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chelley06

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Hello! New here and searching for advice. I am stuck between my heart and my brain. A year ago my ex and I split up and with me came the cats. Together we have 4 wonderful cats. I now live in a basement apartment in the city. Where before I lived in a house in the country. To survive alone I have to work 55+ hours a week and come home only to sleep. The boys are alone all day everyday and I don't feel that I can give them the care they need. I've been struggling with the thought of taking them to a shelter to find homes for them where they will have a family to be there for them. I know they have each other when they are alone but I don't think that's enough.
Should I be finding them a new home? Please help
 

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I know you are concerned that your cats are alone too much, but how is everything else going for them? Are you able to get them to the vets when necessary? Are you able to keep up with various protective flea treatments and heartworm pills? Are you having trouble making sure they have enough food?

As I see it, 4 cats hanging out in an apartment for 55+ hours a week isn't terrible to them. Cats are fairly independent and with 4 in your house they have each other to entertain themselves. So if the sole reason you are thinking of rehoming them is because you're concerned that your lack of presence is a problem for them - it's not. Take a peek on strays and ferals - they live full lives with minimal human interaction.

If there is more to this than that and you really think rehoming is necessary - please don't put them in a shelter. Put the word out and try to find them a home yourself. Shelters are over burdened as it is and in my eyes, priority should go to cats that have been abandoned, dumped, and surrendered rather than cats who have a great home, but aren't necessarily wanted. If you don't want to own them any more don't you want to do right by them and find them great new homes and you can live without the regret?
 
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chelley06

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Thank you for responding :( sadly there is more going towards this decision than just not being around for them. If any of them needed medication or a vet visit I couldn't provide that for them. I struggle to buy them food and litter but put them first. They always have what they need even if I go without. I haven't made my decision yet but the shelter here is wonderful but if I can find homes for them first then that would be the best.
 

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Oh, I'm so sorry. That really is sad. Don't feel horrible though. I know it's a tough situation, but at least you are doing the best you can for them. It's a shame your ex didn't take one or two of them to help share the responsibility, but at least you stepped up to the plate. You should be proud of yourself for that!
 

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Is your ex interested at all in helping you?  Since the two of you had them together, I would think he would have some sort of responsibility or attachment to them.  Or at least be concerned about their well being. 
 
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No he cant help me. He has no where for them to go
 
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