Saying goodbye to a family member...

dc5luis

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Long time lurker, first time poster.

Today I had lost my dear cat, Cindy. Her age was unknown but she looked at least a year old when I first found her in 2003.

Found her outside my bedroom window where I used to live, with my mom. I was about 14. I went outside and gave her some ham thinking she was hungry and boy was she. I wanted to keep her cause she was scared and we lived in a busy intersection. My mom said no because couldn't keep animals in the apartments (even tho she was the manager), so I quickly called my dad and see if he would take her in. My dad never said no to me. So right after school, picked her up, had my mom take me to my dads and left her there in the garage, which became her home.

Cindy was with us when we lost our beloved dog, Curly Sue, a year later. Cindy gave us comfort and tried to heal my broken heart. Around 2005 she had became a mother of 6. It was a dark time because the pound who was supposed to get just the kittens had also taken Cindy. We ended up having a family member go get her out and was saved. Over the years, Cindy adjusted well to life. She lived slow and on her pace. She wasn't ever a hyper cat, or wanted to play much. She pretty much made her own rules. She made us know when she wanted to come into the garage, when she was out of food and when she wanted to go out. I admit during the years I would get upset with her. As she loved sleeping on my car, scratching it, and tearing up the carpet in the garage and make a mess with her hair. But she was still a family member. I would always go to her after cleaning her mess and rub her down, and she'd purr and give me a nice bite as a "that's what you get".

My dad loved her and took the best care he can for her. And it showed as she was closer to him. He'd be outside drinking a beer after working on the yard and she'll be out there laid out on the grass with him. When he came home from work, she'd be there with him in the garage as he untied his shoes. When he would let her in the house, she'd be right there by his recliner. My dad don't really show any emotion but I'm sure it hurts him.

She had became sick in the last two weeks, she wouldn't eat her food, or drink water, weight dropped significantly and lost a lot of her beautiful orange hair. She was no longer our Cindy. Even though the initial blood test from the vet showed nothing wrong, it was apparent she was dying. And my dad had to make a tough decision, continue trying to fight for an elderly cat or let her pain and suffering end.

June 21, 2016,  Cindy was made an angel. I will miss her. Knowing I won't see her when I open the garage door, or hear her meows when she's ready to come in, or even cleaning her hair all over the garage. I'm just happy to know her pain and suffering is finally over. Now she gets to rest in peace and run around with our other passed on family members. She'll never be forgotten.


 

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I'm so sorry for your loss of dear Cindy. What a beautiful girl. Thank you for sharing her story with us.You are right: Cindy is no longer in pain and is no longer suffering. I hope the knowledge of that helps to ease the grief.
[emoji]128149[/emoji]RIP Cindy[emoji]128149[/emoji]
 

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 Condolences on losing such a beautiful kitty with wonderful personality. Bless you for rescuing her. I admire your resourcefulness in securing her a safe, loving home. You are right, she is with the ancestors now and someday you two will be reunited again. You showed the truest love by letting her have a peaceful passing. That took courage and insight - when deciding to end their suffering, our hearts and minds must focus on that it is "about what is best for them". Now that they are gone (I had my Cindy PTS today), it is our turn to focus inward because it is now "all about us". Thank you for sharing your memories & welcome to TCS, although I wish that it would have been in happier circumstances. Susan
 

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Beautiful Cindy was so fortunate to have chosen you and your father as her own, and you were fortunate to have her in your life to love and cherish you. She had a good life, but time goes on and no matter how much we want it to be different, they must all leave us behind one day. We mourn the loss in our lives, but also  cherish what they brought into our lives, little Cindy enriched yours in ways that cannot ever be explained or duplicated. The absence in our homes and our hearts is so difficult at the beginning, we are in disbelief and anguish, and it takes a long time to heal the hole in our hearts. You have to believe that ending her pain and suffering was the humane thing to do, she deserved her peace, not lingering on with the pain and fear that something like this brings. My heart goes out to you, I hope you can go on to do good things in her name, she would like that. Open your heart to another little deserving soul when the time is right, it will keep her alive in your heart. Donate your time to share comfort with the hundreds of homeless pets in your community, give food to the hungry or a small donation in her name. It helps to lessen the grief, if you do it out of love and do it  in her name. Take care, and surround yourself with people who understand........RIP beautiful Cindy, you brought love into the hearts of two people who love and miss you so very much, know you will never be forgotten and will dwell in their loving hearts forever! 
 
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Thank you all for your kind words. Yesterday was very tough, today got better. Still was rough coming home and not seeing her come out the garage.

To be honest writing this thread yesterday really helped me to kinda have closure. Putting what you feel out there really lets you see the good side more then the bad. So thank you for this site to have a section like this, it really helps ease the pain.
 

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I am truly sorry and share in your grief.  We have two feral cats that we feed outside both are neutered.  We have been feeding them for a few years.  I have to houses and plenty of toys but they always leave. It has been about a week and I have not seen Missy.  My heart is broken so I know how you must feel.
 

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So sorry for your loss. Our furry friends become our lives and it is so difficult to say goodbye. RIP Cindy. 
 

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I'm so sorry to you and your father on your loss of beautiful Cindy.  Did you know that red female cats are somewhat rare?  I'm almost certain.  Your girl was a very special and unique angel.
 
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