Heavy Heart

ozlem64 · Mar 9, 2016

Still have a heavy heart a month after losing our 18 yr old ginger boy

it's hard to come to grips with having him for so long and being the cause of his demise (my hubby accidentally hit him pulling up to our driveway and he never recovered)

I wonder if he is upset with us or disappointed in us? All these feelings are surfacing now. A friend of mine told me not to worry and that cats know when it's time for them to go and start doing strange things. I sometimes think he probably preferred to go by our hands rather than from illness or from someone else hitting him. He had kidney problems and a few other issues as well

wherever he is, I'm sure he is fine and being cared for by loved ones up there

xx

Kat0121 · Mar 9, 2016

Ozlem64 said:
Still have a heavy heart a month after losing our 18 yr old ginger boy

it's hard to come to grips with having him for so long and being the cause of his demise (my hubby accidentally hit him pulling up to our driveway and he never recovered)

I wonder if he is upset with us or disappointed in us? All these feelings are surfacing now. A friend of mine told me not to worry and that cats know when it's time for them to go and start doing strange things. I sometimes think he probably preferred to go by our hands rather than from illness or from someone else hitting him. He had kidney problems and a few other issues as well

wherever he is, I'm sure he is fine and being cared for by loved ones up there

xx

I'm so sorry for your loss. How awful.

No. He is not upset with you and he is not disappointed in you. Why would he be? He had a long life full of unconditional love and friendship. What happened was an accident. Neither of you would ever have done anything to him on purpose. He knows that. He still loves you just as much as he always has and he always will. The day will come when he will tell you this himself. I agree. I think he made it across the bridge in record time and is being cared for and is happily playing with old and new friends. Don't beat yourselves up about this. You do not deserve it. It was no one's fault. Accidents happen to the best of us. He doesn't blame you and you shouldn't either.

RIP sweet kitty

zed xyzed · Mar 9, 2016

He knew you loved him, it was an accident. For him to live to 18 he must have been loved and taken care of. I am sorry for your loss and your pain

ozlem64 · Mar 9, 2016

Zed Xyzed said:
He knew you loved him, it was an accident. For him to live to 18 he must have been loved and taken care of. I am sorry for your loss and your pain
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Thank you so much xxx

ozlem64 · Mar 9, 2016

Kat0121 said:
I'm so sorry for your loss. How awful.

No. He is not upset with you and he is not disappointed in you. Why would he be? He had a long life full of unconditional love and friendship. What happened was an accident. Neither of you would ever have done anything to him on purpose. He knows that. He still loves you just as much as he always has and he always will. The day will come when he will tell you this himself. I agree. I think he made it across the bridge in record time and is being cared for and is happily playing with old and new friends. Don't beat yourselves up about this. You do not deserve it. It was no one's fault. Accidents happen to the best of us. He doesn't blame you and you shouldn't either.

RIP sweet kitty

Thank you so much for your comforting words you beautiful person. God bless you xxx

di and bob · Mar 10, 2016

I know of the horrible guilt and pain of losing your little one like you did, I crossed the street and didn't know my little girl followed me. I don't honestly know how I got through those first months, the nightmares of seeing her tiny body in that street are still with me. Your husband is going through his own kind of hell, and even though it was an accident, there are all those should haves, could haves, that bring nothing but misery. You have got to remember that your sweet baby would never hold anything against you, he loved you unconditionally, so why should you have so much blame for something that was beyond your control? He would never want you to be so unhappy, he loved you too much to see you in such pain. Do something in his name, pay for another animal's adoption, buy pet food for someone who is barely making it, leave a donation at your vet's office to help someone in need, and do it all in your ginger boy's name. Try to celebrate the eighteen years you had together, not dwell on the end. He is at peace now, at rest knowing he was so loved and will never be forgotten. We have to live our lives here on this earth fully, and with joy, our sweet little ones would want no less for us. Remember, they are in our hearts now and we must make that a place full of sunshine and joy which they loved so much. I truly feel for your husband, I know the agony he is going through and can only say that time is the only thing that finally softens the pain, and keeping busy and distracted is what kept my sanity. I felt born again when I found this site and started to offer what comfort I could to others. In the agony we go through, any words of understanding and the feelings of shared pain helped tremendously, we all have to feel that we are not alone and that someone cares and can hopefully offer ways to cope with what we are going through. It's something that changes you forever, and we all have to learn to live our lives again, to pick up the pieces and start to put them back together, one piece and one day at a time. I cry with you for our pain and our loss. I'll say a special, prayer for you all, you are good people and have good hearts, bless you both for hurting so bad from loving so much. Your sweet ginger boy is at peace, let him comfort you with your memories of happier times.

nurseangel · Mar 11, 2016

He was blessed to have such a loving home. He knew that neither of you would ever want to harm him. Not for anything in the world. It was a accident.

little cutie66 · Mar 12, 2016

I know the pain your feeling. His in peace. One day we will all be together again. Just know how lucky how many beautiful years you had with him. He had a long loving life. Time will heal all our pain in our hearts. Big hugs.

ericsmom1000 · Mar 12, 2016

There are so many cats who have never had loving homes, and do the best they can living on the streets. Others die unwanted at the shelters. Your cat had a loving family for 18 years. He was one of the lucky fur babies. Please do not blame yourselves for what happened. Your cat is healthy and at peace in heaven. He holds nothing against you. He does not want you to beat yourselves up, and be miserable. He loves you, and that's all that matters. My deepest condolences on your loss.

ozlem64 · Mar 12, 2016

thank you so much xxx

ozlem64 · Mar 12, 2016

Thank you so sweet and kind you are xxx

ozlem64 · Mar 12, 2016

Di and Bob said:
I know of the horrible guilt and pain of losing your little one like you did, I crossed the street and didn't know my little girl followed me. I don't honestly know how I got through those first months, the nightmares of seeing her tiny body in that street are still with me. Your husband is going through his own kind of hell, and even though it was an accident, there are all those should haves, could haves, that bring nothing but misery. You have got to remember that your sweet baby would never hold anything against you, he loved you unconditionally, so why should you have so much blame for something that was beyond your control? He would never want you to be so unhappy, he loved you too much to see you in such pain. Do something in his name, pay for another animal's adoption, buy pet food for someone who is barely making it, leave a donation at your vet's office to help someone in need, and do it all in your ginger boy's name. Try to celebrate the eighteen years you had together, not dwell on the end. He is at peace now, at rest knowing he was so loved and will never be forgotten. We have to live our lives here on this earth fully, and with joy, our sweet little ones would want no less for us. Remember, they are in our hearts now and we must make that a place full of sunshine and joy which they loved so much. I truly feel for your husband, I know the agony he is going through and can only say that time is the only thing that finally softens the pain, and keeping busy and distracted is what kept my sanity. I felt born again when I found this site and started to offer what comfort I could to others. In the agony we go through, any words of understanding and the feelings of shared pain helped tremendously, we all have to feel that we are not alone and that someone cares and can hopefully offer ways to cope with what we are going through. It's something that changes you forever, and we all have to learn to live our lives again, to pick up the pieces and start to put them back together, one piece and one day at a time. I cry with you for our pain and our loss. I'll say a special, prayer for you all, you are good people and have good hearts, bless you both for hurting so bad from loving so much. Your sweet ginger boy is at peace, let him comfort you with your memories of happier times.

Thank you so much for your beautiful sentiments xxx

ozlem64 · Mar 12, 2016

Thank you all so much for the great support and comfort you have all given mad since the loss of our boy. Sending you all love and blessings xxx

ozlem64 · Mar 12, 2016

Ozlem64 said:
Thank you all so much for the great support and comfort you have all given mad since the loss of our boy. Sending you all love and blessings xxx

'me' not 'mad'

xxx

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