I hear ya! Priorities do change over time! My mother took her ring from my Dad and had the stone changed to my birthstone. I have that ring now. The wedding band matched and I've always wanted to have a sapphire put in that so Mom and I could have matching rings. Maybe someday it'll get done.
I agree about being reasonable about cost. The budget is seriously low this time around due to him being in school full time but I think we can eak out a decent piece around or just under a carat - possibly just over depending on the cut. Priorities, you know?
I was considering selling my other (larger) stone to help pay. I can afford it, and we're both really egalitarian in how we view relationships. It isn't like I *need* that diamond and I couldn't figure out what to do with it anyway. I know I won't get much for it - reselling not cost effective at all but I'd rather put that whatever amount of money into the ring Tom is buying, than hold onto something that reminds me of a failed relationship, you know? Could mean the difference between a setting I am ok with and one which I really love.
There are so many other things which money should be spent on and while I admire those who have larger rings, it isn't for me anymore. It's more the symbolism which matters (hence why I like the heart shape), not what was spent. I have an old house that's a money pit ROFL - that's where the money goes
Perhaps some day, he'll write that book he always has hoped to and then he can buy me something I really want. IDK even what that might be (cat sanctuary?) but we have time to figure it out. I think, this one will stick; we're both getting too old to change partners again
I think selling off the other ring/stone is worth considering. I have seen some things about engagement rings for guys becoming a growing trend. So I don't see contributing as anything different. Especially if it's just gathering dust. If your not in a hurry; I'm sure the right ring will come along. The looking might be half the fun!
