I love my 2 cats but they just moved in a couple of weeks ago, and they are scared of my husband. One was doing better until last night. The other one is especially a scaredy cat. My husband seems to take this personal and thinks that the cat doesn't like him. He just needed time to adjust, they haven't been around other people very much.
The other day the scared one got into the bedroom and got shut in for awhile. I found him, and fixed the carpet that he tore up trying to get out. I missed that he had made a mess on my husbands side of the bed. My husband was already in a bad mood and freaked out and said that it was personal and was going to kill the cat. Luckily he didn't know where that cat hid so I got to the cat first. The other one just got yelled at, but I couldn't get to her because I was protecting the scared one. We would probably both be in jail if he hadn't calmed down, I wasn't going to let it happen, I just don't know if I am physically able to stop him. I couldn't have even taken it if he had just yelled at the cat, the cat is scared to death, and it would make no sense to any cat why some crazy person was yelling at them for something they did several hours ago. I don't understand why he can't understand that the cat is just scared, and that is not the way you deal with any animal.
He doesn't understand this cat at all. He thinks he is dumb because he is scared. He is actually an extremely smart cat. I think he is jealous of the cats too. It breaks my heart to give them away, I have had them since they were kittens. They are the sweetest cats ever. They got me through a very rough time in my life when I was extremely depressed.
I still have the old house, so I took them with me this morning and left them at the old house while I went to work to keep them safe.
These cats have been with me since they were kittens. They follow me everywhere I go like puppy dogs.. Are these kinds of cats able to bond with new people?
Or has anyone had good luck retraining a husband to understand animal behavior?
The other day the scared one got into the bedroom and got shut in for awhile. I found him, and fixed the carpet that he tore up trying to get out. I missed that he had made a mess on my husbands side of the bed. My husband was already in a bad mood and freaked out and said that it was personal and was going to kill the cat. Luckily he didn't know where that cat hid so I got to the cat first. The other one just got yelled at, but I couldn't get to her because I was protecting the scared one. We would probably both be in jail if he hadn't calmed down, I wasn't going to let it happen, I just don't know if I am physically able to stop him. I couldn't have even taken it if he had just yelled at the cat, the cat is scared to death, and it would make no sense to any cat why some crazy person was yelling at them for something they did several hours ago. I don't understand why he can't understand that the cat is just scared, and that is not the way you deal with any animal.
He doesn't understand this cat at all. He thinks he is dumb because he is scared. He is actually an extremely smart cat. I think he is jealous of the cats too. It breaks my heart to give them away, I have had them since they were kittens. They are the sweetest cats ever. They got me through a very rough time in my life when I was extremely depressed.
I still have the old house, so I took them with me this morning and left them at the old house while I went to work to keep them safe.
These cats have been with me since they were kittens. They follow me everywhere I go like puppy dogs.. Are these kinds of cats able to bond with new people?
Or has anyone had good luck retraining a husband to understand animal behavior?