Hmmmmm. Sounds like your trying enough things. I know you said that you don't allow him in the bedroom, but that is the only way my husband and I get any peace. We have 6 cats and they all have their spot on the bed. Our most active cat sleeps with my arm around her with her head on my chest. She needs to feel my skin before she'll settle down and sleep. She's like a human baby. Lol. The rest of them have their favorite spot as well.