The "What's on your mind?" Thread -2016

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I become highly suspicious when my family does make contact with me. My brother made a big to do about it 5 years ago and I let him into my life only to have him cut me out again with no explanation. If they call I always suspect someone needs a kidney or something.
My brother did exactly the same thing!  Suddenly he stopped answering emails and returning phone calls and since I was in the middle of handling my father's estate, it was a total pain in the neck.  To this day, I have no idea what I did wrong, if anything.   A few years later, he resumed contact without explanation and now we email greetings to each other on holidays and birthdays.  Who knows what gets into people's minds?  It bothers me no end when people do the sudden ignoring thing.  My father did it to his aunt, who helped raise him, because she called him up once and read the obituaries to him.  

Needing a kidney....
 

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My brother did exactly the same thing!  Suddenly he stopped answering emails and returning phone calls and since I was in the middle of handling my father's estate, it was a total pain in the neck.  To this day, I have no idea what I did wrong, if anything.   A few years later, he resumed contact without explanation and now we email greetings to each other on holidays and birthdays.  Who knows what gets into people's minds?  It bothers me no end when people do the sudden ignoring thing.  My father did it to his aunt, who helped raise him, because she called him up once and read the obituaries to him.  

Needing a kidney....
We were quite cordial. And then poof. I no longer build bridges in that direction. One day everything was just rosy and the next total blackout.
 

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  I think the worst thing about your post is your statement that you should be used to it by now.  I'm so sorry that you should have any cause to say this.  But I'm very glad to hear that you have a friend who remembers, and who knows you well enough to know what to get you.  And you have lots of friends here who care about your birthday, too.  So



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My family is dysfunctional and one of the types that just doesn't celebrate anything 
  I remember a few birthday parties my parents had for me when I was very young but once I turned 6 and started school, there were no more birthday parties or anything special.

It is nice to have a friend who remembers my birthday
I think I've known this person for close to 10  years now. We first "talked" on Catster. Other friends I've had in my life in school and co-workers never remembered my birthday or acknowledged it in any way even if I mention it. Well, there was cake last year but it wasn't really for me. The clique planned it for someone in the clique and when they heard that my birthday was a few days before, they invited me at the last minute. But it was really weird because I was told that the clique would be having cake at their mid morning break and I could get myself a slice of cake when I go to lunch
Yeah, the clique excludes everyone else on the team from joining them. One reason why I left that team.

Anyways. I don't want to keep whining and ranting about people who ignore the birthday of soemone who is close to them.

I brought my work laptop home so I could check work email and now for some reason my Windows log in password doesn't work now
I know what it is but for some reason I keep getting an error message.I last logged in just fine earlier this week. I don't have the phone number for the help desk with me
  I'll have to deal with it and a flood of emails on Monday.
Could you call a co-worker and ask for the help desk number?  I can't think why this would happen to your laptop, or I'd give you a suggestion myself.  The only thing I can say is that there's a deep, dark secret that tech gurus don't tell you -- computers are really stupid.  They try to make you think they're smart, but they aren't.

Margret
 

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I'm surprised you can't just google the help desk number.   It's possible it's a well kept secret. 

My KIA Sister has decided Kim should be baking gluten-free, paleo type goodies for me and has sent her 3 cookbooks.  Now Kim is baking stuff I'm almost allowed to have and I feel like I should eat some.  I am never going to lose any weight. 
 

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I'm locked out of the laptop now so I have to wait until Monday to have the help desk reset my password. Stupid Windows
Memo to me: put the help desk phone number onto my work cell phone.
 
I become highly suspicious when my family does make contact with me. My brother made a big to do about it 5 years ago and I let him into my life only to have him cut me out again with no explanation. If they call I always suspect someone needs a kidney or something.
Me too
My family doesn't talk to each other. It's really weird. So if I get a phone call from someone, it's usually because they want something from me
 

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Ruby is becoming such a lap cat. She loves to hang out on laps all day long. Good thing since my husband always wanted a lap cat.
 

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  notice he skin tone and the purple lips
and "clubbed' fingers and toes

 the ones on the right are my daughter's, the other ones belonged to another heart patient and the first my daughter had                                                                                                                                                                              seen with hands like her own 

 which indicate the same), her heart sounded like a washing machine, sloshing the blood back and forth since she had a gigantic hole in her heart and her great vessels were attached backwards, nobody could even understand how she could live at all, and this stupid, definitely unqualified doctor said there was nothing wrong with her, that she was like everybody else, that she could lead a normal life.

Goes to show that just because someone has M.D. behind their name does not mean they know anything, this one surely did not.

If you don't like what a doctor tells you or if it does not make sense then question it and if necessary see another doctor.
 

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My KIA Sister has decided Kim should be baking gluten-free, paleo type goodies for me and has sent her 3 cookbooks.  Now Kim is baking stuff I'm almost allowed to have and I feel like I should eat some.  I am never going to lose any weight. 
My first thought was "Your sister was killed in action?!  That can't be right!"  (I came of age during the Vietnam war.)  Then I Googled it.  Know it all makes a good deal more sense.

Say "Thank you," tell Kim how good it was, and just eat a bite or two.  If Kim is inclined to take offense, tell her that you're trying to lose weight and all of the goodies are making that hard, because they're so delicious.

Margret
 
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I saw this story on the news a few hours ago; it happened in Russia.  The YouTube video of it is obviously set to high speed; it was much better on the news:


I'm impressed with the bravery of the man who rescued the kitten.

Margret
 
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That poor little baby must have been so terrified!  It's a miracle no one hit it!  Thank God for people like that man.

And I thought Killed In Action when I first saw the KIA, too.  I was married to a Marine and lived on base for years.  Military speak is firmly ingrained in me.
 

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Sorry 'killed in action' never occurred to me.  Although it could happen in her case
  She has eased off most of her annoying know it all behavior and I don't dread her calling me anymore.  She even sent me a 12 quart stock pot to make bone broth in for an early early birthday gift.  I currently have Roasted Chicken almost bone broth, and beef almost bone broth and last night I made some Ox Tail bone broth.  I think I got the Ox Tail right but won't know until it's cool enough to go in the fridge.  The others are close but I added too much liquid back in while it was simmering.  Still very tasty and I have a cup every morning while I make my breakfast.
 

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I'm considering fostering a couple of kittens for Tail Chasers Rescue.  Sent an email asking how old they are.  Still a little gun shy after fostering and losing Rocket.  Also not sure I have enough money for food.  Still haven't heard back from Safeway.  Will call Monday to see if they are considering me.

Fluffy was scratching in the litter box this morning so I got out of bed to clean it for her assuming it was full.  I arrived at the box to find her comfortably lounging in the box!  She piled up the litter so her but was on the bottom of the container and she had a slope to rest her body on.  I don't understand it.
 

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Since my brats seem to think they absolutely must dig all the way to the bottom of the box, I broke my plastic litter scoop.  So, I went to wal*mart and got a metal one.  It works better anyway.  I keep trying to tell them they should stop trying to dig to China.  I told them they wouldn't like it there cuz people eat cats there.  They won't listen.
 

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More grumbling and venting
... so I went to Mom's house after yoga class today. There was no mention of my birthday at all
And no cake either. Actually Mom did buy a cake on Sunday. I saw the bakery box before she put it away in the basement fridge. Judging by the size of the box, it was at least a 12 inch cake. Where did the cake go? Mom gave the entire cake to her friend and her family. Why? Because apparently the friend had been asking Mom for this particular cake and Mom is too nice to say no and she won't take money from the friend to buy it either. So this person is basically getting a free cake when she pleases
The friend is perfectly capable of going to the bakery to buy the cake herself but Mom always has some lame excuse why the friend can't. Sometimes I feel that Mom's friends are more important than her own offspring


Still feeling hurt about another birthday gone unnoticed by family
. But it is nice that I have a friend who does care and remembers and sends me a gift
And friends on TCS who love to celebrate all sorts of occasions
 

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More grumbling and venting
... so I went to Mom's house after yoga class today. There was no mention of my birthday at all
And no cake either. Actually Mom did buy a cake on Sunday. I saw the bakery box before she put it away in the basement fridge. Judging by the size of the box, it was at least a 12 inch cake. Where did the cake go? Mom gave the entire cake to her friend and her family. Why? Because apparently the friend had been asking Mom for this particular cake and Mom is too nice to say no and she won't take money from the friend to buy it either. So this person is basically getting a free cake when she pleases
The friend is perfectly capable of going to the bakery to buy the cake herself but Mom always has some lame excuse why the friend can't. Sometimes I feel that Mom's friends are more important than her own offspring


Still feeling hurt about another birthday gone unnoticed by family
. But it is nice that I have a friend who does care and remembers and sends me a gift
And friends on TCS who love to celebrate all sorts of occasions
The rag tag group that I have collected over the years and call family are the only ones who count. If my family suddenly remembered my birthday and sent a cake I'd have a slice sent out to a lab for testing.  I swear they only make contact to see if my life is miserable so they can gossip. It's not and therefor no fun.
 

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Yeah, I have a sister like that. My family is scattered all over the globe but this sister lives just 15 miles from me and we have not spoken in years. She invited my daughter who lives in Montana to her youngest son's wedding but not me. My brother came from overseas, the other brother and my other sister who also live overseas could not come. Now she is going to celebrate her 80th birthday in January: my daughter was invited but not me, neither were the other 3 siblings. She has gone overseas "on vacation" but has not bothered to visit any of the other  siblings.

If she suddenly contacted me for anything I would tell her to go fly a kite. Who needs relatives like that? 
 

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Yeah, I have a sister like that. My family is scattered all over the globe but this sister lives just 15 miles from me and we have not spoken in years. She invited my daughter who lives in Montana to her youngest son's wedding but not me. My brother came from overseas, the other brother and my other sister who also live overseas could not come. Now she is going to celebrate her 80th birthday in January: my daughter was invited but not me, neither were the other 3 siblings. She has gone overseas "on vacation" but has not bothered to visit any of the other  siblings.

If she suddenly contacted me for anything I would tell her to go fly a kite. Who needs relatives like that? 
My grandmother and her sister had some sort of feud for years. It wasn't until I was way past adulthood the reason for the break was revealed. Her sister married a many of Gypsy blood. It was simply unacceptable. On Christmas they would leave her sitting at the retirement home waiting for them. In fact I was in my 20s before I knew that was even her sister. She really was a kind gracious lady and I enjoyed talking with her the few times she was at family gatherings. I see the same cold behavior from my mother if you make her mad or disappoint her expectations you are shunned.
 

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There are the family you were born into, and the family you choose.

Shortly after we were married, I told my husband, "Roger, my parents are our parents.  Your parents are our in-laws."  Roger still appreciates that, after all four of them are dead.  When my father was dying of liver cancer, my mother-in-law sent him a note which he cherished, thanking him because during the years when we lived in my parents' basement, he taught Roger what it was like to live in a functional family, and to be a good husband and father.

I think it's fair to say that everyone on TCS counts as part of our chosen family.

I just saw something on the news about this, and immediately went searching for it online:


Good for this mother.  I wish it were this easy to convince a cat to stop acting up in the car....

I've been keeping the glass door from the bedroom onto the back porch open for Jasmine (screen closed, of course, but she can enjoy the breeze and the wildlife in the back yard), because it's been such a warm autumn that it doesn't make the house too cold at night and the porch is shaded so it doesn't make it too warm during the day.  And this morning at 5:15 I was awakened by the sound of a cat yowling.  It didn't sound like Jasmine's voice, but I was concerned all the same, so I got up.  Jasmine was apparently awakened by the same sound, as she came running to look out on the back porch.  I turned on the porch light and saw nothing.  By this time the yowling had stopped, but Jasmine thought there was still a cat there, off to the east side of the house, so I got dressed, grabbed a flashlight, and went out to see whether there was a kitty in distress.  Found nothing -- I think it took me too long to get dressed.  I was hoping for Floppy, though it didn't really sound like her, either, and I'm pretty sure that she's dead.  
  So I decided that even though there were still two hours until my alarm would go off I was up, made some coffee and finished the laundry, and now I'm working on breakfast.  And I think it's time to start keeping that door closed at night.  It's going to be a long day.

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Hello, my darlings.  In the way of all moves, things are lost or misplaced.  My one big "WHERE IS IT" is the power cord for the computer.  I'll be back regularly as soon as it is found or replaced,  That will be soon, but till then I have to save battery in case I have to order one online,  I'm thinking of you all and missing being here more than any of you can know.

Took a hard fall yesterday but other than being sore, I'm ok.  Will restart unpacking tomorrow when I can walk a bit better,

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Good news that you're finally moved! I hope the process wasn't too nerve wracking. Well, except for the fall - yikes!  Are you okay?   It's a shame about the computer cable- hopefully you can find it before you have to order one.  Those things are not cheap.

Speaking of computer equipment, I ordered a printer awhile back and never used it because I couldn't figure out how to load the paper cassettes.
   I finally got tired of feeling like an idiot so attacked the thing today.  At last it is up and running and talking to my computer and the paper is loaded. Everything is theoretically fine.  Except the 
 paper keeps jamming.  
  I am completely stumped.   At least it provides lots of entertainment for Paul and Chula as it practically shakes itself off the table as it jumps around trying to print.  
   
 
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