My Kaiser is gone

catlady76

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Someone hit him and drove off. My son found him by the mailbox. He was always an outdoor cat, he was street smart so I can't believe this happened.

I am devastated, I can't sleep. My heart is broken and I hate this feeling. When I wake up in the morning for a minute everything will feel normal, then I will remember what happened and it's like tearing a scab off a wound.

For the first time in 5 years he will not be running up to the car door to greet me when I get home.
 

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I'm so sorry. I just lost my kitty yesterday. I've also had what happened to your kitty to a Tom I fed a couple years ago. I found him in the middle of the street gone. I was so angry someone would do that. It just stink. Just know you took good care of him and he appreciated that you were there for him everyday.
 

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He would be the last one to have you so sad when remembering him, he loved you too much for that. I know how hard it is to not dwell on that horrible sight, my Chrissy was killed in front of me and they still drove off. It numbs the soul for a long time. Time is the only thing that helps to soften the sharp edges, you will never forget, but you will begin to reminisce about the good instead of the bad eventually. You'll hear about how he should have been inside, etc., but for some (SOME cats, I have one born outside who won't leave the house) cats born outside that is just a jail sentence and they will spend many miserable years safe instead of a few happy ones living as they want. The bond you formed with that boy will always be with you, the love you feel for him will never leave that special place in your heart. Your memories will eventually comfort you, and you will sense him around you. Do something good in his name, it helps to validate his life and it makes you feel better about yourself for a moment. Bring some food or litter to a shelter, pay for the adoption of an elderly cat, or spend time with the kittens who need attention so desperately.

Right now is a horrible time, full of loss to the home and to your soul, surround yourself with people who understand what you are going through, and let your grief out, it helps to lessen the burden we feel by letting some of it escape. The pain is great, but it is worth the price of having Kaiser in your life for that 5 years, he brought much into it, you will experience the pain because it means that you loved that boy and he loved you in return, to have never known that love at all would have been a great loss in your life. Please know you are not alone in your grief, I'll pray for you both. Take care.......RIP sweet Kaiser, you will be forever held in a loving heart, and will never be forgotten. Please send your love to those who miss you so dearly, they mourn that you have left their lives, send a sign that you are at peace and missing them too, to ease their pain and bring them comfort in their time of grief!
 

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What a sad tragic thing to happen I'm so sorry for your loss. As for the driver that just drove of well.........
To echo another post, at least you know you gave him a life full of fun and love.
Again so sorry this has happened
 
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Thank you guys. I needed to share with people that understand.

I am going to miss him, I'd talk to him and he would answer with his meows.
 

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I am very sorry for your loss.  Our babies are never with us long enough.  You have come to the right place to be able to share your baby with people who understand what you are going through.  The bond you shared with Kaiser will never be broken he will always live on in a special place in your heart. Our babies take a piece of us with them when they leave us.  There are always special memories that we shared with our babies and in time those memories will begin to replace the sorrow you are feeling now.  I wish I could tell you when this will happen but it is different for each person.  Please be kind to yourself and allow as much time as you need to grieve. The grief process is unique for each person and happen's in it's own time frame.  You can always come here to talk while your are dealing with all the emotions you will feel while grieving.  Hugs to you and your son during this very difficult time.
 

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  Condolences on losing Kaiser so tragically. So sad for your son, too, that is a rough experience. I know what you mean about the scab anecdote - it feels like there is a shard of glass just floating in your heart, the healing starts and then something jolts it loose and the cutting pain starts anew.

I am so glad that Kaiser knew what it was to be part of a loving family. I hope that comfort and healing come your way soon, but please don't pressure yourself to stop grieving. Each loss is different, just as each relationship is special in its own way, so the timing is always different. For myself, I love the stanzas in the old Roger Whittaker song, "The Last Goodbye", especially the words that go, "Oh, they say the moment that you're born is when you begin to die and the first time we said 'hello' began our last good-bye." 

Godspeed, Kaiser - love will light your way over The Bridge....
 

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I'm so sorry you and your son's loss.  Rest in peace, Kaiser, your family loves and misses you.  
 

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I am sorry that you lost Kaiser, he obviously loved you and your family because you cared for him and loved him back. RIP sweet boy
 

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C catlady76 I am truly sorry for your loss of sweet Kaiser. How tragic! I will never understand how someone can just hit a kitty and drive off. Those people just don't have no respect for a living creature. Just know that you loved Kaiser and he loved you in return. He appreciated all you did for him. He is now watching over you and your son. He is smiling, knowing that he will always have a special place in your hearts.
 
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