In January, I got two kittens. They're 11 months old now and settling in pretty well, both the male and female. The problem is, I already owned an 8 year old female cat (Tammy). I introduced her slowly to Dolly and Benny (kittens) and everything went super well. About a month after the settling in process and introduction was complete, I noticed a bizarre and disturbing change. Tammy gets along quite well with Dolly, and loves to wrestle, chase, and play with her with no odd sounds. But she DESPISES Benny, the male. Benny always tries to play with her too, and she snarls, growls hisses, and cuffs him round the head and takes out chunks of fur. Benny NEVER reacts back to this, but instead keeps pushing his luck and trying to play with her and follows her around even though she clearly wants nothing to do with him. Naturally, I decided to separate them. I keep Benny and Dolly in my room, and tried to keep Tammy out. The problem is, Tammy clearly wants to be in the room. She whines and cries and scratches to come in, which totally dumbfounds me as I thought she'd want nothing to do with Benny or any room he's in. I let her in the room and all is fine until Benny moseys over to her and sniffs her face, prompting a snarl and a swat. Separate, rinse and repeat. She's totally indifferent to him until he wants to play and interact. All the cats are fixed. None of them share litter boxes, food bowls, toys, or scratching areas. Each have their own separate areas of the house, but they WANT to mix with each other so it's difficult to keep them separate. I'm totally at a loss. I don't want to rehome Benny. He's my sweet boy and is absolutely TERRIFIED of every single human in the world except me. He's super attached to me and I could never bear to give him up. I'm mystified as to why he doesn't react back, when Tammy is clearly furious with him. Any tips or explanations for why Tammy would hate the male and love the female, even with everyone being fixed?