Hey guys new here name is Jay. A quick run down of my situation. My male cat spike is pushing 14 yrs, he was brought into the house as a kitten and was introduced to our female cat who is now 2 years deceased :'( the introduction took 2 months and was not easy but over time worked out great.
FFW to October my wife happened to look out back and called me to the door, there was what looked like a kitten chasing a chipmunk through the shrubs.. I called to it and it started to run away but quickly changed its mind and came to the door. She was very skittish but I offered her a plate of food since she looked starved. 15 minuets later shes sitting at the back door with one eye sealed shut her paw looked like it was hurting her and she was covered in ticks and fleas. That night it was supposed to rain so i made her a box and decided to take her to the vet if she didnt leave... after I cleaned all the ticks and got rid of the fleas I took her to the vet to check for a chip, I posted signs around the neighborhood and online and no one responded. Since she wouldn't leave the yard, followed me everywhere I went and we had a hurricane foretasted we decided we needed to take her in. So we got her shots, ear cream for her ringworm, eye drops, paw looked at and finally we got her spay and tested for the baddies. This whole time she was separated from our cat Spike in a separate room while we waited for test result .
FFW to NOV.. She was very small when we brought her in ribs showing and all but not a kitten she is roughly 1 1/2 to 2 the vet says just starving. Spike is over 18 lbs and not fat he is large and doesn't know it hes scared of everything Now we followed all the scent association slow introduction ect and spike was not feeling it at all. At one point while we were out I came home to see she was able to move the gate we had separating them (no idea how) and we found her on top of our bed sitting on spike under the covers hissing. She was trying to play and spike was running for his life. We separated them again for a few days then started trying to work at it. Any time he heard her door open he would run and hide. Little by little we would be able to get him to peak in while she was i a carry crate but if on a leash he was gone.
FFW to current almost 5 months... we can have her in the carry crate (which she loves to be in) and spike will sit with us on the couch. They will eat treats a few feet from each other as long as shes in the cage but eventually one of them hisses and spike runs away. If we have her on the leash (sitting on the couch) he will walk in the room and get a little skittish but she goes into play mode right away getting low like she wants to pounce and he slowly leaves the room. I am afraid to just let them hash it out and ruin all the progress we have made. Spike runs and hides under the couch or in a corner where he cant escape when hes scared and she might get him pinned. If he decided to actually fight back he might hurt her bad.
Soooo If, when and how should I let her free to roam or are there any further steps I can take to ease this transition. I have read everywhere "do not let them just fight it out" which as a kid thats what my family did just threw them in and they figured it out... They will probably never be friends but I cant let her go now I am too attached... Im just hoping for a non hostile home... Thank you so much in advance and sorry for the long winded question Ive done a lot of reading the past few months and finally i just need some advice.
FFW to October my wife happened to look out back and called me to the door, there was what looked like a kitten chasing a chipmunk through the shrubs.. I called to it and it started to run away but quickly changed its mind and came to the door. She was very skittish but I offered her a plate of food since she looked starved. 15 minuets later shes sitting at the back door with one eye sealed shut her paw looked like it was hurting her and she was covered in ticks and fleas. That night it was supposed to rain so i made her a box and decided to take her to the vet if she didnt leave... after I cleaned all the ticks and got rid of the fleas I took her to the vet to check for a chip, I posted signs around the neighborhood and online and no one responded. Since she wouldn't leave the yard, followed me everywhere I went and we had a hurricane foretasted we decided we needed to take her in. So we got her shots, ear cream for her ringworm, eye drops, paw looked at and finally we got her spay and tested for the baddies. This whole time she was separated from our cat Spike in a separate room while we waited for test result .
FFW to NOV.. She was very small when we brought her in ribs showing and all but not a kitten she is roughly 1 1/2 to 2 the vet says just starving. Spike is over 18 lbs and not fat he is large and doesn't know it hes scared of everything Now we followed all the scent association slow introduction ect and spike was not feeling it at all. At one point while we were out I came home to see she was able to move the gate we had separating them (no idea how) and we found her on top of our bed sitting on spike under the covers hissing. She was trying to play and spike was running for his life. We separated them again for a few days then started trying to work at it. Any time he heard her door open he would run and hide. Little by little we would be able to get him to peak in while she was i a carry crate but if on a leash he was gone.
FFW to current almost 5 months... we can have her in the carry crate (which she loves to be in) and spike will sit with us on the couch. They will eat treats a few feet from each other as long as shes in the cage but eventually one of them hisses and spike runs away. If we have her on the leash (sitting on the couch) he will walk in the room and get a little skittish but she goes into play mode right away getting low like she wants to pounce and he slowly leaves the room. I am afraid to just let them hash it out and ruin all the progress we have made. Spike runs and hides under the couch or in a corner where he cant escape when hes scared and she might get him pinned. If he decided to actually fight back he might hurt her bad.
Soooo If, when and how should I let her free to roam or are there any further steps I can take to ease this transition. I have read everywhere "do not let them just fight it out" which as a kid thats what my family did just threw them in and they figured it out... They will probably never be friends but I cant let her go now I am too attached... Im just hoping for a non hostile home... Thank you so much in advance and sorry for the long winded question Ive done a lot of reading the past few months and finally i just need some advice.