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post #1 of 17
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Father spanks his daughter in front of high school class
Cudahy district will no longer allow parents to meet with students anywhere but in office
By LINDA SPICE
lspice@journalsentinel.com
Posted: Feb. 23, 2004
Cudahy - A father concerned about his daughter's behavior at Cudahy High School called her out of her seat in biology class and spanked her in front of shocked classmates and an assistant principal, officials confirmed Monday.

Both Cudahy police and the Bureau of Milwaukee Child Welfare have reviewed the case at the school district's request, and neither found basis for child abuse or neglect.

"Obviously it's unusual to have a girl spanked in front of the class, it's highly unusual, but not a police matter, not at this time from the information we received," said Cudahy police Sgt. Randy Scheel.

The district, however, has changed its visitation procedure for parents. Now they can meet with students only in the office, not a classroom, according to James P. Heiden, director of student services.

"The students were horrified," Heiden said, and some were angry that administrators couldn't intervene quickly enough to stop it. "It took everybody by complete surprise."

Heiden said he did not want to second-guess child welfare authorities' decision not to pursue the matter. "I understand, in the realm of all the cases they need to deal with, but it's frustrating.

Contacted at home Monday night, the girl's mother said police found nothing to investigate, calling it an isolated incident. She said her daughter "comes from a very loving family. There's nothing to be concerned about." She added that the incident had been blown out of proportion and "the school handled it just fine."

She described the spanking as a "misjudgment" for which the family apologized to the school.

Police said they had no record of prior contact with anyone in the family.

According to school officials, the girl had disrupted her biology class Feb. 11, leading first-year assistant principal Greg DePue to notify her father when he was at school the next day addressing a situation with another child.

DePue said the father responded: " 'You know what? There won't be a problem in today's class because I'm going to be in there.' "

Later that day, DePue took the parents to their daughter's class. The teacher stepped out to speak with them, while DePue watched the class. After a minute and a half, DePue said, the father entered the classroom, called his daughter to the front and told her he would not have her disrupting class.

He then told the girl to turn around, and spanked her on her bottom.

"It was so fast," DePue said. "It just happened."

DePue said he immediately went to the office with the parents, and their daughter waited in a separate office while police were called.
post #2 of 17
I am in shock . In front of the hole class
Holly Macarony . Spanking on the butt is ok , but not in front of the hole class . I think things like that need to be dealt with at home and not in puplic . That make me wonder what else that person is doing at home since that person is not even afraid to do spanking in th class .
post #3 of 17
I would bet that the father's point wasn't to hit his daughter, but to embarass her and humiliate her in front of her peers, who he felt she was showing off to the day before.

Not that I agree with that - especially in the teen years that could be devastating!! But it isn't like he beat the heck out of her, he didn't punch her or even slap her. Spanking a high schooler with an open hand on the rear end isn't going to physically harm them.
post #4 of 17
I agree, it would'nt hurt me having a smack on the backside, but i would want the ground to swallow me up with it being done in front of the class

Susan
post #5 of 17
Sounds as if the litle snot needed a good, swift crack on the butt. My mom never hesitated to swat us, no matter where we were.

Perhaps a bit of embarassment is what is needed, here. Being a smart-a$$ and disrupting class would have garnered the admiration of her peers but, this will definitely take her down a peg or two.
post #6 of 17
If the daughter had to get a spanking I would not have wanted my child to have witnessed this in a classroom where they are there to learn in a safe environment.
post #7 of 17

I think she'll either be haunted by the memory of it for a long, long time or she'll think it's funny a few weeks or months from now. She'll either be telling her therapist how daddy ruined her life, or telling her kids a funny story of how grandpa spanked her in front of her high school class.

It just depends on the girl...her personality, sense of humor, and self esteem.

Either way, I think it's a desperate thing for her father to do. To use humiliation to teach her a lesson.
post #8 of 17
It is about time a parent did that!! My mother spanked me when I was 13, in front of all of my relatives!! I was an extremely mouthy, stubborn, insensitive teen (spoiled maybe?) and my mother had enough of my "lip". She didn't hurt me, only embarrassed me. It worked like a charm! Threats that are never enforced only allow a child to get more and more disobedient. That incident woke me up to the fact that MY behavior embarrassed my mother and through her embarrassing ME, I got the picture. She never had to do it again and I am a fully responsible, mature adult (no psychological damage here )
post #9 of 17
OMG this sounds like my dad!!! How embarrassing, but from the sound of it, the parents had to be at the end of their rope with her to do something so drastic. My dad always threatened to come to school with me and escort me to all my classes in high-school ( I was a handfull all through school). I was horrified at the thought, but they never did it and I didnt change my ways until my senior year. I think the next time the girl wants to run her mouth in class where others are trying to learn something, she will think twice from now on. I dont see anything wrong with what he did at all.
post #10 of 17
The story doesn't give much background info on the girl, like if she is always getting in trouble or has some other problems. BUT, I think that if her father felt it necessary to come to the school and humiliate her, he and the mother must really be messing up as parents at home. It's almost like he was overcompensating for his lack of disciplining at home by making a big show of discipline in public. Also, my opinion is that bad kids come from bad parents; I know some parents who love to say that they do all they can, but they just can't get through to little Johnny, but then I see them standing by as their kid wreaks havoc and they just look the other way or laugh (I'm a Sunday School teacher, so I see a lot of this).

Well, let's say they do try hard, but nothing seems to work. Guarunteed this spanking in front of her classmates will NOT make her a better person. It doesn't teach her anything, it just causes more resentment and will probably cause her to act out more. Before, when a kid would act up in class, we would remove them or tell them to be quiet or to stop whatever they were doing. Usually they will stop whatever they're doing for like 10 minutes and then back to the same thing again. However, when we start getting them involved in discussions and giving them responsibilities, they start to feel valued and the behavior improved.
post #11 of 17
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some are saying that the humiliation will teach her a lesson
post #12 of 17
The spanking should have been done at home, not at the school. I don't see how a public display of punishment is going to teach this girl anything.

In this particular case, the girl should received punishment from the school and the parents. It sounds like she did receive some sort of disciplinary action from the school but for the parents to be notified of her behaviour, it doesn't sound like it was an "off day" or something out of character. It could be something that is recurring or a serious display of disruptive behavior. Also it is a science classroom where additional health and safety regulations apply.

I'm surprised by the fact that parents are allowed to venture to the classrooms of their children. In my experience at all the schools that I've ever attended in Australia, (12 altogether), staff went to the classrooms to fetch the child and escorted them to the office.
post #13 of 17
This girl is going to remember that moment for the rest of her life. Some therapist will make alot of money off of her and other stories about her family I'm sure she will need to divulge. I am not completely against spanking, but the girl's a teen for cryin out loud! Take the car away, take the phone away.. Embarrassing her in front of her peers will only cause her to resent her father not respect him. Really sad...
post #14 of 17
Doesn't anyone else think that spanking a HIGH SCHOOL AGED child is the biggest point here? A father should punish a child that age when needed but not by laying his hands on her and doing it in front of others was just demeaning. What has she learned from this? She needed to be grounded, be assigned extra chores, write an apology to her teacher, etc. The father sounds like he's as out of control as his daughter!!
post #15 of 17
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Originally posted by catlover67
It is about time a parent did that!! My mother spanked me when I was 13, in front of all of my relatives!! I was an extremely mouthy, stubborn, insensitive teen (spoiled maybe?) and my mother had enough of my "lip". She didn't hurt me, only embarrassed me. It worked like a charm! Threats that are never enforced only allow a child to get more and more disobedient. That incident woke me up to the fact that MY behavior embarrassed my mother and through her embarrassing ME, I got the picture. She never had to do it again and I am a fully responsible, mature adult (no psychological damage here )
My parents did that to me as well. I turned out just fine. Grins

You never hear the whole story in the news anyway so who knows what kind of punishment this girls had. Maybe her teachers and parents where at the end of there respected ropes and this was the only thing they could think of. I know in high school, the only thing I was afried(sp) of was my parents coming to school and embarrassing me.
Thats the way teenagers think. They think they are untouchable. Well, I did.
post #16 of 17
I bet she'll think twice next time she feels she wants to be a smart ass and disrupt her class.

In this day and age where TEENS have authority over PARENTS, and do whatever they want its nice to see a parent who will step up to the plate, and try to be the one in control.I'm sick and tired of people making excuses for teens bad behaviors- I never would have gotten away with it when I was that age- why have things suddenly changed with this generation??

Who knows how bad this kid was, and what kind of trouble she was causing her teachers and parents. The father MUST have felt very desperate the change her behavior to have done something like this. It got her attention, and I bet thats exactly what she needed.

I don't think this is much different from making your child apologize to a store clerk if they stole a candy- which I have done. Embarrassing, yes- but my kid learned from it and never did it again. Calling attention to bad behavior in a teen is a lot harder than a 4 year old.
post #17 of 17
I think spanking has its place, and I think that teens should be allowed to be spanked without it being abuse.. In front of the class doesn't bother me for her, in fact it probably taught her a lesson she will never forget... but the fact that everyone had to watch it I think is sort of wrong, like how the ten commandments shouldn't be displayed in schools because of varied beliefs, because of different parenting styles this spanking may have disturbed some of the other kids..
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