A such thing as too old for birthdays? Do you agree?

I've noticed in the forums when alot of you have birthdays you have cakes and stuff....well I was wondering if you feel there is an age that is too old to celebrate. Reason being is that when I turned 18,19, and 20, my parents didnt even mention it was my birthday that day. I'll be 21 in August, and I guess it'll be the same thing. I asked them finally and they said I'm too old for parties, presents, etc. They say I'm too old, yet if I dont call them and tell them happy birthday one year they get mad. That makes sense! I live with my grandma and even my family here is the same way. So either there is a stopping point or they're just being odd.

What do you think? Is that just some excuse they have and birthdays should be celebrated at any age? Or are they right and there is an age when we get 'too old' to celebrate?

You are never too old to celebrate such an important day! I'm the mom of two kids, and I will never stop buying them a birthday cake and presents, no matter how old they get. My parents get me a cake and a gift every year, and I'm 28.

I'm sorry your parents didn't even take the time to wish you a Happy Birthday. For what its worth, HAPPY BIRTHDAY for 18,19 and 20

My family still make a big deal out of my birthday (I'll be 26 this year) but I think that's because it's so near Christmas (Dec 23rd) and certain people (who shall remain nameless ) used to give me a Christmas card and just tack on 'ps. Happy Birthday' at the bottom of the card. I never minded not getting seperate birthday presents from these people but seperate cards is different.

I still make a big deal of my parents too. My mum was 40 something last week (I can't say how old she'll kill me ) and I got her a stack of presents. Nothing expensive just bits and bobs I knew she'd like and a small victoria sponge cake.

21 is an important birthday in my family, maybe you should let them know how you feel. Explain that it isn't about gifts, it's about celebrating another year in your life (may you enjoy many more) and that sending you a card or calling you to wish you a happy birthday would make the day for you. They probably don't realise it's that important to you.

ps. August the what? (turning 21 deserves an ecard ).

Originally posted by Melissa
You are never too old to celebrate such an important day! I'm the mom of two kids, and I will never stop buying them a birthday cake and presents, no matter how old they get. My parents get me a cake and a gift every year, and I'm 28.

I'm sorry your parents didn't even take the time to wish you a Happy Birthday. For what its worth, HAPPY BIRTHDAY for 18,19 and 20

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Thats my opinion. It's the day we were born how can it not be important!

It's ok. You are so sweet! Thank you!

Jeeperscat:
*Sorry I didnt reply too fast. I was eating.*

I agree! If I had a birthday so close to Christmas I'd still want a seperate card!

I always make sure and call my parents, but I dont make a big deal out of the birthdays because they feel they are definately too old. Mom's almost 40 and dad's in his 40's. To me it's not too old. *shrugs*

This year I think I will. I've not really felt right mentioning it before because I dont want to seem like I want presents. All I really want is a party with cake, good food, and my family. Since I've never really mentioned how much I wanted them to celebrate my birthday, maybe you're right and they dont know it's important to me.

August 30th. (luckily not close to a holiday ) Thanks.

Amber your birthday is a special time of year and should be celebrated not only because of that but because of the fact that you're put on this Earth for a certain amount of time and when your time is up, well then they'd wish for all your birthdays back.
Anyway, I also know what it is like to get a birthday/ holiday card in one. it kind of sucks! ok it DOES suck. but being born on Dec 31, well I guess you could say, everyone celebrates my birthday with me.
Our friends always throw a New Years Eve party and they tack up a Happy Birthday poster on the front door for me so everyone coming in can sign it. it's kind of cool but sometimes I think, well I wonder what would happen if I told them I wanted to celebrate my bithday on a different day. I bet they'd freak. My sister has that same problem, she was born on Feb 14. So we both understnad that pain.
Amber, Happy birthday to you for every year you didn't get one from your family and happy birthday for the ones in the future.. You're a great girl, they should be honored to have a daughter/granddaughter like you.

Nah, your never too old to celebrate birthdays... except for when your dead


Peace,
Brandon

jeeperscat- I so know what you mean! Mine is dec 27th, and if I'm lucky I get the ps on my xmas cards. These days, usually not even that. Starting to feel old when even my aunt doesn't send a card, she used to send a separate bday card every year until this one. 25 now.

And no you're never too old for bdays! I get a cake each year, plus presents from my immediate family, and so does everyone- mom and dad too, and they're in their 60s. My sister tried to tell me that she doesn't need a present at all, but I told her that of course she does, besides, she got me one. Her reply was that I'm the baby in the family, so it's different! Baby at 25, nah, her sons are the babies now. The presents usually aren't anything really big, and for my brother it might mean doing stuff like cutting his hair or sewing curtains for him, but still it's a present. And most definitely a cake!

nope your never too old for a celebration

A friend of mine has her birthday on December 24th. I go out of my way to get her a separate birthday present, complete with wrapping paper that is brightly colored in anything but green, red or gold, and take her out to dinner a few days in advance (break up the b-day from xmas).

My husband and I not only celebrate our birthdays, but we stretch it out to be a "birthday week". We simply spoil each other rotten the entire week and give lots of little gifts throughout the week. We're just thankful that we have each other. We're both in our 40's.

Nope, you are never too old for a birthday!!

Nope, never too old! In fact, I think that when someone makes it past 3/4 of a century it's all the more reason to celebrate. Then if they reach 100, that's a big call for a celebration; even the president takes part in that!
I'm another one of those holiday babies; Dec. 24. I'd rather be any other time of year, but can't do anything about that! A couple of times my mom had a 1/2 year party for me and that was fun without all the other things going on. One aunt, now deceased, always made a point to send a birthday card with our Christmas card and I always appreciated that. My best friend of over 25 years does it too. My family always does a little something each year on the morning of the 24th, then the rest of the day is rushing around getting the last minute things done for Christmas.
I didn't get married around any holiday so I could have 1 celebration each year without everyone else partying.
Gothic, did your parents go all out for your birthdays when you were growing up? If so, maybe they got a little burned out and don't feel you need as much attention now that you're an adult.

56 on my last birthday, Dec 20. Still celebrating. Don't intend to stop.

My family always went the extra mile in making sure that my birthday was celebrated for itself, that most of the time I got separate gifts (unless there was something special that would not be possible, but for the possibility of combining two occasions!), etc. I've never had a birthday cake, because it was understood that there was already enough of that sort of stuff around for Christmas -- BUT I got to choose my whole birthday dinner, including special dessert -- and since I'm not that much of a cake fan, anyway, it was actually better.

My Dad will be 92 in April, and you wanna bet he'll be celebrating. We'll take him out for dinner, and there'll be gifts and lots of long distance phone calls, since most of our family lives in the east.

In my husband's family, there's not the same attention to celebrating on the day -- but the occasion is never passed over. There's at least a card, a phone call, and as soon as the family can reasonably gather, the celebration happens -- often with many branches of the family represented. And then there was the year, when one of his sisters did the phone call, but not the card, on time. The card came some while later, a belated wishes card, saying "Your birthday isn't over...until the last card arrives". We find that an excellent rationale for one more observance, and one more...stretching it out like Momofmany.

Birthdays are important. They are the anniversary of a most important event: your arrival in this world, which would not be the same without you. And every year, it gets that much more important to acknowledge that.

Dad likes to recall a scene from many years ago, when we were still living in Montreal. I wasn't more than in my teens at the time, if that, when he came home from shopping one day, grinning from ear to ear. He had been going about his business, when there came, skipping along the street, a little girl, singing at the top of her voice, "Je me fete aujourd'hui! Je me fete aujourd'hui! Je me fete aujourd'hui!..." (It's my birthday today...) It's not uncommon for him to do the same (minus the skipping!) on his birthday -- to this day.

Yeah -- celebrate in whatever way works for you, and don't let anyone tell you you're too old for it!

BTW Happy Birthday for 18, 19 and 20 from me too.

Originally posted by Cougar
Nah, your never too old to celebrate birthdays... except for when your dead

Peace,
Brandon

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Lol...good point! It would be hard to if you're dead!

jugen:

Thank you! I see it that way, but I guess they dont yet!
I'm glad mine's not near or on a holiday! That card problem would be painfull!
Aww thank you! *blushing* that was so sweet....Thank you! Happy birthday to you aswell past and future!

Originally posted by rapunzel47
Dad likes to recall a scene from many years ago, when we were still living in Montreal. I wasn't more than in my teens at the time, if that, when he came home from shopping one day, grinning from ear to ear. He had been going about his business, when there came, skipping along the street, a little girl, singing at the top of her voice, "Je me fete aujourd'hui! Je me fete aujourd'hui! Je me fete aujourd'hui!..." (It's my birthday today...) It's not uncommon for him to do the same (minus the skipping!) on his birthday -- to this day.

Yeah -- celebrate in whatever way works for you, and don't let anyone tell you you're too old for it!

BTW Happy Birthday for 18, 19 and 20 from me too.

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I'd love to see a kid skip down the street talking in another language here! Never has happened!

I celebrate with Lyle...that's about it. I'm gonna end this this year. I want to celebrate and I'm going too...even if they still think I'm too old! *grin*

Thank you! Happy birthday for you too!

I'm 45 and I still like to celebrate my birthday! My favorite thing is Baskin Robbins Icecream cake! And my daughters know it!

Originally posted by mzjazz2u
I'm 45 and I still like to celebrate my birthday! My favorite thing is Baskin Robbins Icecream cake! And my daughters know it!

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Oooo I've never had one that's sounds good! I love Baskin Robbins!

Hey, even my 95 year old grandpa still enjoys celebrating his birthday !

I'm one of the few who voted "yes". This is because celebrating it is getting too loud for me. This year I wanted to celebrate by going to a secluded place like a private beach with my cats all by myself and enjoy nature in peace and quiet. But my parents and friends forced me to go with them and party. I should have refused but they are the type of people who will be very offended and hurt. What else could I do?

Celebrate girl! No one is ever too old for a birthday--it happens once a year whether they like it or not!!