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My 2 year old ragdoll cat, Bear, has been a part of my life since i started university 2 years ago. He's always been loving, affectionate, playful, cuddly, and chattery. He would come cuddle up next to me in the mornings before my classes, follow me all around the house, greet me happily when i come home, give me lots of hugs and head boops, let me pick him up and pet him all the time. He's my best friend.
My boyfriend and i thought it would be a good idea to get another cat to keep him company when we're busy and when we're away from home. We saw these cute little ragdoll cross kittens and decided to pick a little girl up. The first day was a lot of hissing and growling, which was expected. Second day the kitten was able to get up close to him and they sniffed each other for a few seconds until he hissed at her again. Yesterday the two were chasing each other around the house, tolerating each other, but not comfortable yet.
Throughout this process, i was careful to give both of the cats equal attention, and would keep the kitten in another room at night to give my cat free reign of the house. Last night my boyfriend brought the kitten into our bedroom for the first time and insisted she sleep in the bed. Today, Bear won't let me touch him, won't respond when i call him, hasn't gone in the bedroom (which is where he usually sends most of his time), and hissed at me when i tried to play. He has never acted this way toward me before, and it hurts me a lot. He's starting to accept the kitten, but is starting to resent me.
My boyfriend keeps reassuring me that he will go back to the way he used to be, but after reading up on it a lot, i don't think he will and i don't know if i'll ever be okay with the sudden detachment. I've been depressed over this all day and i don't know what to do about it. Any advice is appreciated.
My boyfriend and i thought it would be a good idea to get another cat to keep him company when we're busy and when we're away from home. We saw these cute little ragdoll cross kittens and decided to pick a little girl up. The first day was a lot of hissing and growling, which was expected. Second day the kitten was able to get up close to him and they sniffed each other for a few seconds until he hissed at her again. Yesterday the two were chasing each other around the house, tolerating each other, but not comfortable yet.
Throughout this process, i was careful to give both of the cats equal attention, and would keep the kitten in another room at night to give my cat free reign of the house. Last night my boyfriend brought the kitten into our bedroom for the first time and insisted she sleep in the bed. Today, Bear won't let me touch him, won't respond when i call him, hasn't gone in the bedroom (which is where he usually sends most of his time), and hissed at me when i tried to play. He has never acted this way toward me before, and it hurts me a lot. He's starting to accept the kitten, but is starting to resent me.
My boyfriend keeps reassuring me that he will go back to the way he used to be, but after reading up on it a lot, i don't think he will and i don't know if i'll ever be okay with the sudden detachment. I've been depressed over this all day and i don't know what to do about it. Any advice is appreciated.