Cat passed away at vet

Les26 said:

I am just seeing this now, and am so sorry for your loss of your beautiful little girl. It reminds me of Skipper, who back in July just started crying one day, we took him to the vet that night, they checked and couldn't find anything wrong, gave him some antibiotic shot thinking maybe it was an URI, the next morning he was still crying, we thought it would just take time for the meds to kick in, and when we came home that night he was laying dead on the dining room floor. We don't know what happened, why these things happen, the vet was stunned, and so are we, still, months later. Just like people, sometimes something sudden and catastrophic happens and they pass quickly, and we certainly understand how you feel, you think you will die yourself the pain is so bad and overwhelming, but after you "survive" the initial wave of grief your heart starts to mend, albeit very slowly. It takes a long, long time to recover, but we do, and the family of cat lovers here certainly feel for you and can help you out, we all have countless stories of sadness to tell, and understand what it feels like to lose such a precious member of your family. 

So sorry this happened, unfortunately these bad things do happen, we have to endure and survive them....send lots of lovin' to your other feline friends as they are grieving too.

God Bless, may your heart soon start to heal......

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Oh my days, that is the most awful story I have ever heard. Seriously that is terrifying and I don't know what I would do if that happened to me. I would honestly freak out, what an awful thing to happen and to walk into so suddenly. I am so sorry about that, I really am. That poor baby, I wonder what was going on with him. I hope your heart is healing and I hope you are finding some sort of peace. I hope he is up there with Athena and every other cat who has passed and I hope they're happy and purring and in a big kitten pile all snuggly and warm. I really do not like this part of life, where you have to say good bye and you can't do anything about it but accept it. It kills me in every way. Every time I go into the basement and I don't see her in her favourite big, brown chair, where all her fur is all over the blanket covering it, I just die inside. I always wanna say hi to her, even though she isn't there. I just wish I had a sign to know she is okay.

Tina was a beautiful girl, I am so sorry she left on her next journey. You mustn't blame yourself you took her to the vet to help her and she knew that. RIP Tina you will be missed and always  be in the hearts of the people you touched.

It's   always the worst   day  ever  when our  wonderful   best   friend     a  cat passes  away whatever    car  crash,   heart  atatck or  cancer... Its all sad....I know  how   it  feels     im sure vets  tried to do   whatever  they could....but oh well   R.I.P.     sweet  kitty.,

Zed Xyzed said:

Tina was a beautiful girl, I am so sorry she left on her next journey. You mustn't blame yourself you took her to the vet to help her and she knew that. RIP Tina you will be missed and always  be in the hearts of the people you touched.

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She really was, we always told her she was the prettiest girl in the house. She was such a gorgeous, sturdy cat. I can't even say how much I miss her. Every time I think of her I feel sick inside because I miss her so much.
Thank you so much for your condolences.

I feel your pain. I"m here bawling my eyes out because every single thing in my life revolved around taking care of Bandit. I came home from doing laundry at my mom's, and he's not there to greet me at my door, or want to eat some of my chicken. My beautiful girl is here (his sister--littermate) and I am so blessed to still have her, but my heart just breaks because I loved Bandit so much. And then I feel so guilty because I had Bandit for so long and got to get closure and say goodbye---something that not many people get.

The holiday season does not make this any easier as I had to put my first kitty down on Christmas in 1999.  And Bandit's birthday (and his sister's) is December 8th.

darkhorse321 said:

I feel your pain. I"m here bawling my eyes out because every single thing in my life revolved around taking care of Bandit. I came home from doing laundry at my mom's, and he's not there to greet me at my door, or want to eat some of my chicken. My beautiful girl is here (his sister--littermate) and I am so blessed to still have her, but my heart just breaks because I loved Bandit so much. And then I feel so guilty because I had Bandit for so long and got to get closure and say goodbye---something that not many people get.

The holiday season does not make this any easier as I had to put my first kitty down on Christmas in 1999.  And Bandit's birthday (and his sister's) is December 8th.

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I was crying earlier because we went out to check on Athena's grave, make sure it wasn't getting muddy and gross due to the weather, and somehow, even through the rain and snow, the five yellow roses we placed on her grave are still there and in nearly perfect condition. I said hello to her and I tried to mutter out that I love her but the words wouldn't come out, I just began to cry. I have 14 other cats that are indoors and one outside we are working on getting inside, but somehow without Athena being here there is a feeling of emptiness. It hits me the most when I see Mercury, as they were best friends. When he's down in their chair I just feel so upset that she isn't there with him. I try to tell myself that she is there with him in spirit. I hope that she is, I really do. I understand where you're coming from with the weirdness of your Bandit not greeting you at the door or coming for food. Athena loved poultry, so on special occasions, such as Thanksgiving, we would give her a little bit. I was so excited for Thanksgiving coming up so we could give her some turkey, but of course she isn't here, and she didn't get to have her favourite turkey meal. It is killing me and I still am shocked it happened. I am way too aware that she is outside in the ground. I'm hyper aware that her body is out in the cold ground with dirt and bugs and it just doesn't feel right at all. It makes me sick inside.
Don't ever feel guilty you got to say good bye. Please don't. You are fortunate you got to. You really are. You should feel blessed, not guilty. I got to say good bye to her as I held her body in my arms, no she wasn't there, but I hope she heard me. Wherever she is. And my cat Mittens I got to say good bye to, though it was nearly ten years ago and I was only 12 years old, I still remember walking away from him, leaving him at the vet, telling him I loved him and that I was so sorry for leaving him. I told him he was the best cat and that I would always remember him. He didn't understand what was about to happen, but I do hope he knows he was my best friend and I'll always love him to death. I'll never get over losing him, it was the hardest thing that has ever happened in my life. I didn't even get to bury him, I was too young and my mom decided that having him with us, dead, was not the best thing for me. I regret that immensely. I have no idea where he's buried or with what other animals that were deceased. I just don't know and I feel absolutely horrible about it.
Sorry for the rant, I need to stop before I start crying even more.

It'll be some time before those random tears sort of calm down and you will begin to remember the good times, not just the end.  I know people mean well when they tell you "don't think about the end, just think about the good times."  Well that's kind of impossible, especially at first.   At first, the only way to "not think about the end" is to force yourself, or repress it.   Repression's not healthy, imo.  It delays the work of grief and healing.  In time it'll happen when you are ready for it to happen,  but not right now.  

I just noticed that your Athena was born on the same day as my Sammy and Garfy, May 8!  They were born in the 90's though, but same day!  They were little sweethearts. 

Ginny said:

It'll be some time before those random tears sort of calm down and you will begin to remember the good times, not just the end.  I know people mean well when they tell you "don't think about the end, just think about the good times."  Well that's kind of impossible, especially at first.   At first, the only way to "not think about the end" is to force yourself, or repress it.   Repression's not healthy, imo.  It delays the work of grief and healing.  In time it'll happen when you are ready for it to happen,  but not right now.  

I just noticed that your Athena was born on the same day as my Sammy and Garfy, May 8!  They were born in the 90's though, but same day!  They were little sweethearts. 

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You're absolutely right. With everything you've said. I think crying is healthy, and of course repression is bad. I think you need to think about it and come to terms with everything in your own way. If that means crying for a few weeks, then so be it. I'm sure I'll cry every time I go outside to visit her. It's inevitable. I still just am in such disbelief that it happened. It should have never happened. And the biggest thing that bothers me is still the fact she'd be here if I didn't say to take her to the vet. I get such a sinking feeling just typing that. It makes me sick.

And really? I'm not entirely sure if that was her actual birthday, my friend who gave her to me when she was about 8 months said she was born in the beginning of May, so to remember her birthday easier, we gave her my mom's birthday, which is the 8th.

I hear you----and it's not that you don't love your other babies, you miss Athena---and none of them can replace her. That's what's hard too---that I feel guilty for grieving for Bandit when I have this beautiful sweetie here. 

I know it's the process of grief, and it sucks All these 'firsts' that you realize they are gone---and then your heart seems to just shatter all over again.

Hugs to you!!!!

Coniferously said:

You're absolutely right. With everything you've said. I think crying is healthy, and of course repression is bad. I think you need to think about it and come to terms with everything in your own way. If that means crying for a few weeks, then so be it. I'm sure I'll cry every time I go outside to visit her. It's inevitable. I still just am in such disbelief that it happened. It should have never happened. And the biggest thing that bothers me is still the fact she'd be here if I didn't say to take her to the vet. I get such a sinking feeling just typing that. It makes me sick.

And really? I'm not entirely sure if that was her actual birthday, my friend who gave her to me when she was about 8 months said she was born in the beginning of May, so to remember her birthday easier, we gave her my mom's birthday, which is the 8th.

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I'm going to paraphrase @Margd  who said that this same thing could have happened to her at home as well.  And if this had happened at home, then you might be saying "if only I'd taken her to the vet..."  We all do this to ourselves too.   We just can't win, can we?  No matter how things turn out, we envision a different way things could have and should have gone.  The if onlys.  

I remember @slufferk, another member who lost his kitty, (paraphrasing here too) said "This isn't the ending I would have written for her..."  I believe his kitty passed away at the vet's office too.  It was during a procedure and totally unexpected.  I feel that way too about my Gracie, it still pains me greatly to remember her last breath and to know I caused it.  I had her PTS.  That wasn't the ending I wanted for her.  And there were circumstances - some were IN my control and some beyond my control - that made her passing unbearable to me as well.  I just had to suffer through it.   Now, a year and a half later I still really miss her and tear up sometimes, but I'm more glad for the memories of her, not just the terrible end.  That didn't come easy.  It never does!  Hugs! 

Ginny said:

I'm going to paraphrase @Margd
 who said that this same thing could have happened to her at home as well.  And if this had happened at home, then you might be saying "if only I'd taken her to the vet..."  We all do this to ourselves too.   We just can't win, can we?  No matter how things turn out, we envision a different way things could have and should have gone.  The if onlys.  

I remember @slufferk, another member who lost his kitty, (paraphrasing here too) said "This isn't the ending I would have written for her..."  I believe his kitty passed away at the vet's office too.  It was during a procedure and totally unexpected.  I feel that way too about my Gracie, it still pains me greatly to remember her last breath and to know I caused it.  I had her PTS.  That wasn't the ending I wanted for her.  And there were circumstances - some were IN my control and some beyond my control - that made her passing unbearable to me as well.  I just had to suffer through it.   Now, a year and a half later I still really miss her and tear up sometimes, but I'm more glad for the memories of her, not just the terrible end.  That didn't come easy.  It never does!  Hugs! 

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That's true too.. I would have definitely been saying that I should have taken her to the vet if something happened at home. You're absolutely correct. So I suppose there is a never ending bucket of "what ifs" I could keep pulling out and reading off, but none of them are going to change what happened or why it happened.
I think cats passing at the vet is more common than I ever thought.. my friend, who passed away almost a year ago now, had a cat, and if I remember correctly, she had some sort of heart attack in the vet's office and passed away suddenly. Just like my Tina. I wish he was still here so I could ask him about it, how he dealt with it and all that. I'm sorry for your loss as well, I completely understand still tearing up. As I'm sure I've said, I still cry, to this day, about my first cat and best friend, Mittens, who passed away on June 22nd, 2007. The pain never really goes away. I think that's the sad truth to it all. (Hugs)

Just saw this now. So very sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. There is nothing you did wrong. Sometimes they leave us before we have a chance to prepare to say "so long." I hope we get to see our loved ones on the other side when it's our turn. Keep the emotions true. If you feel sad, let it out. If you feel angry, let it out. Don't stuff these emotions because they come creeping out later on when you lease expect it.

So very sorry for your loss. May Athena run free at the Bridge   Sending you many

foxxycat said:

Just saw this now. So very sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. There is nothing you did wrong. Sometimes they leave us before we have a chance to prepare to say "so long." I hope we get to see our loved ones on the other side when it's our turn. Keep the emotions true. If you feel sad, let it out. If you feel angry, let it out. Don't stuff these emotions because they come creeping out later on when you lease expect it.

So very sorry for your loss. May Athena run free at the Bridge   Sending you many

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Every time I read such sweet messages about her running free over the bridge I tear up and cry a bit. It's such lovely thought and I truly hope she is having the time of her life, on her new journey. She always wanted to be an outdoor cat, she definitely was built for it, but of course we didn't let her. So maybe now she's galloping and letting her fur blow in the wind somewhere Whoever is in her company now is lucky, and I hope they are taking good care of my sweet baby, and the rest of the sweet babies that have crossed over, until they are reunited with their old feline and human companions who have yet to cross.

We hurt so bad because we love them so much.I also feel the pain and am so so sorry. I just lost my baby JAxx. 

Lily Paddy said:

We hurt so bad because we love them so much.I also feel the pain and am so so sorry. I just lost my baby JAxx. 

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I'm so sorry about your baby, Jaxx. I've been trying to stay strong about everything. Looking through old photos and videos of Athena from a few years ago has definitely helped me. She was such a special cat in life and will remain as so in her next journey, as I'm sure your sweet baby Jaxx will as well. Athena was very friendly, so I'm sure she had adopted your Jaxx as her new cuddle buddy. Rest in peace, our sweet angels xx

I had a wonderful male cat only 9 yrs old be fine one moment then give one cry and die. Took to vet who was close and they tried everything but could not revive him. It was cardiomyopathy. One day before my birthday too. I cried for weeks.

Athena with my JAxx.. taking care of my baby.. tears.. The love will never die.. TY i cant bring myself to look at alot of the photos of him yet.. but just last night. i found a heart shaped cat treat in my Sketcher when i went to put it on.. and just about fell over crying.. Its so hard so hard.. Tears at work... have to shut my door ;. its overtaking me again.. 

marcy said:

I had a wonderful male cat only 9 yrs old be fine one moment then give one cry and die. Took to vet who was close and they tried everything but could not revive him. It was cardiomyopathy. One day before my birthday too. I cried for weeks.

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Perhaps that's what my Athena had. She was apparently very healthy, and then gone within five minutes. It's heartbreaking when that happens.. really, this is my first cat that has passed that way.. it's such a shock and it's so scary to think it could have happened at any time, and even scarier to think I have 14 more cats that it could happen to.. it's so tough being so involved and loving our babies so deeply, it tears at our heartstrings and emotions and just completely breaks us down. It's so unfair to have them pried from our hands in such a sudden and forceful way and we can't do a thing about it..

Lily Paddy said:

Athena with my JAxx.. taking care of my baby.. tears.. The love will never die.. TY i cant bring myself to look at alot of the photos of him yet.. but just last night. i found a heart shaped cat treat in my Sketcher when i went to put it on.. and just about fell over crying.. Its so hard so hard.. Tears at work... have to shut my door ;. its overtaking me again.. 

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I guarantee she is. She loved to sleep in piles of two or three cats, warm and cozy. That was her favourite thing to do. So I'm sure she's looking for a cuddle from any and all the kitties over the bridge. Hopefully with the ones who arrived around she did, the ones who don't know what happened or where they are. I hope they're at peace and happy and watching over us. Don't be ashamed to cry; you must let it out. Sometimes it just overcomes me too.. there's nothing we can do about it though. So if crying helps you heal, then do it. Our babies are safe now and out of harm's way. We will be reunited with them sooner than you anticipate. Time flies, and they will be sat there waiting for us when we get there too, purring and all.

(((((((( ))))))))  Fly free, whole, healthy, and forever Loved, sweet beauty Athena!  

Heartfelt condolences for your loss.  How very many I have endured! so while I can't know exactly how you feel, I do empathize with your pain and loss.

Over the years, I have lost one cat to hypertrophic cardiomyopathy, which is a heart condition; I have lost another very suddenly and unexpectedly to what was probably a brain aneurism; another had hypertrophic cardiomyopathy and I elected for his vet to assist in his ascendance; and one sweet little girl passed away while at her vet for a very bad respiratory infection. 

There is never an easy way to understand what is simply beyond our understanding.  In time, may you find comfort in the many sweet memories of your time together with Tina, and in the knowledge that she watches over you, healthy and Loved, until you are reunited in due time.