Monday's Question of the Day - May 16, 2016

**We interrupt the posting of this QOD to panic over a fly in the kitchen**

Ok now that my 4 year old is convinced he can in fact eat his meal with a fly in the room....

Continuing my questions related to high school and graduation season... (Sorry)

Have you attended any school reunions?  Official or unofficial. 

I attended my high school's 10th reunion.  It was fairly small for the size graduating class we had. I was surprised I had such a good time.  I only attended the main reunion; not the picnic or any of the other events.  I was pretty surprised at how pleasant some of my classmates turned out to be as adults.    Even a few who were troublemakers back when we were teenagers turned out to be very nice.  The 20th is getting closer; but not planned yet. I will most likely attend that one as well since I'm technically still local.

I'm hearing all this talk now on Facebook about a big Gala celebrating our school district.  Just the word "Gala" has me thinking NOPE!  I'm hearing about people flying in from all over from decades of graduating classes.  I'm hearing talk of mini-reunions too.  I have zero desire for "gala appropriate attire."     DH stayed home with our DD (who was a baby) when my 10th reunion rolled around. I'm sure he will not object to missing this "gala."    

I have seen a few unofficial reunions put on for different classes.  Usually just 15-20 people that meet up somewhere. I've met up with some before too.  But no more than 7-8 other people.  Those were mostly just people who've kept in touch with people I have since graduating.  The most amusing was when I realized I was at a baby shower with a bunch of former cheerleaders.  I've always been quiet with a few people I'm close to.  I always got along with just about everyone; but didn't necessarily become buddies with them.  But I will say; our school's cheerleaders really didn't fit the stereotypes anyway.  

I remember my senior year of high school I was really ready to be done with it and get out of there.  I found the guys especially annoying!  So it surprises me to actually enjoy some of these things as an adult!

I have not attended any college reunions though.  If any have even been put on.    

Nope. Next month marks 28 years since I have been in HS and I have no more desire to see 99% of my former classmates today than I did the day that I walked out of that school for the last time. Most of them were horrible and I would not take the time or expense to go back to NY to find out if they have changed. My feelings are not of resentment but simple indifference. I have lived without them this long. I can easily continue.

Good lord, NO.

Would never. Could care less about anyone from that far back.  

EDIT: I mean grade/high school.

I never finished college but I'm still very friendly with most people I went to school with there (all of whom graduated except me).

Years ago, I went to my 5th year reunion. 

During High School, I was not really popular. I had a couple friends, but nothing sustainable for friendships. My classes were such that I had classes with "The Clique" but was not part of it. I was kind of in-between.

When I decided to attend the 5th year reunion, I wanted to be a "star"!!

I lost a ton of weight, had my hair blonde (as it was then) but it was curled...I have stick straight hair. 

I also go ride of my eyeglasses and wore contacts. 

I absolutely loved it!!! I had a great time because no one recognized me!! No one at all...

It was kind of interesting to see the changes in people.. both physically and personality-wise...

No, I never attended any other reunions--not many have come up; nor do I plan to attend any in the future.

What kind of upset me was that they did have a reunion several years ago. I found out about it while I was reading the local newspaper; that was a few days before the event. While I was seriously debating about attending it, I decided not to. There were only a few people who I would care to see there...so I let it go...as the song says....

I did find out that one of the really quiet, shy guys, who was semi-smart in science; has gone on to be a world renowned astronomer who has discover a distant galaxy....who would have known?????  

I remember him in class as being so shy that he blushed each time he was called upon. He was on the football team but was quiet there also. 

Those are the stories I love to hear. 

and then you get the ones who passed away...

Sometimes when I see a name in the obits, I feel sad for not attending the services...but then I remember them and how they were in high school...good and bad...I felt bad when one of the guys passed. He was young, and oh, so nice to me...a good guy...

Kat0121 said:

 
Nope. Next month marks 28 years since I have been in HS and I have no more desire to see 99% of my former classmates today than I did the day that I walked out of that school for the last time. Most of them were horrible and I would not take the time or expense to go back to NY to find out if they have changed. My feelings are not of resentment but simple indifference. I have lived without them this long. I can easily continue.

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 Indeed. I couldn't care any less about any of them than I do. And I do mean any of them.

Heck, no. Though I'm only a few days away from graduating from university so I guess that's not long enough. I think there was a high school reunion, but I had zero desire to see any of the people who were going again. 

Kat0121 said:

Nope. Next month marks 28 years since I have been in HS and I have no more desire to see 99% of my former classmates today than I did the day that I walked out of that school for the last time.

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except it's 30 years for me this year, so the big reunion is in the works. I have no plans of attending. I keep up with the ones I want to on Facebook. I only live one town over from where I graduated, so occasionally run into (or duck down an aisle) former classmates anyway.

I've never been to a college reunion either.

I have attended the 10, 20 and 30 year reunions. 40 is up in 3 years. I found them enjoyable for the short amount of time that an evening is. It is a sobering thing to find out how many of one's classmates are no longer with us. My uncle just went to his 60th.

Haven't gone yet! Just about to reach the 10th anniversary mark soon, so mayhaps an invite or something will appear shortly?




I'd be apprehensive about it, I was bullied pretty badly during high school - my physical appearance was attacked daily (was called ugly, big nose, skinny bitch etc to put it lightly) things thrown at me, things stolen from me, called various other names and so forth. Yeah not ideal 



Soooooo if I were to go, I'd doll myself up in a gorgeously elegant manner, and overall show off that I blossomed into a very attractive, world-travelling, university educated, animal owning, happily successful career woman - pretty much just giving all the former jack-bums a nice big lesson reminder symbolic middle finger. 


Yay for shoulder chips and mild revenge 
 

Granted, would only ever be interested in the supposed 10 or 15 year anniversary, after that it seems best to just carry on with life instead of everyone hanging towards something decades ago. Maybe all the popular kids whose glory days were in HS but not those who comfortably made a life after the fact (Speaking on behalf of my school, not others!) in any case like many I don't have a desire to meet up with many folks at that time, and continuing. There is really only one person I'd ever want to see again, but he was Belarusian exchange student anyway.

If it was a post-secondary alumni reunion though, I'd be way more content about going. It was like being amongst my own kind, and of course enjoyed studying the subject.

Nope.  I had a rather hellish high school experience, and am in no hurry to see any of those folks again.  I do have four dear friends from that time.  I keep up with them on FaceBook.

It was very sad to see who we had lost from our class by the 10th reunion.  One thing I liked was that instead of doing t-shirts or something like that as souvineers for the event; they did a fundraiser and donated to the charities in memory of those classmates.  One was lost to cancer, one left 2 little boys behind, another was lost to suicide.  So that was really enjoyable.  I know we've lost 2 more since; but there could be others.  

Like I said; people surprised me.  The most snobbish didn't attend but others were really pleasant surprises.  

My Grandpa is now 94 but went to several reunions from his high school a couple years ago.  I'm not sure who organized or hosted them; but at his age they were held for multiple years.  He enjoyed them but he said there were a bunch of old people there.    He kept hoping a girl he had dated would show up because she used to fawn over his perfect teeth.  He wanted to see if she would still compliment them so he could take them out and show her.      He would have too!  I don't doubt it.  

Kat0121 said:

 
Nope. Next month marks 28 years since I have been in HS and I have no more desire to see 99% of my former classmates today than I did the day that I walked out of that school for the last time. Most of them were horrible and I would not take the time or expense to go back...... to find out if they have changed. My feelings are not of resentment but simple indifference. I have lived without them this long. I can easily continue.

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Mamanyt1953 said:

 
Nope.  I had a rather hellish high school experience, and am in no hurry to see any of those folks again.

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...ditto...

A week ago this past Saturday we attended my husband's first grade reunion. That was interesting. Our county had five grammar schools. I didn't go to the same one he did. But we were all together once we got to high school. We had a fun time and got fed good. They even made a bowl of gluten free gravy because they knew we were coming. It is wonderful to be from a small place where everyone knows each other and what they eat. :lol3:

I live on a different continent, so I've only managed to make one high school reunion - the fifth. We attended my husband's 25-year reunion quite a while back.

No way Jose.

No, I've never been to any reunions. Not because I don't like the people I was at school or university with, I'm actually still in touch with some of my old friends. I don't think I've been in the country for any reunions. I went to India for a year after I finished school, Australia for a year after university and then Japan after that.

Come to think of it I've never been invited to any reunions, I wonder if my school has them?

Nope. I missed my 10th because it fell on the same day as my best friend's wedding shower. And my 20th is this year (next month, actually), and I just have no interest.

nope-didnt like most of those stuck up snobs from school. i didnt fit into any group. i was the only girl who liked cycling and lifting weights. the girls all gushed over clothes and boys. I couldnt stand boys my age. I always liked them older more mature and not as stuck up. 

I never had a family so I dont have any desire to see what they are up to. I used to be facebook friends with about 20 of them but bumped them off a month ago-they never interact and I dont either..only two of them i still talk to. One girl moved to florida so I was alone the remaining 3 yrs of highschool. her and I were like closer than sisters. I felt adrift once she left. I didnt see her until a decade later. its been 13 yrs since we have seen each other but she found me on facebook. So most of the kids picked on her and I beat them up. I was called bulldog. I wasnt pretty but I also gave the middle finger to those who deserved it.

now its years later and we lost a few of them to illness etc. one passed away in november. he was only 40. heart attack and liver issues. I still can't believe he is gone. He kept saying he was going to come over to my house and fish in the brook behind my house..so now whenever I go down there-I think about Brian. 

So no I have no desire to see them flaunt their kids and cars and money and looks. I am still the same quiet attitudy woman I was back then. Most people focus on things that you cant take with you when you leave so why waste energy trying? But I do understand why we do. Because we want to be good enough. Well we are. We are adults who all have survived whatever life has thrown at us. I only hope those girls who made my life a living hell I hope their kids make their lives a living hell. Karma is a ____.