I miss my cat wobbles

im trying ...but some mornings i wake up and i can't stop the last few days replaying in my head....in three months it will be a year....still feels like yesterday

Thinking of you still.   Loosing our cats is always hard, and when you have had such an intense and caring relationship with them as you had with Wobbles, and that hardest of all decisions in terms of when he was too tired and ill to stay with you, it has to be even  more difficult to find a way back in to life without them.  A year is not a long time when you think of all the time you spent caring for Wobbles.    The important thing to try and focus on is how Wobbles knew you loved him.   You can not change the decisions that were made, but you can try to stop your mind going back over them:  all the decisions you made were made out of love, and Wobbles must have known that.

Precious little one.        He could not have been more loved, and now you need to try and find a way to give some of that love to your self so you can heal.        

That 'replaying' is a step in the grieving process that hurts the worst. There is absolutely nothing that can be changed in the past, no matter how much we want it to be so. It is the part of us trying to understand what happened, and to hopefully gain knowledge from the experience to avoid it in the future.  Because our little ones are laid to rest, they are now a part of our past and we must go on without them, no matter how much it hurts.Our memories are meant to comfort us, not bring us pain and sorrow. It takes a concentrated effort to sort through those memories and try to focus on the good, there are SO many good and beautiful memories to have, why would we concentrate on the horrific and sad? You have to motivate yourself to bring about good from something that is so painful, do not dwell on the bad but take control of your mind and command it to reminisce about the times that were so precious to you and what you miss so badly.  Our precious ones want us to be happy in our lives, they loved us too much to bring us such sorrow and only want the best for us. Our pain that we experience with our loss is equal to the love we held in our hearts for those innocent, sweet  angels. I still cry three years later for my loss, but now I can see that there was so much more sunshine and good in that relationship, and concentrate on that. You gave Wobbles a wonderful home full of care and love, you gave comfort and are there to remember and miss such an innocent little soul. No it's not fair that such a loved and wanted baby had to go, but living in misery will not change anything and closes a wonderful loving heart such as yours to the joys of knowing future loves. We all mourn with you, you are not alone, let us share your grief and help you learn to live again as Wobbles would want for his beloved mommy.  Remember that bond you formed can never be taken from you, Wobbles dwells in your loving heart and is with you always. Sweet Wobbles, you are so greatly missed and your happy memories are needed to bring comfort to a broken heart, please send your love to the one who loves you so much!

I am sorry you are suffering so much, it is so difficult to lose a dear friend. 

I'm so sorry.  You can't help the way you feel.  Please remember to be kind to yourself.  I hope that someday very soon you will be able to focus on the happiness you shared.