Cleo's Chronicles....

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Hi everyone

I haven't been around much lately, as some of you have pointed out to me through PM's
It's not because I've lost interest in the forum, or that I'm upset or angry with anyone. I still love it here and think about you a lot!

Things have been kinda difficult around here lately, and without writing the Great American Novel, here's why...

First, my MS is acting up off and on, and that makes it difficult to type...my right hand gets very weak and shaky and I get frustrated
My Doc says he thinks stress is triggering it?

The stress factor:
My 22 year old son and his 19 year old live-in girlfriend were pregnant, and both unemployed. She just recently miscarried, then attempted suicide by taking a bottle of Ibuprofen. She's Okay, but my son is afraid she'll try it again.
2 weeks ago they got evicted, and have been going to court constantly over this. She moved home and my son is "couch cruising" at various friends homes.
I strongly feel I need to show Tough Love and let him struggle through this, as this is not the first time he's found himself homeless, and doesnt seem to be trying to fix it himself (as in looking for work,, getting up before noon, etc) but I worry about him constantly.
They had 2 kittens, one 5 months old, and one 3 months (another show of responsibilty) and I took in the younger of the two, Gilligan, an adorable marbled grey male. The poor little guy was taken from his Mama way too soon, and is constantly trying to nurse on my ears, nose, lips, toes...anything! He hates my girls, is afraid of them, so he growls non-stop, Cagney want to clean him, and Lily wants to play....no way!
Cagney is due to have her kittens around Sept 1st...and I live in a 1 bedroom apt. so I'm trying to figure out how to keep the peace when the babies are born, and keep them safe. I made up a nursery in the walk-in closet, hopefully she'll accept and use it.

Anyway, thats my story...how is everyone? :laughing2:

I sent out cd's to Airprincess and Dodo, hope you ladies like them!


love to all


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Whew! You've got a lot on your plate. No wonder you haven't been on much. Completely understandable. Just as long as you know we noticed


personally, I agree with the tough love approach. my sister & her husband are pretty irresponsible (actually it's just him, he won't keep a job, and when he's at home not working he doesn't want to babysit for thier 3 year old and 2 year old
making it extremely hard on my sister to have a job) and my grandmother has bailed them out making their morgage payment several times. I keep telling her to stop that because my brother in law KNOWS she's going to help them so why should he keep a job? He's counting on her to help them, so she needs to stop. She's getting better, but it's tough because you don't want to see your loved ones struggle. But you have give them the motivation to do it themselves.

I hope I'm not out of line saying this, but it's probably a good thing that your sons girlfriend wasn't able to carry the baby to term. It doesn't sound like either one of them was prepared for it, and it sounds like Gods way of taking care of things. I hope I don't offend anyone by saying that.

My sister had a miscarriage the first time she got pregnaut & we all breathed a sigh of relief because neither her nor my BIL had any prospects. Unfortunately she 'accidently' got pregnaut AGAIN 2 months later. Her son was born with a rare disease that has blinded him in one eye & he only has partial vision in the other. Her second son was born 2 months premature & the delivery almost killed her. (preclamsia...did I spell that right?) Now they live with her inlaws & are welfare. Not a very good start for her two boys.


I'm sorry, I didn't mean to go into the dysfunction in my family, only meant to explain why I support tough love.

I'm sure Gilligan will come around. He's lucky to have found a loving home so quickly


The cd you sent was awesome! thank you.


There's lots of love & prayers coming your way from the people here. Draw strength from us
 
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Colby...if you were here right now I'd crush you in a bear hug!!!
I really hate to say it, but when she lost the baby (at 7 weeks) I was relieved. Not for myself, but because they just were not ready! They can't care for or support a kitten, or even themselves, let alone a child.
I was always giving them food, kitty food, litter, toilet paper, etc...and now they lost their apt....yet she still manages to keep her precious cell phone...puhleeze!
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Anyway, thanks for saying what I wanted to!


Glad you liked the cd, I play yours a lot


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and here I was afraid that I was going to offend you and there would be a gasp heard round TCS.

I'm happy your son is being given a fresh start. I hope he realizes that he has been given a second chance and can take advantage of it.

glad to see you around the site again!
 
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Spent the day catching up on housework
and tomorrow am going to the Neurologist, then hope to spend the day reading all the threads I've missed the last few days!

Dodo,
Did you get the cd yet? I sent it several days ago.


Anyone else wanting to trade, I still have a few copies and a mailing envelope... and stamps! :LOL:

love to all,

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Well well Cleo you seem to have had a rough time. I'm glad it's better now. Do you know what an amazing woman you are??? I really admire your stamina and courage!!

And excuse me for butting in but my boyfriend has finally bought a CD player so can I fit in the list of potential CD receivers? i've started working on the cassette so if anyone's intersted .... I hope to complete it by the end of next week!!
Love you Cleo!
 

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Cleo

Sorry things are not going to well with your son. I believe you are doing the right thing. It seems that the more you do for them the more they let you do. I can relate as I have been there more than once. I had five kids. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate with your condition and all your furbabies
Please take care of yourself and try to hang in there.
 

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Cleo....I am so sorry to hear that things have been so rough for you lately, you sure have your share of stress these days, and I wish it wasn't that way for you. You are such a wonderful person, and I will say a prayer that things get better in your life...and in your son's life....you are such a good mother! We miss you, by the way, but I totally understand why you aren't here as much....we will always be here for you...
 
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Thank you all for your kind words!

I didnt mean to sound whiny, it really isn't my nature, I just wanted to explain why I've been absent.

Gilligan, or as my boyfriend calls him GilliGoon :LOL: is doing a tad bit better, he's stopped growling 24/7 and is now just clinging to me non-stop! He's so cute, just so needy...and Lily doesnt like sharing me.

Billie,
I'd love to share music with you, PM me with your address and I'll send you a cd ASAP!


love to all,
Cleo
 
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