Do we worry too much?

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Maybe it's just me, but I am constantly worrying about my cat's feelings (especially my older cat, because we got a new kitten, and I think she was happier without him)

Anyways I sound crazy, but am I the only one???
 
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No, it's not crazy and no, you're not alone. I think we all worry about the kids in one way or another. I know that I wonder if I'm spending too much time with Muffin sometimes and if Mollipop is bothered by that (well, I know she is). And then I try to make it up to Molli. I worry about Ms. Pepe being such an old kitty and how much time we have left with her and I want to spend that time on the couch with her on my lap.

When I look at any of our kids, I wonder, "Are you happy here? Are you OK? Are you happy with us?" And I know that Rick and I talk about it from time to time, too.

It's possible that your kitty was happier being an only child, especially if the kitten is really playful. I know when we had kittens with older cats, the older ones just wanted to be left alone to nap. But the kittens had a lot of energy and they would pester the old guys. On the other hand, sometimes a kitten can help an older kitty get some exercise. That did happen in our house with the RugKittens and Hydrox, The Old Coot. He wanted to be left alone, but they wouldn't leave him alone. And sometimes when they'd play, he couldn't help himself and he'd have to join in.

Cat parents worry; I really think it's part of being a cat parent. If you love your furkids, you're going to want to do the best you can for them. 
 
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Spot on Winchester. I always ask my cats-are you happy? I wish I could do more. I wish I could relax and just enjoy them. But seems with the past few cats getting sick and passing away makes me gun shy now. I am getting better at living in the moment but some days I do worry a lot. Especially on the days I work long hours. So no you are not the only one. We all worry.
 
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I have lost so many cats that it makes me a bit paranoid. I watch Snoop very carefully. l If he has a day when he don't eat his food, or lays around a bit more than usual, then I get concerned. Dedicated cat lovers consider their cats members of their family. Therefore they try to take care of them like they would a child. I have learned that is can be reason for concern when a cat's habits change. They are habitual creatures and they stick to the same patterns. When they don't we freak out sometimes. :nod:
 
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I'm always so concerned that my cats would be happier with another family or that I could be doing more for them. I wish I could relax and just enjoy them! I spend so much time worrying and sometimes it feels like I would be more sane without them but they mean the world to me and I wouldn't trade them for anything. I feel a lot better after reading your responses though :)
 
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gemmamiso said:
I'm always so concerned that my cats would be happier with another family or that I could be doing more for them. I wish I could relax and just enjoy them! I spend so much time worrying and sometimes it feels like I would be more sane without them but they mean the world to me and I wouldn't trade them for anything. I feel a lot better after reading your responses though :)
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Once cats learn something, they don't like change. Therefore, they know you. They know you love them and take care of them. Changing where they live and the people around them would only stress your cats. They love you and are used to you. Relax and know they are satisfied being your fur babies. :nod:
 
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gemmamiso said:
Anyways I sound crazy, but am I the only one???
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If you're crazy I'm your twin, lol.   I always said if you looked up the word 'worry' in the dictionary my picture would be right next to it.
  

One thing I don't worry about though is whether my animals are happy here since we rescued them all from disgusting or dreadful situations.  Our current persian boy, Carleton, came from a hoarder who kept 23 persians in a filthy,  dilapidated garage with no food, litter boxes, or ventilation.  The shelter that was called in to rescue them found the cats covered in feces with skin infections and malnourished.  Some of the cats needed amputations, some could not be saved and all of them needed TLC.  We dote on our boy every hour of every day and know he landed in the right home.  But, of course, me being me I still worry about his health.  I think the word 'worry' should be my middle name.
 
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Worrying is completely normal. Especially since cat's don't speak our language. And I believe that sometimes, worrying is necessary. For example, a few weeks prior to Felix's crystal diagnosis, he was acting a bit "off". He would sleep in an unusual position and he wasn't playing as much as he use to. My mom blamed it on old age but Felix is only 6 years old. I told her repeatedly that Felix is sick. Something is wrong with him but she didn't believe me. She told me that I worry too much. Well, after Felix got treated for his crystals, he hasn't been acting weird anymore like he did a few weeks prior to his diagnosis. Therefore, I was right. 
 
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Worrying is completely normal. Especially since cat's don't speak our language. And I believe that sometimes, worrying is necessary. For example, a few weeks prior to Felix's crystal diagnosis, he was acting a bit "off". He would sleep in an unusual position and he wasn't playing as much as he use to. My mom blamed it on old age but Felix is only 6 years old. I told her repeatedly that Felix is sick. Something is wrong with him but she didn't believe me. She told me that I worry too much. Well, after Felix got treated for his crystals, he hasn't been acting weird anymore like he did a few weeks prior to his diagnosis. Therefore, I was right. 
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I agree with you completely.  One of my cats a 6 year old male named Sonny peed on our recliner right in front of my hubby.  He insisted that Sonny was mad at him and that was why he peed on the recliner.  I remembered from things I had seen on this forum that what happened could be a sign of a UTI and told my hubby that I thought Sonny was sick and was not mad at him.  We actually got into a huge argument over this.  I called one of my friends in tears and she took us to the vet the next day.  When I got home from the vet with the paper work showing that Sonny was actually sick my hubby did apologize for his behavior and immediately started giving Sonny extra attention. The peeing outside the box stopped completely once the medical issue was treated.  My friend not only took me to the vet but actually insisted on paying the bill because a large part of the disagreement we had was because he would not spend money to take the cat to the vet because Sonny was mad at him.  Hubby did also offer to pay my friend back but she refused it.  After taking Sonny to the vet my friend actually insisted on also taking us out for a nice dinner.  She wanted to go out to eat with us to a restaurant that she knew was to expensive for us so she told us she was buying dinner since she did not want to go out to eat alone.  My friend's hubby was busy with work and she wanted to get out of the house for a little while and be around other people.
 
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I agree with you completely.  One of my cats a 6 year old male named Sonny peed on our recliner right in front of my hubby.  He insisted that Sonny was mad at him and that was why he peed on the recliner.  I remembered from things I had seen on this forum that what happened could be a sign of a UTI and told my hubby that I thought Sonny was sick and was not mad at him.  We actually got into a huge argument over this.  I called one of my friends in tears and she took us to the vet the next day.  When I got home from the vet with the paper work showing that Sonny was actually sick my hubby did apologize for his behavior and immediately started giving Sonny extra attention. The peeing outside the box stopped completely once the medical issue was treated.  My friend not only took me to the vet but actually insisted on paying the bill because a large part of the disagreement we had was because he would not spend money to take the cat to the vet because Sonny was mad at him.  Hubby did also offer to pay my friend back but she refused it.  After taking Sonny to the vet my friend actually insisted on also taking us out for a nice dinner.  She wanted to go out to eat with us to a restaurant that she knew was to expensive for us so she told us she was buying dinner since she did not want to go out to eat alone.  My friend's hubby was busy with work and she wanted to get out of the house for a little while and be around other people.
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Your friend sounds awesome! Also, I agree with you both. My mom always thinks I'm being over dramatic or worrisome when I talk about the cats, but I always end up right when we actually go to the vet. She just doesn't want to spend money if we don't need to, which I understand, but I think the cat's health is more important than money. 
 
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