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Hello,

I'm a bad cat mother. I left my kitten in a garden which belongs to a center for the rehabilitation of individuals. They tell they feed they cats but something inside me does not trust them. Anyhow, I noticed that the cats in the center tend to bully mine. Could this be a danger to my kitten? Or will they outgrow this behavior? Thank you.
 

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It's my general philosophy that if I feel something is "off" about a situation, it is a good idea to listen to that message.  Even if I'm not aware of a reason for the discomfort, it's usually because I'm noticing something on a subconscious level.  Why did you leave your kitten in this place?   It sounds like you are not just worried about the people but also the other cats so I would definitely look for other options.   A bully cat can definitely endanger a smaller kitten and yours may not be safe there.  Yes, your kitten might eventually get large enough to withstand the attacks by other cats but this is not guaranteed at all.  It is not uncommon for large, timid cats to be bullied by smaller, more aggressive cats.  Is there any way you can keep your kitten at home?  
 

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I think you are going to have much larger problems if you continue to let your cat outside. She is not spayed and is very young herself. She will get pregnant, and soon, and it will be very, very hard on her body. Can you at least get her spayed before you release her if that's what you're doing?

I am concerned. You've put a ton of time and effort into caring for this kitten. You rescued her from the street, from homeless cats who are reproducing endlessly. It's a hard and short life. Is there some way we can support you here?
 
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Thank you. It's a small enclosed garden quite far from the hub of the city. The other cats, they tell me, belong to other people. The reason I take her to gardens is because my home is not cat-friendly. I have a family that dislikes cats and the apartment doesn't get much sunlight though I know that cats are crepuscular by nature. At home, although I play with her and see to her needs, she gets quite bored easily. She loves gardens and I think this is part of her nature. Today I'm coming to see her again.
 
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I hope she doen't get pregnant until I reach her.
 

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She needs to be spayed and fully vaccinated if she is going to be around other cats. Otherwise, she is much better off at home, even if you perceive her as bored. This doesn't sound like a safe situation for her. Her health is truly in jeopardy.
 
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Hello,

I visited her today and she seems happy. Tell me, is it better despite that to take her home?
 

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Yes. It is essential that you take her home for her health. She must be vaccinated and spayed if she is to be a healthy cat. Otherwise she is returning right back to the cycle you rescued her from, sadly.
 
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My family does not want her. They scowl at her all the time. I'm going to her tomorrow but beg to ask once more, with all the negativity surrounding her at home, also the lack of sunlit rooms. The rooms are squarely ink black in broad daylight, is it fair to make her leave the garden?
 

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Once again, yes. You are putting her health in jeopardy if you don't spay and vaccinate your cat. You are putting her straight back into the cycle you rescued her from. It's a short and it's a hard life.

If you do choose to let her live outside, please do these things first. Her happiness is important, but not as important as her health. She may very well die if she gets pregnant this young. It's quite serious.

She needs adequate care.
 
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@Heidi Bedwani I can feel that you are very concerned about your girl and really, I would be too.

It is much better for her to be at home with you... my cats both live indoors and have very good, happy lives.  It's also really important that you get her spayed.  She will be very unhappy if she isn't, constantly coming on heat, and your family won't appreciate that either.

I imagine that if you collect her, get her spayed and take her home, she'll be very happy, and so will you.
 
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I am visiting her regularly. My folks don't want her and even the managers in the garden do not leave me to take her.
 
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It's a difficult situation. The manager of the convalescence center is related to my parents and they have agreed to restrain me from taking the kitten.
 
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I live with my parents that is why it is difficult.
 

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My advice is to take her to your nearest humane society or try to get her adopted out. She needs to be in a safe, healthy, loving environment. Having an animal in and around people who don't want them, is in itself dangerous. Please find another home for the cat.
 
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I agree with you. My family does not like her.
 
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She is pregnant at the moment.
 

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She can be spayed and the pregnancy can be ended. This would be the best outcome given her young age and the fact that you will be unable to find homes for the kittens.
 
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