Hello,
this is going to be a long post, so bare with me (i like to apologise for any grammar mistake, english isn't my first language).
I have 3 cats (all neutered), 1 big orange male (Simao) 8ys old, and 2 females (a black cute one (Mia) 6yrs old, and one sassy calico (Buffy), 7yrs old). One of the females (the calico of course) was always the alpha, and the male as always the shy one. The calico, Buffy, and the male, Simao, never were the best of friends, but they got along, and in the cold days their were often spotted sleeping together, and the black, Mia, one always got along with the other two, but especially with the calico.
Since December we decided to stop having food available all the time, to giving them 3 meals along the day, cause the black cat and the male were getting fat so they needed to loose weight and only controlling the food we could do it.
This changing was along with the changing of the type of food their were getting, higher in animal protein (=more active).
And was along with this last changing Mia started to get sick (colitis, still trying to resolve, with other food too, next friday are going to do one new exam to see we can resolve the problem).
Well in the end of March one night while all sleeping with us, they all starting to have the fight of their lives (they never fought like that before). We immediately separated them, and on the next morning they were great, after one week at the end of their 2nd meal of the day, the Buffy started fighting with Simao (male), and Mia got involved and started fighting with the Buffy. We again separated them, but after that the calico, couldn't see the male she started hissing and growling to him.
Every time Buffy tried to fight the male he alway hided really scare, but the black female, Mia, always got in the middle of the fight, and always ending with both girls fighting, but with a little time off both of the girls always got along even if they got involved in the fight with each other, always best friends, sleeping together, etc...
With a little of patience (and with some fights in the mix, a lot of play time and Bach flowers for help) we managed to Simao and Buffy to stay in the same room, and even be calm, and a brief moments of sleeping in the same sofa. But always distrusting each other, and with a moments of lower ears, but we would call one and they would calm, and Buffy always chasing Simao. But always with some begging of fights from time to time, but nothing major.
But we started to notice that the moments of tension between Buffy and Simao were always started by Mia, and not by Buffy. But Buffy always got a really maternal instinct to Mia, so she always got between Simao and Mia, to defend her, and so always were more "violent".
Simao since the first fight was always (when we weren't around) separated from Buffy, and Mia sometimes were with one and other time with the other, and always getting along .
1month ago we had almost 15days with calm, until one night when she was sleeping with Simao and started to growling to him really loud, and we quickly separated them. Next day she seemed calmed and we like was normal, when we were at house, and in a more calmer moments we got the 3 together, but Mia started a big fight ending with Mia and Buffy fighting really bad.
Since then she is REALLY strange, she can be really nice, no signs of mistrust and calm. She plays next to any of them, or eats, or sleeps, but suddenly she starts to hissing.
For example:
The first night we notice this, she was the entire night with Simao (without Buffy) and when we got to sleep they both went to bed, she was ok, but he went out of bed to drink water, and when he got back to bed she suddenly growl to him...
Next day she was calmer, we tried to join Mia and Buffy together, they were ok, smelling each other, no big deal, when she went to the sofa, and Buffy tried to get to sleep next to her she did the same as before, growl to her...
Today we tried to give them food together (Mia and Buffy) and Mia was ok, they got across each other path with no problem, but again Buffy got close together (nothing strange cause they already were really close) she growl again...
Now when we are at home can have in the same room Buffy and Simao (both a little uncomfortable with each other, but no aggressive looks to each other, and Simao relaxed (his the shy one), without no fear of Buffy.
But Mia that was always the little sister of Buffy, and now she don't want to be with her.
and now we have to put the three apart (1bed apartment), and my heart always gets broken, cause Simao don't want to sleep alone, nor Mia or Buffy. They take turns of sleeping with us. But i notice they get sad when they are left alone.
The problem with Buffy and Simao i was starting to resolve little by little, but with Mia I don't know what to do, cause i have NO IDEA whats its triggering her.
His because she's sick (colitis)? Or she's stress out with all this?? Or she's just redirected her aggression to them because of all the fights?
What do you suggest that i do with Mia? Should i try to get them together, or just get her away from the other 2 for a while and try to reintroduce them again?
And Buffy and Simao? Should i keep doing what i am doing, getting them together with supervision (i play with them, give treats, etc) even though they not 100% ok with each other??
Should i stop the diet, get all the food they want available (even though they need to loose weight?)
I just both feliway Multi-cat, should arrive in the end of the week, in my country doesn't sell.
I getting really sad with all this, and felling really helpless
.... Please help me!!!
Sorry again for any english mistake. if there was something needed more explaining do ask.
thank you,
Vanessa
this is going to be a long post, so bare with me (i like to apologise for any grammar mistake, english isn't my first language).
I have 3 cats (all neutered), 1 big orange male (Simao) 8ys old, and 2 females (a black cute one (Mia) 6yrs old, and one sassy calico (Buffy), 7yrs old). One of the females (the calico of course) was always the alpha, and the male as always the shy one. The calico, Buffy, and the male, Simao, never were the best of friends, but they got along, and in the cold days their were often spotted sleeping together, and the black, Mia, one always got along with the other two, but especially with the calico.
Since December we decided to stop having food available all the time, to giving them 3 meals along the day, cause the black cat and the male were getting fat so they needed to loose weight and only controlling the food we could do it.
This changing was along with the changing of the type of food their were getting, higher in animal protein (=more active).
And was along with this last changing Mia started to get sick (colitis, still trying to resolve, with other food too, next friday are going to do one new exam to see we can resolve the problem).
Well in the end of March one night while all sleeping with us, they all starting to have the fight of their lives (they never fought like that before). We immediately separated them, and on the next morning they were great, after one week at the end of their 2nd meal of the day, the Buffy started fighting with Simao (male), and Mia got involved and started fighting with the Buffy. We again separated them, but after that the calico, couldn't see the male she started hissing and growling to him.
Every time Buffy tried to fight the male he alway hided really scare, but the black female, Mia, always got in the middle of the fight, and always ending with both girls fighting, but with a little time off both of the girls always got along even if they got involved in the fight with each other, always best friends, sleeping together, etc...
With a little of patience (and with some fights in the mix, a lot of play time and Bach flowers for help) we managed to Simao and Buffy to stay in the same room, and even be calm, and a brief moments of sleeping in the same sofa. But always distrusting each other, and with a moments of lower ears, but we would call one and they would calm, and Buffy always chasing Simao. But always with some begging of fights from time to time, but nothing major.
But we started to notice that the moments of tension between Buffy and Simao were always started by Mia, and not by Buffy. But Buffy always got a really maternal instinct to Mia, so she always got between Simao and Mia, to defend her, and so always were more "violent".
Simao since the first fight was always (when we weren't around) separated from Buffy, and Mia sometimes were with one and other time with the other, and always getting along .
1month ago we had almost 15days with calm, until one night when she was sleeping with Simao and started to growling to him really loud, and we quickly separated them. Next day she seemed calmed and we like was normal, when we were at house, and in a more calmer moments we got the 3 together, but Mia started a big fight ending with Mia and Buffy fighting really bad.
Since then she is REALLY strange, she can be really nice, no signs of mistrust and calm. She plays next to any of them, or eats, or sleeps, but suddenly she starts to hissing.
For example:
The first night we notice this, she was the entire night with Simao (without Buffy) and when we got to sleep they both went to bed, she was ok, but he went out of bed to drink water, and when he got back to bed she suddenly growl to him...
Next day she was calmer, we tried to join Mia and Buffy together, they were ok, smelling each other, no big deal, when she went to the sofa, and Buffy tried to get to sleep next to her she did the same as before, growl to her...
Today we tried to give them food together (Mia and Buffy) and Mia was ok, they got across each other path with no problem, but again Buffy got close together (nothing strange cause they already were really close) she growl again...
Now when we are at home can have in the same room Buffy and Simao (both a little uncomfortable with each other, but no aggressive looks to each other, and Simao relaxed (his the shy one), without no fear of Buffy.
But Mia that was always the little sister of Buffy, and now she don't want to be with her.
and now we have to put the three apart (1bed apartment), and my heart always gets broken, cause Simao don't want to sleep alone, nor Mia or Buffy. They take turns of sleeping with us. But i notice they get sad when they are left alone.
The problem with Buffy and Simao i was starting to resolve little by little, but with Mia I don't know what to do, cause i have NO IDEA whats its triggering her.
His because she's sick (colitis)? Or she's stress out with all this?? Or she's just redirected her aggression to them because of all the fights?
What do you suggest that i do with Mia? Should i try to get them together, or just get her away from the other 2 for a while and try to reintroduce them again?
And Buffy and Simao? Should i keep doing what i am doing, getting them together with supervision (i play with them, give treats, etc) even though they not 100% ok with each other??
Should i stop the diet, get all the food they want available (even though they need to loose weight?)
I just both feliway Multi-cat, should arrive in the end of the week, in my country doesn't sell.
I getting really sad with all this, and felling really helpless
Sorry again for any english mistake. if there was something needed more explaining do ask.
thank you,
Vanessa
