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We are new fosters.
Our agency recently placed Lily into our home. We are told that Lily is a difficult to adopt cat because of her extreme fearfulness and because she self groomed in the shelter to the point of being almost bald from her shoulders back. Very little else is known about Lily.
Initially we put Lily in our office to adapt for a week. Every day we fed her and gradually she came for a bit of petting. As a rule however she stayed to herself crouched in a corner. At the end of the week we opened the door and Lily rushed into the living room and hid under the couch. She hissed at our cats but our cats after a few negative interactions, left her alone.
We have three cats, all female. None of these cats are aggressive. Until recently we allowed Lily to remain primarily under the couch, feeding her in the office at night but leaving the door open. Our own cats spend the nights in the cat room. A few nights ago we spent special time with Lily after our cats had gone to bed. She seemed to love the extra attention but tended towards very painful biting when excited. After a couple of nights of doing this we noticed that Lily was attacking the paws of our cats which were extended out under the cat room door. When we opened the door and released our cats, Lily attacked them without being provoked.
We have placed Lily back into the office. She has a warm bed, fresh food, clean litter, and gets attention daily. The problems are:
1. This is a very small house! We never intended to sacrifice an entire room to one animal. Lily daily tries to escape the office to get to the couches so we now have to keep that door closed. She is very very fast! When Lily gets out during the day times, all of our cats must be corralled into the cat room until we can coerce Lily back into the office.
2. We are busy people. Socializing an animal that can can join our family is easy but it's not easy to find sufficient spare time for one that cannot incorporate itself into daily activities. Honestly we believe that Lily needs much more than what we are able to give in order to recover from her trauma.
This is becoming a little frightening (Lily's aggression) and very frustrating.
We need to know the following:
1. Is being isolated in the office going to help Lily?
2. Is aggression in this situation just a phase in the feral to non feral process? I.E. Are we needlessly afraid for the well being of our own cats especially when we are not there?
3. What would you do?
Our agency recently placed Lily into our home. We are told that Lily is a difficult to adopt cat because of her extreme fearfulness and because she self groomed in the shelter to the point of being almost bald from her shoulders back. Very little else is known about Lily.
Initially we put Lily in our office to adapt for a week. Every day we fed her and gradually she came for a bit of petting. As a rule however she stayed to herself crouched in a corner. At the end of the week we opened the door and Lily rushed into the living room and hid under the couch. She hissed at our cats but our cats after a few negative interactions, left her alone.
We have three cats, all female. None of these cats are aggressive. Until recently we allowed Lily to remain primarily under the couch, feeding her in the office at night but leaving the door open. Our own cats spend the nights in the cat room. A few nights ago we spent special time with Lily after our cats had gone to bed. She seemed to love the extra attention but tended towards very painful biting when excited. After a couple of nights of doing this we noticed that Lily was attacking the paws of our cats which were extended out under the cat room door. When we opened the door and released our cats, Lily attacked them without being provoked.
We have placed Lily back into the office. She has a warm bed, fresh food, clean litter, and gets attention daily. The problems are:
1. This is a very small house! We never intended to sacrifice an entire room to one animal. Lily daily tries to escape the office to get to the couches so we now have to keep that door closed. She is very very fast! When Lily gets out during the day times, all of our cats must be corralled into the cat room until we can coerce Lily back into the office.
2. We are busy people. Socializing an animal that can can join our family is easy but it's not easy to find sufficient spare time for one that cannot incorporate itself into daily activities. Honestly we believe that Lily needs much more than what we are able to give in order to recover from her trauma.
This is becoming a little frightening (Lily's aggression) and very frustrating.
We need to know the following:
1. Is being isolated in the office going to help Lily?
2. Is aggression in this situation just a phase in the feral to non feral process? I.E. Are we needlessly afraid for the well being of our own cats especially when we are not there?
3. What would you do?