at an age (and in one case, health) to where my husband and I have had talks about when they go. We agree on the basics - there will be another cat. However, after that we can't agree.
I am ethically and practically opposed to getting a kitten. I don't want my blinds shredded, I don't want to have to yank a kitten out of the Christmas tree, I don't want to have to deal with the claws that are so sharp that they could be used as hypodermic needles, I don't want to litter box train (BIG!!!), I don't want to deal with crazy amounts of energy. I also know that kittens are the first thing swooped up in a shelter while the older cats are put down. I prefer to get a cat at least a year old, and I won't turn my nose up at 3 or 4 years, because I know so few people want them. Plus, bigger chance they are already altered, because I hate knowing my poor kitties are in pain after surgery.
My husband has already said we're getting a kitten. So, yeah, ethics and practicality hit marital compromise.
The obvious compromise, two cats, is not a good one. We've got three now, and two have no health problems. Losing one and gaining two....it'll be a disaster. We're already dealing with territory issues and we rent, so sneaking in a third cat is hard, two extra cats would be impossible. And I really don't want to literally become a crazy cat lady.
Obviously the greatest advice would be arguments for swaying my husband to my side. Other than that, suggestions for compromise?
I am ethically and practically opposed to getting a kitten. I don't want my blinds shredded, I don't want to have to yank a kitten out of the Christmas tree, I don't want to have to deal with the claws that are so sharp that they could be used as hypodermic needles, I don't want to litter box train (BIG!!!), I don't want to deal with crazy amounts of energy. I also know that kittens are the first thing swooped up in a shelter while the older cats are put down. I prefer to get a cat at least a year old, and I won't turn my nose up at 3 or 4 years, because I know so few people want them. Plus, bigger chance they are already altered, because I hate knowing my poor kitties are in pain after surgery.
My husband has already said we're getting a kitten. So, yeah, ethics and practicality hit marital compromise.
The obvious compromise, two cats, is not a good one. We've got three now, and two have no health problems. Losing one and gaining two....it'll be a disaster. We're already dealing with territory issues and we rent, so sneaking in a third cat is hard, two extra cats would be impossible. And I really don't want to literally become a crazy cat lady.
Obviously the greatest advice would be arguments for swaying my husband to my side. Other than that, suggestions for compromise?