Off topic. How do you get over a broken heart

Okay so back story I've been dating this girl for over 4 years now and out of the blue last week. She told me that she wanted to transition to a guy and I was like okay cool I support you 100 percent. Then the very next day she told me that he/she wants to break up and then for over 3 and half years that she/he never loved me. He had plenty of chances to tell them this over those three year and so but never once did he say anything. 3 and a half years is a long time to sting someone along, all the while I was falling deeper and deeper into love with him. My heart is completely  broken and I don't know how I can move on. Sorry if this isn't the right place to post this but I just need to vent my feelings and such and it seems like you guys on here are my only friends now, like my life completely revolved around he/she and my cats.

Thank you for taking the time to read this and once again I am sorry if this isn't the right place for this.

I am so sorry.  It's sounds like this person is going through some really big changes and with that comes reassessing everything about their life.  As far as getting over something like this it takes time.  The important thing is not to isolate yourself which I think is what many people tend to do.  Just be good to yourself and don't withdraw from society and other people around you.

I don't know what to tell you, Rogue22912. But I can offer you a 

It's hard. There's no magic way to mend a broken heart besides time. I have found for myself that finding the perfect song or other art that expresses the sadness I feel helps me on an immediate level. I think when I am heartbroken the inability to express my grief becomes overwhelming, but saying how I feel over and over doesn't really help either. Finding that expressive piece that resonates with me helps to balm that particular need. Dealing with things that are too perky or happy are a little too overwhelming for me when I have been heartbroken.

Some people go in the other direction, and doing happy things even when they don't feel happy helps more. 

The best thing to remember is that your feelings are valid, and it's not wrong to feel the way you feel. However, the conclusions your feelings might want you to draw may not be true. Sometimes people try to start to tell a story about why their relationships failed and decide it's because they are a bad person or something like that, and it's the only way that the events make sense to them. That is not true, even if you feeling so bad is still OK to feel. Similarly, don't feel like you have to force yourself to "move on". It will happen eventually.

From a stranger on the internet, I can only send hugs. If you have some in-person friends that can give you some real life hugs and just spend some time with you either letting you be sad in your own way, or trying being happy even when you don't feel like it, support from friends always helps.

Good luck, and time really will make it better, even though it doesn't feel like it now. I'm sorry you're having to deal with such a hard time. 

I have found that the only way to deal with extreme sadness or a broken heart is to purposely get your mind to not dwell on it and find things that make you feel better about yourself. I found that things that used to bring me great joy were not there for me anymore, almost like I was 'punishing' myself by not being capable of being happy. I agree with the above, 'happy' 'perky' things can only bring on a feeling of letdown for many, you have to find what works for you alone to help you form a new life's order and to get on with your life.

 Time will help you deal with it, you eventually heal, but it always leaves a scar behind to remind you of what you went through, it just turns into something you can live with. Thinking about it, the guilt, the anger, the emotions, will eventually become further and further apart as you begin to live again, time is the only thing that brings this help. In the meantime, you can't dwell on it or it will drive you insane. Read, watch movies, get out in a crowd, talk to someone who will share your pain, anything that will occupy your mind and keep it from going there. Donate your time at your local shelter. Those kittens demand you attention and desperately need someone to interact with. Pay for the adoption of an animal that has been there for a while, it helps you to feel better about yourself. Go for a walk in park or the mountains, or a quiet museum or garden. Look and wonder at all the beautiful things that are in this world and that we need to appreciate, not pity ourselves and live in darkness. Don't let that broken heart take over your life. There is someone out there that is waiting for you to find them. Someone that is your true soul mate, it just takes time and you won't see what is in front of you if you have your eyes and heart closed  to the world. You must force yourself to go on and I can guarantee that in time you'll look back on this time as a dark path on your journey, but you will learn to live and love again. You just have to choose the path now in your life journey that will take you purposely towards that sunshine, not the path that takes you into the shadows. Sure you must grieve, but don't let it become your new way of life, learn from it and find the strength to move on. You have taken a giant first step in reaching out, you have started your journey back. I'll pray for you to find peace and strength, know you are not alone in this world and there are many who care about you even though they don't know you personally. It is one human reaching out and comforting another, all the luck and take care!