It's been almost 2 months since I've let go of my darling Harrison. The first few weeks were BAD. And then i stopped obsessing so much over the could have/ should haves. I started taking my dog out more again, tried to remember that we were ok when it was just us too. And we were just extra lucky to find Simon and then Harrison. I've been doing O.K. especially because Simon has been even more loving than usual. (My 3 y/o cat "Harrisons dad") especially to the younger cats. and I smile because I see how much of Harrisons loving personality has rubbed off on him and left a huge mark on us forever.
Today though, I just broke down.I felt it coming on at work while euthanizing a 20 y/o cat. I wished they could all live to be 20.
Then my coworkers were watching some video of a dog kicking around a ball like soccer. Cute. But it made me think of harrison. He was my little soccer star, blind as he was, he would kick the ball around. And he was so handsy, we would play catch. He'd catch and kick it back to me. That thought snowballed ....to the fact that I too had a video of Harrison playing, but my phone had been stolen and that video along with a years worth of others.. vanished.
I knew it would be a bad day, so I tried to think of who I could talk to about it. And I couldn't think of 1 person I could honestly vent to.
Then I felt Completely alone. More so than ever.
I cried the whole hour home. Crawled into bed and cried til I fell asleep.
I still can't believe I'd only had him for 1 year. I'd give a limb to have him for just 1 more.
13 years ago when I was 10 years old, I lost my father. Then at 18 my sister died in a tragic car accident. Even at 10 I dealt with death in such a strange way. I just tried to act normal like everything was fine. At 18 I felt guilt. Mostly because my sister had called me 10 minutes before the accident and I missed it. But I kept it tucked away. I didn't obsess over it. I had melt downs here and there but after some time I didn't feel hopeless. She'd visit me in dreams and I felt like I knew she was ok.
With Harrisons death, I felt all the mourning I tried to skip in the past come crashing down on me finally.
All I can think about is what happens after we die. Do we see each other again? Wherever he is, is he scared? I wish I could believe he was with my sister at least.
Every part of his sickness was traumatizing. I feel guilty that I was such a wreck his last few weeks in this world. I feel guilty that when I wasn't a wreck I was trying to act "normal". I almost had too much hope that I could save him. I wish I went about the whole thing diferently.
It was valentine's day when he went into shock from FIP. I was out to dinner with my boyfriend and came home to him shaking. Why did I even leave, who cares about valentine's day when your baby is sick... I had no idea it'd be his last night.. he was really holding on until then..
We had brought him to emergency at 2 am. They suggested euthanasia but I couldn't do it there.. I didn't know these people and it didn't feel right.
My own job would not feel right. I wanted my holistic vet to do it. She cared and he deserved the best.
So, we have him sub q fluids and bubrinex to hold him over to the morning. We slept with him between us ok a heating bad. He wasn't really there anymore. Leo, our 2nd tabby the same age as harrison, laid with him and groomed his whole body. He knew something was wrong. We brought him to the reiki/holistic vet in the morning.
The whole drive there I held him in my arms and prayed to my sister. I wished him come back to me. I asked that if he had to return to this world he return healthy and loved.
I looked down at him and told him I love him. And for just a second he looked up at me with his 1 eye and knew he was there for that moment.
I used to play a game with him because he loved holding my hand. I'd move my hand quickly and he'd grab it tighter.
As I went to hold his arm off for the injection, he grabbed my finger tighter and cried out. I'll never forget that cry. I know that was his telling me he didn't want to leave. But I had no choice. He was yellow as could be and in shock. I wish there was some way of him knowing I did what's best. I 2ish I could know for sure that i'll see him again. This loss has been like no other for me. Which most would think is crazy after what I've been through, I don't under stand it either. I just don't know how I can feel better. I've never felt so helpless.
Today though, I just broke down.I felt it coming on at work while euthanizing a 20 y/o cat. I wished they could all live to be 20.
Then my coworkers were watching some video of a dog kicking around a ball like soccer. Cute. But it made me think of harrison. He was my little soccer star, blind as he was, he would kick the ball around. And he was so handsy, we would play catch. He'd catch and kick it back to me. That thought snowballed ....to the fact that I too had a video of Harrison playing, but my phone had been stolen and that video along with a years worth of others.. vanished.
I knew it would be a bad day, so I tried to think of who I could talk to about it. And I couldn't think of 1 person I could honestly vent to.
Then I felt Completely alone. More so than ever.
I cried the whole hour home. Crawled into bed and cried til I fell asleep.
I still can't believe I'd only had him for 1 year. I'd give a limb to have him for just 1 more.
13 years ago when I was 10 years old, I lost my father. Then at 18 my sister died in a tragic car accident. Even at 10 I dealt with death in such a strange way. I just tried to act normal like everything was fine. At 18 I felt guilt. Mostly because my sister had called me 10 minutes before the accident and I missed it. But I kept it tucked away. I didn't obsess over it. I had melt downs here and there but after some time I didn't feel hopeless. She'd visit me in dreams and I felt like I knew she was ok.
With Harrisons death, I felt all the mourning I tried to skip in the past come crashing down on me finally.
All I can think about is what happens after we die. Do we see each other again? Wherever he is, is he scared? I wish I could believe he was with my sister at least.
Every part of his sickness was traumatizing. I feel guilty that I was such a wreck his last few weeks in this world. I feel guilty that when I wasn't a wreck I was trying to act "normal". I almost had too much hope that I could save him. I wish I went about the whole thing diferently.
It was valentine's day when he went into shock from FIP. I was out to dinner with my boyfriend and came home to him shaking. Why did I even leave, who cares about valentine's day when your baby is sick... I had no idea it'd be his last night.. he was really holding on until then..
We had brought him to emergency at 2 am. They suggested euthanasia but I couldn't do it there.. I didn't know these people and it didn't feel right.
My own job would not feel right. I wanted my holistic vet to do it. She cared and he deserved the best.
So, we have him sub q fluids and bubrinex to hold him over to the morning. We slept with him between us ok a heating bad. He wasn't really there anymore. Leo, our 2nd tabby the same age as harrison, laid with him and groomed his whole body. He knew something was wrong. We brought him to the reiki/holistic vet in the morning.
The whole drive there I held him in my arms and prayed to my sister. I wished him come back to me. I asked that if he had to return to this world he return healthy and loved.
I looked down at him and told him I love him. And for just a second he looked up at me with his 1 eye and knew he was there for that moment.
I used to play a game with him because he loved holding my hand. I'd move my hand quickly and he'd grab it tighter.
As I went to hold his arm off for the injection, he grabbed my finger tighter and cried out. I'll never forget that cry. I know that was his telling me he didn't want to leave. But I had no choice. He was yellow as could be and in shock. I wish there was some way of him knowing I did what's best. I 2ish I could know for sure that i'll see him again. This loss has been like no other for me. Which most would think is crazy after what I've been through, I don't under stand it either. I just don't know how I can feel better. I've never felt so helpless.