Trying to get adopted cat to be a lap cat

Thanks. hes actually and F6 virtual F4. On paper hes is a F6 but has high serval blood. same as an F4. Hes also an SBT so bred savannah to savannah. The breeder admitted she did not socialize much. So you could be right. They can be quirky for sure. Hes a pretty amazing boy though.

I thought there was a lot of serval in that kitty. I would LOVE to have one myself, but they aren't legal here in Texas... darn!

Servals or savannahs aren't legal?

mybabies59 said:

Servals or savannahs aren't legal?

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Neither one is legal here. No 'wild' species or hybrids of such are allowed. Yet somehow, certain wolf crosses managed to get accepted. Don't know how or why, but Savannahs, servals, cougars, etc are not allowed to be kept as pets in Texas.

Really I didn't know that. They are incredible. So intelligent and graceful creatures

Such loving gentle creatures so that's nuts. Now servals are not so simple I agree but savannahs are wonderful

I agree. If I got one, I'd go with one well-removed from the serval so that it has a good bit of domestic look to it, then claim that it was (sold or given to me as) a Bengal mix, or a spotted tabby, or something other than a Savannah. Or claim that I found the kitty and I have no idea what it is.

In other words... lie like a rug.  

What I don't get is that wolf hybrids are NOT banned in this state (but they may be illegal in Dallas County) and pit bulls are legal everywhere here except in the cases of apartment complexes or rental communities that have property bans. Garland, TX does have some rules as to containing pit bulls, but they are not banned. And in Dallas, we had a few recent high-profile cases of people being killed by pit bulls, but there is no talk that I know of regarding a breed ban like there is for Savannah cats.

It's ridiculous.

CalvinMigi said:

Sometimes I lose my patience with him because I get so frustrated.

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I don't want to be rude, but this is why he won't sit on your lap.

who said they lose their patience...??

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ah i see. Never get frustrated or upset ever. They pick up on that and its not good. lots of love and patience and kisses!!

@2Cats4everLoved  So as an update I feel like there hasn't been much improvement with my cat. I noticed that whenever I pet his body his tail usually thrashes so I'm assuming he doesn't like it? Or he doesn't like it when I do it because he still doesn't trust me. I also noticed that it's been a while since he's gone up to me and rub his face against my finger etc. I noticed it when I randomly met a stray cat who rubbed up against me and it made me think about my cat back home and how he never does it. I find it hard to bond with him because although he plays with some toys he loses interest really quickly and he hates massages. Do you have any more other recommendations as to how to bond with my cat more? 

Can you accept him just as he is? The more we wish for things, the less likely they will happen.

Primula said:

Can you accept him just as he is? The more we wish for things, the less likely they will happen.

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I agree with @Primula- This may be the type of cat he is.  Just an independent cat.  Some cats are put off if their human friend pushes themselves on them.  I would suggest, don't try so hard, you need to let the cat come to you.

I honestly need to go back and read the threads on this situation to refresh my memory.  

I know we all want our kitties to cuddle, but unfortunately that's not always the case.  And it could be that he's picking up on your frustration with him and that is causing him to be turned off.

Cats are VERY AWARE of their environment and if you are getting annoyed at him, know he notices and may think you don't like him - It goes both ways.  

As far as playing, have you tried the valerian root?  Not sure if I mentioned this already.  My boy used to go nuts over it.  I got the capsules with the powder and would sprinkle on the toy and he would go crazy.  Please note it stinks and smells like old socks.

I'll read up and get back to you.

Hang in there.

I fully agree with the other posters.

Like I said, my older cat has never been, never will be a lap cat, a cuddly cat, or an overly-affectionate cat.  I accept that.  I love him dearly, he knows it, I know he loves me, but I respect his space.  I accept him exactly how his personality is and I don't try to change him. 

It's like this--some people are "huggers", and some people do not like to be touched (I fall in that category, so I can vouch for how it feels to be forced to be affectionate physically).  Cats are the same way.

2Cats4everLoved said:

Cats are VERY AWARE of their environment and if you are getting annoyed at him, know he notices and may think you don't like him - It goes both ways.  

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That is so very true.

Because I don't want to start a separate post. Do you guys think it would be a good idea to get a kitten? It's because although I do love my cat and I know it might seem lame but I originally got him in hopes he would fill in a hole ever since all the people I know graduated college. But because I spend so much effort trying to bond with him only for him to aloof it kind of broke my heart and it has made things worse. So I was wondering if I got a kitten, especially one at a early age in order to bond with it. It would help fill that hole while still keeping my current cat. Because honestly I thought about giving up on him but I can't bear to bring myself to give him up to a shelter so I thought a kitten would be a solution where I can be happy and my cat could remain a part of the family thus giving us more time to bond.

As for if he is compatible for another cat. He's 1 year old and I tried to decide what is personality is but I don't know where to start. He's calm, aloof, not too shy from strangers (like he'll show up but won't pay anyone an

CalvinMigi said:

Because I don't want to start a separate post. Do you guys think it would be a good idea to get a kitten? It's because although I do love my cat and I know it might seem lame but I originally got him in hopes he would fill in a hole ever since all the people I know graduated college. But because I spend so much effort trying to bond with him only for him to aloof it kind of broke my heart and it has made things worse. So I was wondering if I got a kitten, especially one at a early age in order to bond with it. It would help fill that hole while still keeping my current cat. Because honestly I thought about giving up on him but I can't bear to bring myself to give him up to a shelter so I thought a kitten would be a solution where I can be happy and my cat could remain a part of the family thus giving us more time to bond.

As for if he is compatible for another cat. He's 1 year old and I tried to decide what is personality is but I don't know where to start. He's calm, aloof, not too shy from strangers (like he'll show up but won't pay anyone an

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I don't think you should get another cat. There is no guarantee that another cat will have or keep the personality that you are looking for either. Kittens can be cuddly and then change as they get older. It's just a lot to ask, unfortunately, if it's a condition of you being happy with a pet. I think you have to go in with zero expectations.

Can you focus on the relationship that you do have with your cat? In what ways does he act as a companion?

I completely agree with @talkingpeanut    I know you believe that you might get a kitten that would be a more lovey-type cat, but their personalities are as distinct as different people's are, so you definitely have no guarantee.

I would say (in another, different situation) a kitten might help your cat, especially since you two seem to have an already strained relationship and it might provide comfort to your existing cat to have some sort of companionship. But-- as you don't know your existing cat's personality well enough to judge--it could be that introducing a new kitten or cat would only drive a wedge further between the two of you.  Or it could cause you to just ignore the existing poor cat and focus only on the one that is more loving. 

I just hate that your relationship is strained with your existing cat.  It cannot be beneficial to the cat at all if you have decided it is not beneficial to you and your needs.  I really feel sorry for the cat.  I hate it for you, but the cat really has no choice in the matter--that's why I say I feel sorry for the cat trapped in a relationship where it is not really wanted, because I know it has to be picking up on that      I'm not saying in any way negative towards you in any way, but just that the cat has to feel it and feel unwanted   They may not understand a situation like we humans do, but they do pick up on feelings very well.