More about my Husband's behavior!

I will be married 19 years in August. I brought a cat into our marriage who only liked me even after kids. Simba has been gone for 7ish years now. After we were married for a few years we got a kitten and my hubby loved her but then we had kids and moved a lot and it's a blur really. We put down Chessie this past January at 15 years old we never got another cat because we realized the older one bullied her away from me and she was happy to be alone. She was kind of an aloof cat preferring to be with us but only wanted limited petting.  

Fast forward- We wanted to start fostering with the plan to adopt a mom and odd numbered kitten if we fell in love but we ended up adopting a cat while out shopping for foster supplies(we still started fostering). To my surprise! my husband who doesn't care for any pets or even people for that matter! really wants affection from our new cat! Once a week he has broken down and chased her around the room! I know this is terrible and he knows it's not a good idea either but he really wants to hold and pet her. She is very wary of him obviously. She is as soft as a rabbit so I want to pet her too haha but I have done my time. He is not willing to feed her which I said would help. He does play with her and she likes that.

We are hoping she turns into a lap cat but this chasing is pushing that farther away I think. 

He wants to keep a kitten too haha... who is this guy?!

Advice? Similar stories? Yell at my Husband with me? Thanks!

I wanted to add that we have had her for about a month and a half

Yeah, she's never going to like him if he chases her :/. You need to be still and gentle for a shy cat to warm up to you.

tell him to sit in the room on the floor and ignore her-she will come around as long as he stops chasing her. tell him its mean to chase a poor kitty. I used to do the same when i was younger. tell him that he needs to learn cat behavior in order to win her over. tell him that when she is in front of him-get on the floor and sit sideways=in the wild face to face is predator behavior-no eye contact either. she will come around if he backs off

Thank you! Will definitely do the sit sideways and teach it to my sons as well. Makes so much sense because my fussy foster momma comes and sits beside or slightly behind me when she wants pet. 

Last night I was reading him the replies and my 15 y/o son thought he would be funny and hand Ripley to my husband.. I knew this wouldn't be good so made a noise and tried to grab her mid hand off...  well she hissed and had a fit of course and my husband blamed me and got upset/feelings hurt and I blamed my son who knew better.... She likes my son second to me which is interesting because we are a lot alike. 

Ripley is a around a year old so I am already learning about how restless they are at this age so starting today- Operation Don't pet Ripley! Unless she comes up and rubs her face on your out stretched hand. No picking her up either. But you can play and talk to her all you want(and sit by her side ways  

She is either one of those cats that are sensitive to touch because she moves about a foot away from you after you pet her a few times or she is overwhelmed and overstimulated. We got the foster mom/kittens three days after her so that could be bothering her too. We will not get another foster until she has warmed up to us just in case, plus we have a busy summer. 

Thanks again!