Please help!

Hi, I recently lost my cat Patches, he passed away at the age of 18. I also have a female cat named Fancy, who is still very active and playful, which is why I've decided to get a kitten. My question is, does it matter which sex it is?[emoji]129300[/emoji]

I am very sorry for your loss of Patches.  It is great that you are ready to open you heart and home to new kitten.  I don't think the sex of the kitten really matters as long as Fancy is fixed. 

How old is Fancy?  This is more important to take into consideration than the sex of a kitten. If Fancy is older a young kitten may be too much for her even if active and playful.  Sometimes an older cat will do better with a young adult cat rather than a young kitten.  You can always reach out to rescues in your area to adopt another fur baby.  Two of my 4 cats were adopted from a local rescue they do a wonderful job of getting to know the personalities of the cats and kittens which is really helpful when matching them to adopters. 

My oldest cat Starbuck was adopted when she was a young kitten and I had to seniors they were around 7 years old.  My seniors were still very active and playful so they were great with the kitten.  I was actually not looking for to add to my household at the time but Starbuck really needed a home quickly for her own safety.  She was abandoned when she was a baby and the people that rescued originally had dogs that were not socialized to cats at all.  They brought her to another family member that we were friends with.  Our friends loved her and tried to integrate her into their household but one of their cats was really going after her if she was not kept separated.  When we met Starbuck she fell asleep on my hubby's shoulder and we told them we would take her as long as it was safe for her.  I was very lucky my seniors bonded with her very quickly and helped raise her.  Even though she ate/drank well and had great litter box habits she was separated too young to be socialized and my seniors did a great job of fixing that issue. Starbuck was 6 weeks old when I adopted her and was found abandoned at around 4 weeks old.

Thank you for responding to my question, Fancy is 15 years old, adopting an older cat makes me a little nervous, I'm afraid an older cat may bully her. although I know a kitten doesn't guarantee they'll get along. its difficult to decide, I hope I make the right choice[emoji]129300[/emoji]

Thanks for answering my questions.  The only issue I see with adopting a young kitten is that they may have too much energy and end up annoying a 15 year old cat.  Perhaps you could look into adopting a kitten that is a few months old as opposed to one that is younger.  A younger adult maybe 1 or 2 years old may be a better fit for a 15 year old cat in terms of energy level.  If you are worried about bullying perhaps adopting a smaller adult would help. 

When I adopted my 2nd oldest Sonny he was almost an adult already.  Starbuck was really scared of him in the beginning.  He was really playful and she only wants to play on her own terms.  We ended up adopting an older kitten as a playmate for Sonny because Starbuck took a long time to adjust to him. The older kitten was small enough that Starbuck was not scared of him and young enough to play with Sonny. Starbuck and Sonny co-exist peacefully now but it took a while for that to happen.  Sonny never tried to actually hurt Starbuck but she did not see it that way.  She will still hiss at him sometimes and other times she will try to groom him.  Sonny is a really big cat and I still think his size sometimes scares Starbuck even though he is very gentle with my other cats. 

The most important thing is to make sure the introductions are done correctly.  When I adopted baby Starbuck I really knew nothing about how to properly introduce cats and was just really lucky things worked out so well. 

This site has a lot of articles that may be helpful to you in terms of how to do a proper introduction for your new baby.

I would also recommend getting an older, laid back cat. A kitten is going to be far too energetic, even for an older lady with pep. And you'll be able to tell more about the personality of an older cat. Think around 3-6 years old!