Hi, I am in a bit of a predicament. I met a guy about 4 months ago and we started dating. He treats me well, he is very smart, and we have a lot in common. The only problem is that my sister and brother do not approve of him. They are very involved in my personal life and that is something I am not comfortable with. I believe they do not approve of him because of his appearance. The fact that he says he is successful in life (keep in mind my family is shallow and likes money) but he doesn't seem to dress the part tells them that he is no good and there is something shady about him.
I don't care whether or not he is rich, I believe he is a good man. However, he doesn't want me to go this place yet because he has a child and he says he isn't ready to bring me around his child, not until he is sure me and him are going to stay together. He also gives me the reason that his senior father lives with him and he is a very religious man who wouldn't approve of him bringing a very new girlfriend to his pace. My sister keeps saying these are not valuable reasons because his son is not home all the time. Even though he has shown countless times that he is a good person, they still don't want to hear it. My brother thinks his story is bizarre because He says he has a car but he takes uber/walks most of the time, the only time I saw him drive was a crappy car he bought at an auction "to fix". Me and him broke up twice in one week. The 1st time was because I kept insisting on going to his place or he wouldn't be allowed to come to mine anymore (this was my sister whispering these things) but then we got back together. The 2nd time was because he saw that my sister didn't like him and when he was at my place she kept on calling me and screaming at me, telling me to make him leave. I told her I am a grown up and I make my own decisions. He heard it all apparently and the next day he told me he didn't want to come between my and my family and he thought it best for us to go our separate ways. What do I do? I really like this guy and I have been miserable since we broke up. Now we started talking again and I don't know what direction to take.
I don't care whether or not he is rich, I believe he is a good man. However, he doesn't want me to go this place yet because he has a child and he says he isn't ready to bring me around his child, not until he is sure me and him are going to stay together. He also gives me the reason that his senior father lives with him and he is a very religious man who wouldn't approve of him bringing a very new girlfriend to his pace. My sister keeps saying these are not valuable reasons because his son is not home all the time. Even though he has shown countless times that he is a good person, they still don't want to hear it. My brother thinks his story is bizarre because He says he has a car but he takes uber/walks most of the time, the only time I saw him drive was a crappy car he bought at an auction "to fix". Me and him broke up twice in one week. The 1st time was because I kept insisting on going to his place or he wouldn't be allowed to come to mine anymore (this was my sister whispering these things) but then we got back together. The 2nd time was because he saw that my sister didn't like him and when he was at my place she kept on calling me and screaming at me, telling me to make him leave. I told her I am a grown up and I make my own decisions. He heard it all apparently and the next day he told me he didn't want to come between my and my family and he thought it best for us to go our separate ways. What do I do? I really like this guy and I have been miserable since we broke up. Now we started talking again and I don't know what direction to take.