Somebody talked about having a relationship thread so since I'm having a problem now.. might as well start one..
..What does he want actually???
I've got a crush on this guy at work.. some of those who chat with me on the MSN would know.. he's always been giving me mixed signals and stuff like that.. so I have left it that way.. I'll let him be when he gives me some attitude and stuff like that.. I try not to concentrate on him but more of myself. He told me recently that he's got a girlfriend and he's trying to work things out with her.. I was shattered but fine.. i give you my blessings... he would tell me about his problems with her and his work and I'm supposed to be listening... * well, I was...*
So Sunday he sent me a message out of the blue on my mobile, asking if I'm busy or anything.. he said he's bored and life is depresssing for him... ok... like who's life is not...
so he was asking if there's any nice place for a drink or anything.. I suggested some places but he really didn't sound right.. I was in town and offered to meet up if he wanted.. he took the offer and we sat down and talked for an hr plus about his life and his girlfriend...
it turns out, this girlfriend of his is something that happens only on weekends.. he hangs around at her place over the weekend and during weekdays, they are pretty much apart, despite the fact that they work in the same office.. so now, he gets frustrated with her for certain things and decides to call it the end... ok.. that's what he claims he said... cos this girl was a problem herself and things like that.. ok.. i have to admit, this lady sounds like somebody who is easy and is prob out for a fling... I bet he is too...
so I asked him, do you really want things to work out? if you do, then sit down and talk over things... his reluctance to talk over things made me kinda sure this might very well be the end of the relationship....
i got home after the talk, feeling slightly puzzled.. after knowing him for the past couple of months, he has never really asked me out for a drink or a dinner, something out of work related matters... now that he does, it feels weird and given his character, he could have easily chosen somebody else rather than me... I have this huge question in mind now.. what does he take me for? somebody who can replace his girlfriend when he has a fight with or what?
I'm sorry that this is so long...but this problem has been there for a long while and all that signals he gave me and all... it's prob giving me a swell head if not something more... any advice would be welcome...
..What does he want actually???
I've got a crush on this guy at work.. some of those who chat with me on the MSN would know.. he's always been giving me mixed signals and stuff like that.. so I have left it that way.. I'll let him be when he gives me some attitude and stuff like that.. I try not to concentrate on him but more of myself. He told me recently that he's got a girlfriend and he's trying to work things out with her.. I was shattered but fine.. i give you my blessings... he would tell me about his problems with her and his work and I'm supposed to be listening... * well, I was...*
So Sunday he sent me a message out of the blue on my mobile, asking if I'm busy or anything.. he said he's bored and life is depresssing for him... ok... like who's life is not...
it turns out, this girlfriend of his is something that happens only on weekends.. he hangs around at her place over the weekend and during weekdays, they are pretty much apart, despite the fact that they work in the same office.. so now, he gets frustrated with her for certain things and decides to call it the end... ok.. that's what he claims he said... cos this girl was a problem herself and things like that.. ok.. i have to admit, this lady sounds like somebody who is easy and is prob out for a fling... I bet he is too...
i got home after the talk, feeling slightly puzzled.. after knowing him for the past couple of months, he has never really asked me out for a drink or a dinner, something out of work related matters... now that he does, it feels weird and given his character, he could have easily chosen somebody else rather than me... I have this huge question in mind now.. what does he take me for? somebody who can replace his girlfriend when he has a fight with or what?
I'm sorry that this is so long...but this problem has been there for a long while and all that signals he gave me and all... it's prob giving me a swell head if not something more... any advice would be welcome...