Neutering 22-months cat

Hiii!

So my lazy, big male cat is turning two soon, and he is getting neutered tomorrow. (I know I waited a long time, but the only other cat is a spayed female, he's never sprayed, we live on the 3rd floor of an apartment block therefore he has never been outside, has no way of getting outside and frankly, is too scared to go outside.) So, I have a few questions, since he's quite a big guy. 

1) Does his size/age put him at danger for complications?

Spaying my female was an ordeal I don't ever want to put myself through again. She kept slipping out of the E-collar, got her stitches open, got them infected, it was an absolute nightmare and I had to miss work to take care of her because I was worried to the point it made me sick. I reaaally hope neutering is less risky, because I can't miss work and there won't be anybody to watch him.

Which leads me to:

2) Is it okay to leave him unattended?

He is very strong, and my guess is he would refuse the E-Collar or die trying to remove it.

3) Vet is suggesting using laser because it heals faster?

Any truth to that? Does it actually help?

I really love this floof and really don't want what happened to my other cat to happen to him  

It's really much less complicated for males. Snip snip . No abdominal surgery, some vets don't even use stitches. Of course, it could get infected like any incision, but at least you don't have to worry about him opening up his abdomen! I've never used a cone for males OR females, and have never had a problem. Males are usually right back to their usual selves as soon as they recover from the anesthetic.

I wouldn't bother with laser surgery for a neuter. I'd save that for orthopedic surgeries or tumor removals, and maybe for a spay in an older female. But the incisions are so small for a neuter that I don't think it's worth it.

Thanks for your reply!

Yeah, I heard a lot of people say they didn't use an e-collar on their spayed/neutered cat and they turned out fine. However, as soon as I brought Elza home from the vet, she started attacking her stitches and growling when I tried restraining her. So we put the e-collar on, and she kept bunny kicking it until it was off. And went for her stitches until she ripped them. Once. Then she got an infection, then she got staples. She managed to remove two. I ended up confining her to her carrier, because what the hell, cat.

Neymar is much calmer, but doesn't like to be bothered. My guess is that he will get rid of that e-collar by any means necessary. And that he will lick/bite the incision site. I'm afraid the latter will be big, because cat is big, therefore blood vessels are big. 

But again, thank you for reassuring me

I think the cone would bother him more than the incisions . I wouldn't recommend even trying it. It can get the cat in an overly agitated mood. Even if he licks the incision it won't be a problem, unless he starts self-mutilating. I've never heard of that happening with a neuter but I'm sure it's happened to someone somewhere.

I bet you won't be able to see the incisions .

Spaying is a MUCH more complicated surgery, and takes the females a lot longer to heal. I've had more males neutered then I can count and have NEVER had a problem, they were back to themselves the next day. I just had a year old cat done last week. I've never used a collar either, they licked once in a while but that was it.  I have heard that laser is a much 'cleaner' incision too You shouldn't have any problems at all, except for a much happier cat.

Someone else modified a kids ONESIE for their cat after a spay and it worked well.  Personally I prefer to just use pain medications (buprenex, buprenorphine) for the females and I have never had a problem.  If it doesn't hurt, they don't bother it.  They just sleep.  I've heard some people find their cats get stimulated by the buprenex, but I never had that problem

Yeah, I tried the baby onesie on Elza. It was worse than the e-collar. She refused to walk. She'd just go limp and stay there and try to wiggle out of it while meowing miserably. It was quite sad.

So I brought my boy home yesterday, he seems to be doing good, his ears are cold (they were quite hot right after I picked him up) and the incision site is... pink, I guess. It's drying. I'm not sure what it's supposed to look like, I can see flesh through the incisions, and it's drying. It's clean, there are no sutures and he doesn't seem to be self-mutilating.

Thanks

Sounds like he's doing OK so far.
If you're concerned about the incision site, you could upload a photo here.