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How are you doing Ginny? Is the week treating you better?
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Missing My Mom
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I've worked long hours every day since Tuesday and today I'm beat. I don't know if you could say I'm better, rather I'm just back in denial mode. Getting my mind off myself helps. That's partly why I started this thread. I knew those who've been through the loss of a parent would chime in and share stories. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, but I do take comfort in the company.
How are you doing?
How are you doing?
Sorry for your loss, many many hugs coming your way from all of us!
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@Cassiopea Thank you so much!
I lost my Mom 4 years ago and my Dad 2 years ago, so I have an idea how you are feeling. I found losing Mom was harder, and I don't know if that's because of the mother/daughter connection, or just because she was the first parent I lost.
It's gotten easier as time has passed, but I still feel their loss everyday. The hardest part is knowing things will never again be like they were. And even if we do meet again someday, it still won't be like what I'm missing now.
It's gotten easier as time has passed, but I still feel their loss everyday. The hardest part is knowing things will never again be like they were. And even if we do meet again someday, it still won't be like what I'm missing now.
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I'm so sorry @rubysmama ! I can't imagine losing both within such a short period of time. Daddy died in '91 which was a long time ago. I think you're right about the mother/daughter connection. And you're so right that you feel that loss every day. It will never be the same. Mom lived with me. I took care of her. It was SUCH a pain trying to find trustworthy caregivers for her but I'd gladly have that nightmare back in a second to be with her again. Hugs to you.
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Just hanging in there. Trying to act like an adult but today I feel like laying on the floor and crying. But I feel like this often. Its a part of my life so much that I would be shocked if I didn't feel; that way, :/ And I have no reason to cry. Nothing makes sense anymore. At least the guys I work with come over and harass me and try to make me smile. Did you know that guys hate tears and an upset woman? I have never seen such fear in my life when I get in a funk and they see it. I never learned how to be a poker face.
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LOL! That's so funny what you said about guys and tears. Sometimes though you have to cry. Tears actually contain stress hormones. This quote comes from "The Science Of Tears" by Derek Whitney:
"Emotional tears contain higher levels of certain stress hormones such as adrenocorticotropic hormone, prolactin and the painkiller leucine enkephalin. Adrenocorticotropic hormone and prolactin levels rise with stress. Emotional tears also contain more manganese than those from irritants, and manganese helps regulate mood. Chronically depressed people often have high levels of manganese in their systems."
I don't do poker face either, except to that one cop, lol. When I'm mad everyone knows it! But it's good to have a cry every now and then especially during stressful situations....like life.
"Emotional tears contain higher levels of certain stress hormones such as adrenocorticotropic hormone, prolactin and the painkiller leucine enkephalin. Adrenocorticotropic hormone and prolactin levels rise with stress. Emotional tears also contain more manganese than those from irritants, and manganese helps regulate mood. Chronically depressed people often have high levels of manganese in their systems."
I don't do poker face either, except to that one cop, lol. When I'm mad everyone knows it! But it's good to have a cry every now and then especially during stressful situations....like life.
I must have started a personal PM to you a dozen times on the 4th. I know it hurts. Your mother sounds like a wonderful soul.
Two years ago today, July 4, my mom passed away. I haven't been the same since. Not a day goes by I don't miss her terribly. I go through the motions, and most times no one even knows. We were really close.
She was such a good mom. Always supportive no matter what. Always willing to listen. Always willing to go shoppingShe loved a bargain and was a serial yard saler. Being born just before the great depression, she always looked for ways to save a buck, and she found it too. She loved to organize. Basically, she just loved to do things. She would always make a homemade chocolate cream pie for a new neighbor or crochet a small afghan for a new baby in her church.
Most of all, she loved to help people. She volunteered at the local soup kitchen, volunteered at her church folding bulletins. She was never above any mundane task, in fact, the more mundane the better she liked it. She just wanted to help. She never wanted the spotlight. Behind the scenes was more her style. And people were drawn to her. She was the kind of person you felt safe telling all your secrets. She would rather listen to you all day - while organizing the items on your coffee table - than talk about herself. She's probably the only true Christian I have ever known.
I hope there is a heaven. If so, I hope she made it there.
Tonight, just like last year, I will light a single two-wick candle - one wick for both of us - in your honor at the hour you passed. I miss you so much, and always will.
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@Kittens Mom thank you for your kind words and thoughts. She was a wonderful soul indeed!
