I was playing with Casper last night and I noticed some behavior that makes me think.
Casper has always been partial to his girl-human but has been skittish around me, the guy-human. He'll sit on her lap and purr while she pets him an holds him but it's a rare day when he even sits on the sofa beside me. He'll sit up on his haunches and ask for a scratch behind the ears from her but, for me, a head butt or a scritch behind the ear is the best I get.
If I walk in the room, it's "all eyes on me." If she walks in the room, he might lay down, roll over and beg for a pat on the tummy, I've tried lying on the floor, facing away at 45° and pretending to ignore him. I've done the "slow blink" with him. I give him his kitty cookies every morning and pet him. I play laser tag with him at night, after dinner. He is warming up to me, gradually, but there still seems to be something that just isn't quite right.
Maybe Casper is a "one person cat." I'm okay with that. Lots of cats are like that. Mostly normal. I just feel bad that he gets so wired up whenever I'm around.
Last night, it was time for Casper to have some catnip. Casper is a catnip feind! I've never seen a cat who gets off on catnip so much! He would put his head in the jar and just eat the whole thing if I let him!
Anyhow, I got the bright idea to rub it all over my hands and offer his catnip in-hand instead of putting it on the floor in his play area. For the first time in the three months since we adopted him, Casper engaged in hand play!
Background: I grew up around dogs and cats, since I was a kid. I can "rough house" with a hundred pound dog. Spike, the former cat, weighed in at 20-plus pounds. He liked to rough house, too. Spike didn't take any bull from anybody. Long story short; I don't have a problem taking a couple scratches and nips from playing with a cat.
Anyhow, I let Casper nibble on my fingers a bit. He would sniff and lick and paw at me.
I was really, really careful to hold my hands steady and not make any threatening moves. Just move my hands slowly and wiggle my fingers a little bit.
Next, he did something that made me go, "Hmmm?"
He would play bite my hands but IMMEDIATELY cower and try to run away.
He didn't bite very hard. Just nibbling and gnawing. Again, I purposely didn't try to pull away.
Casper would bite then instantly cower. Ten seconds later, he came back for another sniff of catnip and the cycle would start over... Sniff... Lick... Bite... Cower. This happened a good dozen times over a ten minute span. (Until Casper's senses got dulled from the catnip.)
This all makes me wonder if there was a man-human in Casper's former life who abused him and punished him just for being a cat and doing "normal cat things."
What do you guys think?
Do you think I should wash my hands with catnip and let him play bit me again? I'd like to help him feel safe around a man-human but I also don't want to teach him to bite the proverbial hand that feeds him, either.
I know that getting used to new humans is a gradual process, especially when a former human was mean to him. Casper is settling in well. I just want him to know that this man-human isn't going to punish him just for acting like a cat.
What are your opinions? Advice?
T.I.A!
Casper has always been partial to his girl-human but has been skittish around me, the guy-human. He'll sit on her lap and purr while she pets him an holds him but it's a rare day when he even sits on the sofa beside me. He'll sit up on his haunches and ask for a scratch behind the ears from her but, for me, a head butt or a scritch behind the ear is the best I get.
If I walk in the room, it's "all eyes on me." If she walks in the room, he might lay down, roll over and beg for a pat on the tummy, I've tried lying on the floor, facing away at 45° and pretending to ignore him. I've done the "slow blink" with him. I give him his kitty cookies every morning and pet him. I play laser tag with him at night, after dinner. He is warming up to me, gradually, but there still seems to be something that just isn't quite right.
Maybe Casper is a "one person cat." I'm okay with that. Lots of cats are like that. Mostly normal. I just feel bad that he gets so wired up whenever I'm around.
Last night, it was time for Casper to have some catnip. Casper is a catnip feind! I've never seen a cat who gets off on catnip so much! He would put his head in the jar and just eat the whole thing if I let him!
Anyhow, I got the bright idea to rub it all over my hands and offer his catnip in-hand instead of putting it on the floor in his play area. For the first time in the three months since we adopted him, Casper engaged in hand play!
Background: I grew up around dogs and cats, since I was a kid. I can "rough house" with a hundred pound dog. Spike, the former cat, weighed in at 20-plus pounds. He liked to rough house, too. Spike didn't take any bull from anybody. Long story short; I don't have a problem taking a couple scratches and nips from playing with a cat.
Anyhow, I let Casper nibble on my fingers a bit. He would sniff and lick and paw at me.
I was really, really careful to hold my hands steady and not make any threatening moves. Just move my hands slowly and wiggle my fingers a little bit.
Next, he did something that made me go, "Hmmm?"
He would play bite my hands but IMMEDIATELY cower and try to run away.
He didn't bite very hard. Just nibbling and gnawing. Again, I purposely didn't try to pull away.
Casper would bite then instantly cower. Ten seconds later, he came back for another sniff of catnip and the cycle would start over... Sniff... Lick... Bite... Cower. This happened a good dozen times over a ten minute span. (Until Casper's senses got dulled from the catnip.)
This all makes me wonder if there was a man-human in Casper's former life who abused him and punished him just for being a cat and doing "normal cat things."
What do you guys think?
Do you think I should wash my hands with catnip and let him play bit me again? I'd like to help him feel safe around a man-human but I also don't want to teach him to bite the proverbial hand that feeds him, either.
I know that getting used to new humans is a gradual process, especially when a former human was mean to him. Casper is settling in well. I just want him to know that this man-human isn't going to punish him just for acting like a cat.
What are your opinions? Advice?
T.I.A!