I had seen this vet once before & also had a bad feeling but thought I might have just imagined it. She makes house calls & lives a street over so it is convenient. She has good reviews (assuming the are real). But last time she was talking with the neighbor about me in a loud voice, nothing horrible but still a little too gossipy for my taste.
So this time I was concerned about my cats teeth as I noticed quite a bit of tarter on his back molars. I am really amenable thought a
though a bit nervous lately for other reasons. But I had a list of questions and also had asked for a general exam. She started by saying is he still FIV and I said I thought it's incurable and she said no lots of cats get over it. I actually got my hopes up even though I just decided when I got him to love him as is and in a way ignore the FIV & treat him as normal and expect him to be well. (I hope that makes sense, I really look after him well, home cook half his food, clip his nails, brush him etc. I know he is FIV but don't focus on it.)
So then I suddenly felt omg he can not have it anymore? She did the test and then said in a brusk way, Well he still has it. *sigh* Now I have to undo the false hope and go back to how I was before, which was not focusing on it. After all I will treat him the best I can either way. But she said if he doesn't have it she feels more confident giving him anesthesia for dental cleaning. :/
That's not the part I'm most upset about but she was not listening to me. She was asking me questions and then ignoring my answers. She asked if there was anything I wanted her to look at and I said yes, by his ear and his throat he had a bad skin reaction which was healing now but could she look. So she started looking at his tummy. Never looked at those 2 areas. And she acted like it was weird of me to ask?
Then I said could she LOOK at his nails as they seem to grow really fast and get that thick coating on them. I think it's just when he needs to scratch them on something more till it falls off. So then when I though she was just looking she starts clipping his nails and he cried out several times in a way I've NEVER heard him before. When she left I looked and ALL his nails are extremely cut and one is really bloody. omg what? I clip his nails really gently and a little every 2 weeks or so. Now I have to worry that they will heal and not have any problems. wth? Why did she do that? I didn't ask her to clip and then I said but are they okay, and she was like, oh yeah they are just normal.
(I have soaked them with warm water on cotton balls, do you think that will be okay?)
She was also just generally dismissive of me and being rude. But she wants me to bring him in to her next week to have his teeth cleaned. HAHAHAHAHA I think NOT. (I will get them cleaned but not by her.) She was so rough with him and he's a sweet little black thing I found emaciated by a dumpster. I think someone kicked him before I found him. I hated how she was handling him. He is really pliable and never acted like that before. He was seen by a vet when I got him and even though I didn't really like her either she was fine with him, and gentle and he was great. When I mentioned today that I've not seen him react like that before she seemed miffed and said well she wanted to make sure he wasn't going to bite anyone.
After I told her already he is mainly indoor cat except when I take him out in my presence she said does he ever go out and hang out on the deck or the driveway, etc? I was confused about what she meant. I said, do you mean alone? She said You know just running around the yard.. ??? I said um no because he is an INDOOR cat and he only goes out with me on a leash or in my arms. She then said well good because then he can't get rabies or infect another cat. .. >< What was her point? I still don't know. She said yes he's an indoor cat but does he go out. ???
Then when the assistant was tallying up the bill and gave me a total the vet nearly shouted You forgot I clipped his nails! (Yeah, without anyone permission?)
I just feel really upset now and it's my birthday. : ) I wanted to make sure he was okay and have a really relaxing day but am totally stressed and upset about & for my kitty and also with the way she spoke to me. Sorry for the wall of words, just had to get this out. Any feedback would be appreciated. : ) I need a hug.
So this time I was concerned about my cats teeth as I noticed quite a bit of tarter on his back molars. I am really amenable thought a
though a bit nervous lately for other reasons. But I had a list of questions and also had asked for a general exam. She started by saying is he still FIV and I said I thought it's incurable and she said no lots of cats get over it. I actually got my hopes up even though I just decided when I got him to love him as is and in a way ignore the FIV & treat him as normal and expect him to be well. (I hope that makes sense, I really look after him well, home cook half his food, clip his nails, brush him etc. I know he is FIV but don't focus on it.)
So then I suddenly felt omg he can not have it anymore? She did the test and then said in a brusk way, Well he still has it. *sigh* Now I have to undo the false hope and go back to how I was before, which was not focusing on it. After all I will treat him the best I can either way. But she said if he doesn't have it she feels more confident giving him anesthesia for dental cleaning. :/
That's not the part I'm most upset about but she was not listening to me. She was asking me questions and then ignoring my answers. She asked if there was anything I wanted her to look at and I said yes, by his ear and his throat he had a bad skin reaction which was healing now but could she look. So she started looking at his tummy. Never looked at those 2 areas. And she acted like it was weird of me to ask?
Then I said could she LOOK at his nails as they seem to grow really fast and get that thick coating on them. I think it's just when he needs to scratch them on something more till it falls off. So then when I though she was just looking she starts clipping his nails and he cried out several times in a way I've NEVER heard him before. When she left I looked and ALL his nails are extremely cut and one is really bloody. omg what? I clip his nails really gently and a little every 2 weeks or so. Now I have to worry that they will heal and not have any problems. wth? Why did she do that? I didn't ask her to clip and then I said but are they okay, and she was like, oh yeah they are just normal.
(I have soaked them with warm water on cotton balls, do you think that will be okay?)
She was also just generally dismissive of me and being rude. But she wants me to bring him in to her next week to have his teeth cleaned. HAHAHAHAHA I think NOT. (I will get them cleaned but not by her.) She was so rough with him and he's a sweet little black thing I found emaciated by a dumpster. I think someone kicked him before I found him. I hated how she was handling him. He is really pliable and never acted like that before. He was seen by a vet when I got him and even though I didn't really like her either she was fine with him, and gentle and he was great. When I mentioned today that I've not seen him react like that before she seemed miffed and said well she wanted to make sure he wasn't going to bite anyone.
After I told her already he is mainly indoor cat except when I take him out in my presence she said does he ever go out and hang out on the deck or the driveway, etc? I was confused about what she meant. I said, do you mean alone? She said You know just running around the yard.. ??? I said um no because he is an INDOOR cat and he only goes out with me on a leash or in my arms. She then said well good because then he can't get rabies or infect another cat. .. >< What was her point? I still don't know. She said yes he's an indoor cat but does he go out. ???
Then when the assistant was tallying up the bill and gave me a total the vet nearly shouted You forgot I clipped his nails! (Yeah, without anyone permission?)
I just feel really upset now and it's my birthday. : ) I wanted to make sure he was okay and have a really relaxing day but am totally stressed and upset about & for my kitty and also with the way she spoke to me. Sorry for the wall of words, just had to get this out. Any feedback would be appreciated. : ) I need a hug.